No more eating in the comfy chair!
 

For many months, I took a different route to work so I wouldn't have to
drive by the Krispy Kreme. Nowadays, I still feel the pull when I drive
by, but at least the car no longer swerves as though of its own volition.

KK was not your problem. You were/are.

On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 14:41:28 +0000 (UTC), Daniel Hoffmeister wrote:

We are obviously not literally blaming the recliner or KK or anything in
particular. My point was that if you want to break an undesirable habit
that you have acquired through many, many repetitions, you need to
recognize what the triggers are. Then you can try to come up with
creative ways that make it easier for you to succeed in breaking that
habit by avoiding the triggers.

I agree. It is you not a piece of Luna's furniture that necessarily is
responsible. Now one can eliminate these "triggers but other triggers
await. Not until one changes the whole scheme, the attitude, import

I've found that instead of saying "I'm the problem" and blaming myself for
my failings, it's far better not to dwell on it but to apply my energies
to devising and implementing solutions.

That will work...for awhile. In the end, you will have to confront
yourself, your personal weaknesses and failures and determine what is
innately wrong with *you*.....once you determine that, then solutions
applied are no longer guesses, they are actual solutions. You're dealing
with a lot of guesses, throwing solutions at yet to be determined problems.

It's not what's going on outside of you, or Luna, or me, it is what's going
on inside. That is where the problems lie and therein lies the potential
for devising a real set of solutions.

Anyone who's ever pursued a
sports seriously will recognize this attitude - it's the one that
distinguishes those who can shrug off mistakes, learn from them, and play
on and those who are thrown off their game.

Well, Dan, I offer you a story you can relate. In high school, I missed the
front end of a one and one. Against our biggest rival. Freshmen mistake.
Cost us the game. In practice, and in games, I was 85% + from the line.

So I practiced and practiced free throws and one day, I thought, ok, maybe
now I am good enough to be 89% from the line. What have I accomplished? Not
much at all.

I remembered walking to the free throw stripe and thinking "It isn't that
big a deal if I miss" giving myself an easy out in case I did. I did. I had
sealed my own destiny.

Truth was, it was a very, very big deal especially to me. In my heart, I
lacked the courage. It was inside of me, not an athletic, external failure.

Recognizing that, I quit shooting ungodly amounts of free throws and went
to work on my head. Inside of me.

Once I identified the real problem, inside of me, the rest was effort with
purpose; applying real solutions that addressed the real problem. Inside of
me.

The End

For many months, I took a different route to work so I wouldn't have to
drive by the Krispy Kreme. Nowadays, I still feel the pull when I drive
by, but at least the car no longer swerves as though of its own volition.

KK was not your problem. You were/are.

On Wed, 18 Aug 2004 14:41:28 +0000 (UTC), Daniel Hoffmeister wrote:

We are obviously not literally blaming the recliner or KK or anything in
particular. My point was that if you want to break an undesirable habit
that you have acquired through many, many repetitions, you need to
recognize what the triggers are. Then you can try to come up with
creative ways that make it easier for you to succeed in breaking that
habit by avoiding the triggers.

I agree. It is you not a piece of Luna's furniture that necessarily is
responsible. Now one can eliminate these "triggers but other triggers
await. Not until one changes the whole scheme, the attitude, import

I've found that instead of saying "I'm the problem" and blaming myself for
my failings, it's far better not to dwell on it but to apply my energies
to devising and implementing solutions.

That will work...for awhile. In the end, you will have to confront
yourself, your personal weaknesses and failures and determine what is
innately wrong with *you*.....once you determine that, then solutions
applied are no longer guesses, they are actual solutions. You're dealing
with a lot of guesses, throwing solutions at yet to be determined problems.

It's not what's going on outside of you, or Luna, or me, it is what's going
on inside. That is where the problems lie and therein lies the potential
for devising a real set of solutions.

Anyone who's ever pursued a
sports seriously will recognize this attitude - it's the one that
distinguishes those who can shrug off mistakes, learn from them, and play
on and those who are thrown off their game.

Well, Dan, I offer you a story you can relate. In high school, I missed the
front end of a one and one. Against our biggest rival. Freshmen mistake.
Cost us the game. In practice, and in games, I was 85% + from the line.

So I practiced and practiced free throws and one day, I thought, ok, maybe
now I am good enough to be 89% from the line. What have I accomplished? Not
much at all.

I remembered walking to the free throw stripe and thinking "It isn't that
big a deal if I miss" giving myself an easy out in case I did. I did. I had
sealed my own destiny.

Truth was, it was a very, very big deal especially to me. In my heart, I
lacked the courage. It was inside of me, not an athletic, external failure.

Recognizing that, I quit shooting ungodly amounts of free throws and went
to work on my head. Inside of me.

Once I identified the real problem, inside of me, the rest was effort with
purpose; applying real solutions that addressed the real problem. Inside of
me.

The End