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This is a great board for me because it helps me to deal with my two great enemies in weight loss. They a

1) Resentment; and

2) Doubt;

Resentment is the worst. If I don't come to this board I feel as if all the world is feasting and never gaining a pound. The happy people eat with abandon and are slim, well built and popular. And me, I step out of line one tiny little bit and wham, it is big belly time. It seems so unfair, until I realize that it is only my fantasy that is my torture. In reality many people are challenged with weight loss. Sure there are a few who seem to have an easy time of it. But I am far from alone.

Perhaps doubt is not quite the right word, but it is connected with resentment. It is the thought and feeling: "Ohhhh, it won't make a difference anyway." And here, feeling the common struggle, I realize that it very well can make a difference. Others are struggling just like me. Some are trying similar tactics (I see a fair number of frequent eaters here) and having some success.

So, I am happy to have found this board.

On Fri, 1 Jul 2005 18:15:44 +0000, Glycemic
wrote:


This is a great board for me because it helps me to deal with my two
great enemies in weight loss. They a

1) Resentment; and

2) Doubt;

Resentment is the worst. If I don't come to this board I feel as if all
the world is feasting and never gaining a pound. The happy people eat
with abandon and are slim, well built and popular. And me, I step out
of line one tiny little bit and wham, it is big belly time. It seems so
unfair, until I realize that it is only my fantasy that is my torture.
In reality many people are challenged with weight loss. Sure there are
a few who seem to have an easy time of it. But I am far from alone.

Perhaps doubt is not quite the right word, but it is connected with
resentment. It is the thought and feeling: "Ohhhh, it won't make a
difference anyway." And here, feeling the common struggle, I realize
that it very well can make a difference. Others are struggling just
like me. Some are trying similar tactics (I see a fair number of
frequent eaters here) and having some success.

So, I am happy to have found this board.

I'm glad you found us :-). Welcome. It's a good group (despite the
usual occasional trolls, of course).

Chris
262/130s/130s
started dieting July 2002, maintaining since June 2004

In article , Glycemic
wrote:


This is a great board for me because it helps me to deal with my two
great
enemies in weight loss. They a

1) Resentment; and

2) Doubt;

I hear where you are coming from, but life is a struggle and some
normal or thin weight people have other problems.

Happiness is a choice one can make.

--
Diva
*****
The Best Man For The Job Is A Woman

In article ,
Glycemic wrote:

I feel as if all
the world is feasting and never gaining a pound. The happy people eat
with abandon and are slim, well built and popular. And me, I step out
of line one tiny little bit and wham, it is big belly time. It seems so
unfair, until I realize that it is only my fantasy that is my torture.

It sure is a fantasy (albeit a negative one). Yes, many people are
eating with abandon. Are they popular? Well built? Maybe, maybe not. Who
cares?
Resentment is a corrosive feeling. It really needs to be tamped down,
with reason, if nothing else. You have no way of knowing anything about
people's lives or feelings, only that you see someone eating who isn't
fat. That's a fact, but the rest is personal issues and projection,
which feel lousy and don't help you to treat yourself right and well.

I remember once envying a couple in the brunch line on a Sunday morning.
Ah, they're lovers, they had a great Saturday night, everyone has
someone but me, etc. etc. We ended up sharing a table, and it turned out
that he was gay and they were roommates and she hadn't had a boyfriend
in some time. They were good friends. Brunch was good.

And so on.

This board is helpful in many ways.

Ilene B
227/221/220

Ig

I used to pickup & deliver the mail in our organization, so I would take
pictures while on deliveries during special days or holidays, and make
albums on CD compiled with pictures that others had taken, and I noticed
some people seemed to always have food in their mouths. They were thin
too!!! It was due to their constant gdazing that they stayed thin. Others
would joke about it, saying "look at so & so, she's always eating", and they
weren't kidding.

I started the same regimen and have been able to loose considerable weight.
I don't eat lots of fatty foods, just lots of vegetables & fruit or cereal
in the morning hours while at my desk. Lunch is more conventional, but it
is still healthy; a salad, accompanied by some "prepared at home" entrees,
limited breads (they don't call the gut the "bread basket" for nothing) and
then finish the work day with a piece of fresh fruit around 3:00 P.M. at my
desk. So, my diet seems to consist of high carbs early in the day,
graduating to more complex carbs & some protein mid-day, and more protein &
less complex carbs in the evening at home.

I make great meals on weekends, and after eating a generous serving or two,
I package each course individually into 1/2 cup portions for the work week.
I usually have 2 or 3 weeks worth of any dish I make reserved for work, and
I store them frozen till I need them (Thank you Gladware). I usually can
count on having 3 or 4 different courses frozen at any given time. (This
might be of interest for another poster on a different thread, who was
looking for convenience in satisfying his/her desire to have something quick
& easy to eat.)

Those that go without snacking can over order at lunch and end up eating too
much. The co-workers that "try" to limit their intake by eating limited
amounts of one or two things, without any planning, like some canned soup &
a can of tuna fish (I know, not balanced at all!) usually leave lunch hungry
and unsatisfied . Needless to say, their snacking from the vending machine
later on puts their diet on a crash course with failure.

Of all slim people I know, no one eats with abandon. The naturally
slim people who I know are not very interested in food.

Preparing appetizing meals in advance is my solution to satisfying the body
AND mind. By putting some thought into each dish, I can replace saturated
fats with good fats, as well as reducing the total amount of fats, and
provide satisfaction through the use of different tastes and textures. I
agree that distancing ones self from food by eating a lack-luster and
monotonous meal can work, I've done it myself, but it is, well, boring.

I usually "really cook" one day of the week; Saturday or Sunday. I don't
think that is too much effort to expend to make my eating experience both
healthful and satisfying.

They eat when hungry, not too much, and forget about eating
until their next meal, and eat whatever they want.

Sounds like you're saying they snack between meals if hungry. Makes sense
to me.

Doug

"Ignoramus9053" wrote in message
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Ignoramus9053 wrote:
Ilene Bilenky wrote:
Glycemic wrote:

I feel as if all
the world is feasting and never gaining a pound. The happy people eat
with abandon and are slim, well built and popular. And me, I step out
of line one tiny little bit and wham, it is big belly time. It seems so
unfair, until I realize that it is only my fantasy that is my torture.

It sure is a fantasy (albeit a negative one). Yes, many people are
eating with abandon. Are they popular? Well built? Maybe, maybe not. Who
cares?

Of all slim people I know, no one eats with abandon. The naturally
slim people who I know are not very interested in food. They eat when
hungry, not too much, and forget about eating until their next meal,
and eat whatever they want.

I wish that I was like them, but I am not.

I know a few skinny people who eat with abandon. Skinny and
slim aren't the same thing. Once I learn the skinny person's
medical history I shudder and become glad I do hold onto my
food.

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