"determined" wrote in message
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"Del Cecchi" wrote in message
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Second, you need to decide why you want to be 'not fat'. Good to
Optimum health? Look like an Abercrombie and Fitch ad? Get hit on in
bars? Be able to do the activities you enjoy? Be honest with
yourself.

Hmmm. Honest huh? Ok, I do want to be able to do activities I enjoy.
I also would like to fit into size 6 jeans and wear a swimsuit next
year. I have no dilusions of looking like a model, but I would like to
be the best I can possibly be without having to have my life revolve
around exercise and eating properly.
What is it about wearing size 6 as opposed to 8? Ain't nothin but a
number. And you could wear a swimsuit right now.

As for life revolving around exercise and eating properly, does your life
revolve around showering and washing clothes? Or are they just part of
the routine that you need to do?

If you are tired of obsessing about food, stop. If your exercise routine
is taking over your life, cut back.

I presume you have a significant other, since you recently had a baby.
What does he (assumption here) think of the way you look? Most men
don't like women who look like boys, for what that's worth.

And that "be the best I can be" is a recipe for failure because it is too
easy to think that we should be better than we really can be. Better to
be accepting of what we are and try to improve what we can. And realize
what is really important.



Myself, not dying soon was on the top of the list.

That's a good motivation...;-)

Worked for me.