In article , "Logorrhea"
wrote:

Here's a point to debate. Is anyone trying to LC solo, without telling the
folks back home? I have so far lost 11 pounds [272 to 261] since 8/18
without DW noticing either the weight loss or the fact that I'm picking my
way selectively around the food in the evenings. That's not the full story,
as I got to 259 in early September - but then had an unrelated health
reverse which meant I put back 8 pounds over a month. I resumed this WOE
with determination on October 27.

Now, before anyone says anything, it is [of course] possible that she's
noticed the difference but is deliberately saying nothing - as her own way
of playing games with me! I don't think this is the case, however, as 5
years ago I grew a moustache while on vacation. She didn't like it, so I
shaved it off on our return. It really was 4 days before she noticed that!
More recently, she didn't even relate Saturday's necessary purchase of a
pair of suspenders to any physical change in me. She is usually very
observant. I guess that being with someone every day blinds you to
infinitesimal changes, whereas someone you don't see in 6 months will
immediately be struck by the difference in profile.

My WOE is to organize my own breakfast and lunch, and go carefully with the
evening meal. Weekends are tricky, because of eating with the kids. I tend
to stabilize my weight over Saturday and Sunday, resuming the down-curve on
Mondays.

I am 6'4", and my first target is 225. After that, we'll see ...



I don't understand. Why would you be keeping your new lifestyle a secret
from your wife? Do you think she wouldn't be supportive? Or do you think
you're going to fail so you don't want anyone else to know you even tried
in the first place? Or are you testing her in some way so that if she
doesn't notice on her own you can use this as ammunition in fights? Or
maybe you have a compassionate reason, such as, maybe she is overweight too
and you don't want to seem to be pressuring her into losing weight.

Deciding to change the way you eat and live and look and feel is a major
life decision, I think it's best to let your loved ones know you're doing
it. Losing weight isn't a minor thing like getting a haircut or growing a
mustache, it's a physical, mental, and emotional journey that can change
many aspects of your life. Be open and honest with your wife. And good
for you for starting and I wish you lots of luck and dropped pounds!

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