On Thu, 30 Dec 2004 07:37:24 +0000, (janice) wrote:

On 30 Dec 2004 02:18:09 GMT, SnugBear wrote:

Mary M/Ohio wrote:

Funny, because I love this experience. I truly look forward to seeing
people who do not recognize me, and revel in all the fuss. I must be
an attention hound at heart. :-)

Me too. Just today I met one of the neighbors while snowshoeing in the
woods. She asked if I was trying to lose *more* weight and when I
assured her I was simply maintaining, she wanted to know how much I had
lost altogether. I enjoyed the whole encounter. I have a fan club g

I guess my aversion to comments is due in some part to the fact that
every time I've lost major amounts I've regained it - all the
attention just serves to tell me how much people must equally notice
when I put the weight on, it's just that they're usually too polite to
say so. IMO it's impolite to comment on weight loss unless you know
the person is able to take it. Personally I would never comment on
changes in people's weight either way unless they actually ask for my
comments.

janice

For me it isn't anything like that. It's just that it feels weird to
have people talking about my body, and I never have much to say back
to them. I mean, a brief compliment is fine, and of course I can say
"thanks". And if someone is seriously interested I'm happy to talk
with them about how I did it. It's the gushing I can't take: "Oh, you
look amazing! Aren't you so much happier?? Did you do Atkins? How
much have you lost?" -- etc. Or then there are all the unasked-for
excuses about why the person talking to me can't lose weight: "I wish
I had time to exercise! I just can't live without carbs! I just
don't have willpower! My metabolism is just too slow!" -- etc.

And I really don't like not knowing whether I'm going to even be
recognized by people and having to tell people who I am. I hate
walking into a room and having the whole group's attention distracted
from whatever they were doing and focused on my weight loss. I just
feel like, "Yeah, so what, I lost weight. What's the big deal?" I
feel like sending a scout ahead of me to tell everyone I've lost
weight so they won't be so startled when I walk in :-). Or at least
will know who I am!

Chris
262/135/ (135-145)