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Chris Braun wrote:
Well, people don't give me sweets a lot :-). But when we have stuff at home that we don't want to eat -- like leftovers from a party or leftover Halloween trick-or-treat candy -- I just take it in to the office and put it out in the lunch room. It's always gone in 30 minutes or less. Oooh! I take stuff to the post office! As long as it's on the lobby side of the counter and my friend can't get her hands on it, the customers will gobble it up. This summer some kind soul has been leaving cukes and tomatoes. Healthy snacks at the PO!!! -- Walking (but mostly biking!) on . . . Laurie in Maine 207/110 60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02 Maintained since 2/03 |
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Chris Braun wrote:
Well, people don't give me sweets a lot :-). But when we have stuff at home that we don't want to eat -- like leftovers from a party or leftover Halloween trick-or-treat candy -- I just take it in to the office and put it out in the lunch room. It's always gone in 30 minutes or less. Oooh! I take stuff to the post office! As long as it's on the lobby side of the counter and my friend can't get her hands on it, the customers will gobble it up. This summer some kind soul has been leaving cukes and tomatoes. Healthy snacks at the PO!!! -- Walking (but mostly biking!) on . . . Laurie in Maine 207/110 60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02 Maintained since 2/03 |
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On Tue, 14 Sep 2004 17:54:05 GMT, Cathe B
wrote: Any other ideas? The trash can. And then tell your friend that while you appreciate her thought, your not eating brownies and she shouldn't bring them. Then tell her where the ones she does bring wind up. Barbara Hirsch, Publisher OBESITY MEDS AND RESEARCH NEWS The latest in obesity research and weight loss drug development http://www.obesity-news.com/ |
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On Tue, 14 Sep 2004 17:54:05 GMT, Cathe B
wrote: Any other ideas? The trash can. And then tell your friend that while you appreciate her thought, your not eating brownies and she shouldn't bring them. Then tell her where the ones she does bring wind up. Barbara Hirsch, Publisher OBESITY MEDS AND RESEARCH NEWS The latest in obesity research and weight loss drug development http://www.obesity-news.com/ |
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"SnugBear" wrote in message .4... Chris Braun wrote: Well, people don't give me sweets a lot :-). But when we have stuff at home that we don't want to eat -- like leftovers from a party or leftover Halloween trick-or-treat candy -- I just take it in to the office and put it out in the lunch room. It's always gone in 30 minutes or less. Oooh! I take stuff to the post office! As long as it's on the lobby side of the counter and my friend can't get her hands on it, the customers will gobble it up. This summer some kind soul has been leaving cukes and tomatoes. Healthy snacks at the PO!!! -- That's one of the great things about living in a small community. If you left something in the post office in a larger town they would be calling the bomb squadg Beverly Walking (but mostly biking!) on . . . Laurie in Maine 207/110 60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02 Maintained since 2/03 |
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"SnugBear" wrote in message .4... Chris Braun wrote: Well, people don't give me sweets a lot :-). But when we have stuff at home that we don't want to eat -- like leftovers from a party or leftover Halloween trick-or-treat candy -- I just take it in to the office and put it out in the lunch room. It's always gone in 30 minutes or less. Oooh! I take stuff to the post office! As long as it's on the lobby side of the counter and my friend can't get her hands on it, the customers will gobble it up. This summer some kind soul has been leaving cukes and tomatoes. Healthy snacks at the PO!!! -- That's one of the great things about living in a small community. If you left something in the post office in a larger town they would be calling the bomb squadg Beverly Walking (but mostly biking!) on . . . Laurie in Maine 207/110 60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02 Maintained since 2/03 |
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Cathe B wrote:
I used brownies as an example, but with the disability taking over my body, some well meaning friends are offering to cook meals for me..a pretty cool thing. But, yes, I like what people are saying. I have noted there are two people who seem intent on testing my willpower. That certainly does make it harder... mostly because it isn't a straight sabotage situation. Helpful friends not helping perfectly requires MUCH more tact than I can reliably exhibit, so don't use anything *I* suggested! I'll definitely put the bug in the ear about preferences. This is the crux of what I don't know how to do. You've got to remember that food is religion: people deeply believe the stuff they believe about food. Asking someone to not bring you brownies when they're trying to nuture your soul might be akin to asking your priest to please drop by with some porn magazines because you're tired of Good Housekeeping. :-) I don't think I caught what your disability is: in fact, I don't recall what your weight situation is, either. I'll google later when I have time, but if you don't mind filling me in I'd appreciate it! I'm mostly wondering if this is a temporary situation or major adjustments you're making from here on out. I'd handle the two scenarios differently. Dally |
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Subject: Avoiding Sabateurs
From: Ignoramus13229 lid Date: 9/14/2004 2:51 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: In article , Lictor wrote: "Ignoramus13229" wrote in message ... The less attractive types are those who want to see you fail at least once and to prove that you don't have the willpower, and who offer you brownies for sinister reasons. If they are not repulsed by a polite no, escalate your refusal and do not be afraid to be not particularly polite, as they deserve it. For these, finding new friends might also be a good idea. I mean, if people are actively and consciously trying to sabotage your life, maybe you don't need to call them friends. Some people are just noxious. Sometimes, yes, sometimes, they are okay in some respects and need a ****ing lesson. My FIL once decided to make a point and force feed me something I did not want, I said I did not want it, several times, politely, he did not listen and stuck it into my plate. I took it out and put it back with some show of force. That was enough of a lesson for him. He is not a terrible person, as such, he sometimes does dumb things, even though he has high IQ, as evidenced by his chess playing etc. My mother is a *nurse*!...and she still tries to force things on me I couldn't possibly eat and usually never would anyway. Just the other day she was telling me that if I didnt have a piece of the banana bread she had made she was going to be hurt and hold it against me. I told her (for about the billionth time since DX...)I am a T2!!! You are a nurse! I am only D&E right now. (And she has no nutritional info as its a home recipe...) Why on Earth she tries to get me to eat baked potatoes and pasta and desserts is just beyond me - especially when she knows better. She has a license to practice medicine, for Pete's sake. I think its a combination of denial and that age-old deep-rooted idea that food is love. I just wish she'd snap out of it and realize LOVE is love...and carby foods are...well, to me, the devil. As for the refusal strategy, one advice I have read is to keep to the simple "no, I don't want any brownie" and repeat it ad nauseam. You don't have to justify yourself, beyond the fact that you don't *want* that brownie. If you try to justify yourself, you're exposing weaknesses and room for arguments. People will try to pick your arguments appart and outwit you or show your contradictions. But really, the only argument you need for not wanting to eat brownies is that you don't want to eat brownies. It's perfectly self sufficient. Food is like sex, what gets in your body is your own decision to make, there is no arguing with it. Pretty much, many things work and refusing food is not a big problem for me personally. Of course, I am not trying too hard to please everybody. My brother, who is off his rocker at times when it comes to refusing things, claims a rule of three: after you say no three times and the person still insists, he claims you have to accept the food anyway, whether you want it or not. *I* say that after three refusals (especially if the offerer is aware of my diabetes) I have the right to become indignant at that point. I would question the motives of anyone trying to pass off something to me they KNOW will make me ill. With most sincere people, all it takes is a no, or at most a 'no, thank you, I'm diabetic', and a smile. To me if it takes more than that, this person isnt someone with whom I want to be sharing food in the first place! -- DJ JM$.02 |
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Subject: Avoiding Sabateurs
From: Ignoramus13229 lid Date: 9/14/2004 2:51 PM Eastern Standard Time Message-id: In article , Lictor wrote: "Ignoramus13229" wrote in message ... The less attractive types are those who want to see you fail at least once and to prove that you don't have the willpower, and who offer you brownies for sinister reasons. If they are not repulsed by a polite no, escalate your refusal and do not be afraid to be not particularly polite, as they deserve it. For these, finding new friends might also be a good idea. I mean, if people are actively and consciously trying to sabotage your life, maybe you don't need to call them friends. Some people are just noxious. Sometimes, yes, sometimes, they are okay in some respects and need a ****ing lesson. My FIL once decided to make a point and force feed me something I did not want, I said I did not want it, several times, politely, he did not listen and stuck it into my plate. I took it out and put it back with some show of force. That was enough of a lesson for him. He is not a terrible person, as such, he sometimes does dumb things, even though he has high IQ, as evidenced by his chess playing etc. My mother is a *nurse*!...and she still tries to force things on me I couldn't possibly eat and usually never would anyway. Just the other day she was telling me that if I didnt have a piece of the banana bread she had made she was going to be hurt and hold it against me. I told her (for about the billionth time since DX...)I am a T2!!! You are a nurse! I am only D&E right now. (And she has no nutritional info as its a home recipe...) Why on Earth she tries to get me to eat baked potatoes and pasta and desserts is just beyond me - especially when she knows better. She has a license to practice medicine, for Pete's sake. I think its a combination of denial and that age-old deep-rooted idea that food is love. I just wish she'd snap out of it and realize LOVE is love...and carby foods are...well, to me, the devil. As for the refusal strategy, one advice I have read is to keep to the simple "no, I don't want any brownie" and repeat it ad nauseam. You don't have to justify yourself, beyond the fact that you don't *want* that brownie. If you try to justify yourself, you're exposing weaknesses and room for arguments. People will try to pick your arguments appart and outwit you or show your contradictions. But really, the only argument you need for not wanting to eat brownies is that you don't want to eat brownies. It's perfectly self sufficient. Food is like sex, what gets in your body is your own decision to make, there is no arguing with it. Pretty much, many things work and refusing food is not a big problem for me personally. Of course, I am not trying too hard to please everybody. My brother, who is off his rocker at times when it comes to refusing things, claims a rule of three: after you say no three times and the person still insists, he claims you have to accept the food anyway, whether you want it or not. *I* say that after three refusals (especially if the offerer is aware of my diabetes) I have the right to become indignant at that point. I would question the motives of anyone trying to pass off something to me they KNOW will make me ill. With most sincere people, all it takes is a no, or at most a 'no, thank you, I'm diabetic', and a smile. To me if it takes more than that, this person isnt someone with whom I want to be sharing food in the first place! -- DJ JM$.02 |
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Dally wrote:
This is the crux of what I don't know how to do. You've got to remember that food is religion: people deeply believe the stuff they believe about food. Asking someone to not bring you brownies when they're trying to nuture your soul might be akin to asking your priest to please drop by with some porn magazines because you're tired of Good Housekeeping. :-) That just makes no sense to me. I have to admit that I am a bit of a pushover when it comes to wanting to please people and avoid making waves but honestly, if someone is so disproportionately attached to the idea of bringing me food that they might get the vapors and suffer palpitations if I calmly explain that it isn't helping me and I prefer that they not do it, then that's their problem not mine. One shouldn't have one's life made more complicated just because someone else thinks food is the answer to life's problems. There is a time to be nice to other people and there is a time to be nice to yourself. Most people will get it if it's explained to them tactfully. If they DON'T get it when it's explained tactfully, then consider tact wasted on them and be forceful about it. They're grownups. They should be able to handle it. (I've had to deal with a bit of this lately) -- PL (320/291/170) (First mini-goal: 299 Reached! 08/26/04) (Second mini-goal: 279) --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.754 / Virus Database: 504 - Release Date: 9/8/2004 |
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