Avoiding Sabateurs

In article t, Cathe
B wrote:

I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

Hi Cathe!

People show their affection and regard through food--I know--it's one of
my bad habits. And while they may not be trying to subvert your WOE, it
sometimes feels that way--especially times when you don't have the will
to resist.

We went through this type of thing in April when my dad passed
away--everybody from three towns showed up with a casserole or goody or
platter of something, and my mother's department actually catered the
reception after the funeral. The food was never ending--I think I still
have stuff in the freezer.

Perhaps your best course would be to ask those who are helping you with
the cooking, etc. to replace brownies and cakes and such with healthier
food items, like fresh fruit and vegies. It would sure be easier for
them to show up with a pint of strawberries than it would be to bake a
dozen cookies, no?

Anyway, good luck with your dilema--I know you don't want to appear
ungrateful, and it's hard to refuse someone's expression of caring, even
if just isn't what you need right now.

Amy

In article t, Cathe
B wrote:

I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

Hi Cathe!

People show their affection and regard through food--I know--it's one of
my bad habits. And while they may not be trying to subvert your WOE, it
sometimes feels that way--especially times when you don't have the will
to resist.

We went through this type of thing in April when my dad passed
away--everybody from three towns showed up with a casserole or goody or
platter of something, and my mother's department actually catered the
reception after the funeral. The food was never ending--I think I still
have stuff in the freezer.

Perhaps your best course would be to ask those who are helping you with
the cooking, etc. to replace brownies and cakes and such with healthier
food items, like fresh fruit and vegies. It would sure be easier for
them to show up with a pint of strawberries than it would be to bake a
dozen cookies, no?

Anyway, good luck with your dilema--I know you don't want to appear
ungrateful, and it's hard to refuse someone's expression of caring, even
if just isn't what you need right now.

Amy

In article , PL
wrote:

Dally wrote:

This is the crux of what I don't know how to do. You've got to
remember that food is religion: people deeply believe the stuff they
believe about food. Asking someone to not bring you brownies when they're
trying to nuture your soul might be akin to asking your priest to
please drop by with some porn magazines because you're tired of Good
Housekeeping. :-)

A house guest brought home food from several events she attended on the
weekend and we got sick from tiny tastes. Next time it goes right in
the trash a la Barbara's suggestion.

--
Diva
******
There is no substitute for the right food

In article , PL
wrote:

Dally wrote:

This is the crux of what I don't know how to do. You've got to
remember that food is religion: people deeply believe the stuff they
believe about food. Asking someone to not bring you brownies when they're
trying to nuture your soul might be akin to asking your priest to
please drop by with some porn magazines because you're tired of Good
Housekeeping. :-)

A house guest brought home food from several events she attended on the
weekend and we got sick from tiny tastes. Next time it goes right in
the trash a la Barbara's suggestion.

--
Diva
******
There is no substitute for the right food

A Ross wrote:



Hi Cathe!

People show their affection and regard through food--I know--it's one of
my bad habits. And while they may not be trying to subvert your WOE, it
sometimes feels that way--especially times when you don't have the will
to resist.

We went through this type of thing in April when my dad passed
away--everybody from three towns showed up with a casserole or goody or
platter of something, and my mother's department actually catered the
reception after the funeral. The food was never ending--I think I still
have stuff in the freezer.

Perhaps your best course would be to ask those who are helping you with
the cooking, etc. to replace brownies and cakes and such with healthier
food items, like fresh fruit and vegies. It would sure be easier for
them to show up with a pint of strawberries than it would be to bake a
dozen cookies, no?

Anyway, good luck with your dilema--I know you don't want to appear
ungrateful, and it's hard to refuse someone's expression of caring, even
if just isn't what you need right now.

Amy


Thanks Amy...yup, my old italian background makes an etiquette issue out
of it..but thanks I like your idea.

A Ross wrote:



Hi Cathe!

People show their affection and regard through food--I know--it's one of
my bad habits. And while they may not be trying to subvert your WOE, it
sometimes feels that way--especially times when you don't have the will
to resist.

We went through this type of thing in April when my dad passed
away--everybody from three towns showed up with a casserole or goody or
platter of something, and my mother's department actually catered the
reception after the funeral. The food was never ending--I think I still
have stuff in the freezer.

Perhaps your best course would be to ask those who are helping you with
the cooking, etc. to replace brownies and cakes and such with healthier
food items, like fresh fruit and vegies. It would sure be easier for
them to show up with a pint of strawberries than it would be to bake a
dozen cookies, no?

Anyway, good luck with your dilema--I know you don't want to appear
ungrateful, and it's hard to refuse someone's expression of caring, even
if just isn't what you need right now.

Amy


Thanks Amy...yup, my old italian background makes an etiquette issue out
of it..but thanks I like your idea.

"Cathe B" wrote in message
k.net...
Dally wrote:

I don't think I caught what your disability is: in fact, I don't recall
what your weight situation is, either. I'll google later when I have
time, but if you don't mind filling me in I'd appreciate it! I'm mostly
wondering if this is a temporary situation or major adjustments you're
making from here on out. I'd handle the two scenarios differently.

Dally

I have a joint disorder which causes me to dislocate just about every
joint at least once a week. My hands, knees, and shoulders pop out more
than anything. I'm sometimes in a wheelchair, and sometimes using a
cane, and I'm currently being fitted for braces for my major joints. I
went from being a bouncy all over the place gal, to a couch potato under
protest.

C

Oh my....is in painful? Is there anything they can do for you?

Martha

"Cathe B" wrote in message
k.net...
Dally wrote:

I don't think I caught what your disability is: in fact, I don't recall
what your weight situation is, either. I'll google later when I have
time, but if you don't mind filling me in I'd appreciate it! I'm mostly
wondering if this is a temporary situation or major adjustments you're
making from here on out. I'd handle the two scenarios differently.

Dally

I have a joint disorder which causes me to dislocate just about every
joint at least once a week. My hands, knees, and shoulders pop out more
than anything. I'm sometimes in a wheelchair, and sometimes using a
cane, and I'm currently being fitted for braces for my major joints. I
went from being a bouncy all over the place gal, to a couch potato under
protest.

C

Oh my....is in painful? Is there anything they can do for you?

Martha