Is saggy/extra skin inevitable?

On Wed, 07 Jan 2004 05:19:31 GMT, Luna
wrote:

Cool. I don't think that's the norm though, but good for her! I just
think of myself as running out of time because I'm not dating anyone right
now, and I'd want to date someone for at least 2 years before getting
married, and then be married at least 2 more years before having a baby.
And I've heard that if you're a woman and you're not married by age 30 then
statistically, you probably won't get married. I'm 28, so . . . oh well.

I got married at 29, to someone I had known for YEARS but had not seen
in a romantic light for much of it. I had my first baby at 31, my
second at 32. We celebrated our 11th anniversary last December (12/12
- one of the few dates that it doesn't matter which side of the Pond
you are!) and are still really happy together.

My sister had a healthy son (her 5th child) at 35. One of my dearest
friends had her second at 39. There are women around now having
healthy babies well into their 40s or even 50s. While I certainly
wouldn't recommend waiting *THAT* long (who wants to be dealing with
Teenage Hormone Tantrums when the parents are in their 60s?) I don't
think that at 28 you're exactly On The Shelf.

Aramanth

On Wed, 07 Jan 2004 05:19:31 GMT, Luna
wrote:


Cool. I don't think that's the norm though, but good for her!

She was pretty surprised as the pregnancy was a complete surprise to
her and her hubby. She thought she was going through menopause.


I just
think of myself as running out of time because I'm not dating anyone right
now,

TOTALLY understandable considering what you just went through with the
last guy you were with (I just went through the exact same thing and
have no desire to date at all. I just want to work on me for a good
long time before I jump into those waters again)


and I'd want to date someone for at least 2 years before getting
married, and then be married at least 2 more years before having a baby.
And I've heard that if you're a woman and you're not married by age 30 then
statistically, you probably won't get married. I'm 28, so . . . oh well.

My sister got married at 36 but her hubby and her had 5 kids between
them both from previous relationships. Many women get married after 30
including women who do not have kids yet.

Luna wrote:

In article ,
Taffy Stoker wrote:

On Mon, 05 Jan 2004 17:15:17 GMT, Luna
wrote:


True. It seems to vary from person to person though. My sister has saggy
wrinkly skin on her tummy after two pregnancies, my cousin doesn't. Neither
one of them had a C-section though. I hope I AM a mom someday, I would
gladly accept saggy skin and (more) stretchmarks in exchange for the
priviledge of being a mom. I'm almost out of time though, so I may just
have to settle for a cat.

You're still young enough and I have a friend who just had a perfectly
healthy daughter at the age of 41.


Cool. I don't think that's the norm though, but good for her! I just
think of myself as running out of time because I'm not dating anyone right
now, and I'd want to date someone for at least 2 years before getting
married, and then be married at least 2 more years before having a baby.
And I've heard that if you're a woman and you're not married by age 30 then
statistically, you probably won't get married. I'm 28, so . . . oh well.

--
-Michelle Levin (Luna)
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick
http://www.mindspring.com/~designbyluna

I wouldn't call that running out of time, Luna. I had my daughter
when I was almost 41. By your calculations, you have a lot of
time.
--
Jean B.

In article , Aramanth Dawe says...

On Wed, 07 Jan 2004 05:19:31 GMT, Luna
wrote:

Cool. I don't think that's the norm though, but good for her! I just
think of myself as running out of time because I'm not dating anyone right
now, and I'd want to date someone for at least 2 years before getting
married, and then be married at least 2 more years before having a baby.
And I've heard that if you're a woman and you're not married by age 30 then
statistically, you probably won't get married. I'm 28, so . . . oh well.

I got married at 29, to someone I had known for YEARS but had not seen
in a romantic light for much of it. I had my first baby at 31, my
second at 32. We celebrated our 11th anniversary last December (12/12
- one of the few dates that it doesn't matter which side of the Pond
you are!) and are still really happy together.

My sister had a healthy son (her 5th child) at 35. One of my dearest
friends had her second at 39. There are women around now having
healthy babies well into their 40s or even 50s. While I certainly
wouldn't recommend waiting *THAT* long (who wants to be dealing with
Teenage Hormone Tantrums when the parents are in their 60s?) I don't
think that at 28 you're exactly On The Shelf.

Goodness no - I got married at age 35 and have my first (and only) child at age
37. Frankly, I'm glad I waited to do both (a lot of my friends wish they'd done
the same).

Robyn