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Old October 17th, 2003, 09:01 PM
David Thompson
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Default How can I force fat wife to lose weight

We have been married for 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. I
have always been the fit one, because I exercise and do not overeat. I
became a little overweight 10 years ago, then lost weight 9 years ago
and have been at normal weight, which has not been easy. So you cannot
say that I am "naturally thin", I am "naturally fat" but I work to
keep myself thin.

My wife however has put on a great deal of weight through the years
and looks really gross and disgusting. She weights 280 lbs and she is
5'7".

I still love her but I am not attracted to her anymore. Because I love
her and our kids I would prefer to somehow force her to lose weight.

She is in denial of her fat issues, says she is big boned, says that
weightloss does not work, says that she loves her food too much etc.

My question is how can I push her towards weightloss. My strategy so
far has been to bring up health issues rather than say that she is
ugly. But maybe I should tell her the truth about how she looks?

Dave

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Old October 17th, 2003, 09:05 PM
Jarkat2002
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Default How can I force fat wife to lose weight

We have been married for 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. I
have always been the fit one, because I exercise and do not overeat. I
became a little overweight 10 years ago, then lost weight 9 years ago
and have been at normal weight, which has not been easy. So you cannot
say that I am "naturally thin", I am "naturally fat" but I work to
keep myself thin.

My wife however has put on a great deal of weight through the years
and looks really gross and disgusting. She weights 280 lbs and she is
5'7".

I still love her but I am not attracted to her anymore. Because I love
her and our kids I would prefer to somehow force her to lose weight.

She is in denial of her fat issues, says she is big boned, says that
weightloss does not work, says that she loves her food too much etc.

My question is how can I push her towards weightloss. My strategy so
far has been to bring up health issues rather than say that she is
ugly. But maybe I should tell her the truth about how she looks?

Dave


How much do you weigh? You say your fit .. so, I'll just give it a guess. 160
or so?
Divorce her ... it will be the best 160 lbs that she has ever lost.
~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer
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Old October 17th, 2003, 09:16 PM
Patricia Heil
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David Thompson wrote:

We have been married for 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. I
have always been the fit one, because I exercise and do not overeat. I
became a little overweight 10 years ago, then lost weight 9 years ago
and have been at normal weight, which has not been easy. So you cannot
say that I am "naturally thin", I am "naturally fat" but I work to
keep myself thin.

My wife however has put on a great deal of weight through the years
and looks really gross and disgusting. She weights 280 lbs and she is
5'7".

I still love her but I am not attracted to her anymore. Because I love
her and our kids I would prefer to somehow force her to lose weight.

She is in denial of her fat issues, says she is big boned, says that
weightloss does not work, says that she loves her food too much etc.

My question is how can I push her towards weightloss. My strategy so
far has been to bring up health issues rather than say that she is
ugly. But maybe I should tell her the truth about how she looks?

Dave

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Old October 17th, 2003, 09:27 PM
determined
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"Jarkat2002" wrote in message
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We have been married for 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. I
have always been the fit one, because I exercise and do not overeat. I
became a little overweight 10 years ago, then lost weight 9 years ago
and have been at normal weight, which has not been easy. So you cannot
say that I am "naturally thin", I am "naturally fat" but I work to
keep myself thin.

My wife however has put on a great deal of weight through the years
and looks really gross and disgusting. She weights 280 lbs and she is
5'7".

I still love her but I am not attracted to her anymore. Because I love
her and our kids I would prefer to somehow force her to lose weight.

She is in denial of her fat issues, says she is big boned, says that
weightloss does not work, says that she loves her food too much etc.

My question is how can I push her towards weightloss. My strategy so
far has been to bring up health issues rather than say that she is
ugly. But maybe I should tell her the truth about how she looks?

Dave


How much do you weigh? You say your fit .. so, I'll just give it a guess.

160
or so?
Divorce her ... it will be the best 160 lbs that she has ever lost.
~Kat


Kat - too funny!


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Old October 17th, 2003, 09:27 PM
determined
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"David Thompson" wrote in message
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We have been married for 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. I
have always been the fit one, because I exercise and do not overeat. I
became a little overweight 10 years ago, then lost weight 9 years ago
and have been at normal weight, which has not been easy. So you cannot
say that I am "naturally thin", I am "naturally fat" but I work to
keep myself thin.

My wife however has put on a great deal of weight through the years
and looks really gross and disgusting. She weights 280 lbs and she is
5'7".

I still love her but I am not attracted to her anymore. Because I love
her and our kids I would prefer to somehow force her to lose weight.

She is in denial of her fat issues, says she is big boned, says that
weightloss does not work, says that she loves her food too much etc.

My question is how can I push her towards weightloss. My strategy so
far has been to bring up health issues rather than say that she is
ugly. But maybe I should tell her the truth about how she looks?

Dave


You can't force anyone to do anything. Accept it or leave.


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Old October 17th, 2003, 09:37 PM
David Thompson
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Someone suggested that I am somehow a bad person. Quite to the
contrary. I still love my fat wife as a human being. She is a good
person. However I no longer find her attractive physically. I am the
exact opposite of a "shallow" person who only can love trim girls. I
am a "deep" person who loves my wife despite her ugly appearance. And
I do not want to leave her, I want to help her. Whoever is being
judgmental about me, you are wrong!

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Old October 17th, 2003, 10:01 PM
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Forgive my cynical responce but I think we are being set up for another
troll fest. A "new" person asking for help with an offbeat situation
where he starts off being defensive and sets up the question to get max
forms of replies. Posting to multiple newsgroups doesn't help either to
ease my mind. I say we lay off this thread and not get sucked in.
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Old October 17th, 2003, 10:02 PM
Jayjay
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On Fri, 17 Oct 2003 15:37:47 -0500, (David
Thompson) wrote:


Someone suggested that I am somehow a bad person. Quite to the
contrary. I still love my fat wife as a human being. She is a good
person. However I no longer find her attractive physically. I am the
exact opposite of a "shallow" person who only can love trim girls. I
am a "deep" person who loves my wife despite her ugly appearance. And
I do not want to leave her, I want to help her. Whoever is being
judgmental about me, you are wrong!


Here's the thing David. YOU can't make your wife lose weight. ANd
you suggesting your wife to lose weight or trying to force her to lose
weight and you will only cause more problems in your marriage.

Think of this as you would an alcoholic or drug addict. THey can only
help themselves when they reach rock bottom. Same goes for someone
trying to lose weight. They have to reach a point where THEY are
ready to lose weight. For some it is just the fact that they can't
fit into their clothes any longer. For others its a medical issue
(blood pressure, diabetes) and yet for others it can be a serious
medical condition leaving them hospitalized. And of course for
others, they never find that motivating factor.

For your wife, you can't make her do it. She has to want to do it on
her own.

Some things you can do is to change your own lifestyle. Start eating
healthier yourself. Stop the junk food, stop the crap and limit your
own portions. Maybe a lifestyle change for yourself will help
motivate your wife to a lifestyle change for herself.

Exercise. Find physical activities to do as a family. Find a local
park with some trails through the woods and plan a family outing, go
hiking. Take the kids to the park and throw a ball around and make
some sandwhiches for a picnic lunch. (keep it healthy, light
sandwhiches and fruit). Plan physical activities that are fun and
eventful - where your wife doesn't think of it as "exercise". FInd
somehting she enjoys. Then start doing it more often.

Go for a walk aroudn the neighborhood in the evenings, just the 2 of
you .. or bring the kids. But spend some quality family time
together.

The more active she becomes and the more interactive you all become as
a family to do physical fun activities, the more she will realize that
maybe her extra weight is hindering this fun lifestyle you guys are
enjoying.


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Old October 17th, 2003, 10:09 PM
Melissa
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