Week 8 - The Wedding Blues!

HA! Not my wedding! But I was out of town all weekend at the whim of
other people's menus. Saturday we had a wedding in Maryland (great
time) but they had a very very limited food selection. I did my best
(which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. Then that evening
we went to my cousin's who lived near where the wedding was and stayed
over into Sunday for a good visit (also fun). We were at their food
mercy for several meals while visiting. Again I didn't do too badly,
but still more points than usual. The real problem though was I didn't
drink even a fraction of the water I was supposed to over the weekend.
Talk about all that sodium!!! It just wasn't in the cards. I
immediately returned to normal Monday, but with a noon Tuesday weigh
in that's not much time to bounce back and get off the additional
weight or more importantly flush all that extra sodium and get myself
back to my normal hydration levels.

So I had a 1.8 pound gain. I am not despairing though (even though no
one likes a gain) because I know this was out of my control and I did
the best I could under the circumstances. I refuse to alter all of my
life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life for the
sake of staying home and watching every point. I also refuse to let a
small gain get me down...we're talking big picture here!!!

Also this week I did manage to get way more activity in. Go me!!!

Melissa in NJ

"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message
oups.com...
... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual.
....
We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points than
usual.
....
... I know this was out of my control ...
....
I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the
good things in life ...

Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll never
solve your weight problem.
Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to "alter
your life".

That's the spirit!!!

Congrats for getting right back on track monday... that's what matters the
most!

Will~

"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message
oups.com...
HA! Not my wedding! But I was out of town all weekend at the whim of
other people's menus. Saturday we had a wedding in Maryland (great
time) but they had a very very limited food selection. I did my best
(which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. Then that evening
we went to my cousin's who lived near where the wedding was and stayed
over into Sunday for a good visit (also fun). We were at their food
mercy for several meals while visiting. Again I didn't do too badly,
but still more points than usual. The real problem though was I didn't
drink even a fraction of the water I was supposed to over the weekend.
Talk about all that sodium!!! It just wasn't in the cards. I
immediately returned to normal Monday, but with a noon Tuesday weigh
in that's not much time to bounce back and get off the additional
weight or more importantly flush all that extra sodium and get myself
back to my normal hydration levels.

So I had a 1.8 pound gain. I am not despairing though (even though no
one likes a gain) because I know this was out of my control and I did
the best I could under the circumstances. I refuse to alter all of my
life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life for the
sake of staying home and watching every point. I also refuse to let a
small gain get me down...we're talking big picture here!!!

Also this week I did manage to get way more activity in. Go me!!!

Melissa in NJ

George... get lost..

She didn't say she had no control over her eating, she said she had no
control over the menu.. and that even then, she did quite well... That's
being in control, to keep a grip even when you can't control the menu...

Learn to read.. it'll keep you from making an idiot of yourself when you
post.. I bet you can find a school in your neighborhood for adults with
your kind of challenge... if you're an adult that is.. somehow I doubt it..

Will~


"George" wrote in message
.. .

"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message
oups.com...
... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual.
...
We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points than
usual.
...
... I know this was out of my control ...
...
I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the
good things in life ...

Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll never
solve your weight problem.
Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to "alter
your life".

I had a very similar week Melissa! I'll post in my own thread, but wanted
to say good on you for making the best choices possible, given that the menu
was not of your own making. I'm still with you and proud of you!! I
know this sounds crazy, but after my last week and yesterdays weigh in, I
can't wait for the next weigh in after really getting after it again this
week : )

"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message
oups.com...
HA! Not my wedding! But I was out of town all weekend at the whim of
other people's menus. Saturday we had a wedding in Maryland (great
time) but they had a very very limited food selection. I did my best
(which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. Then that evening
we went to my cousin's who lived near where the wedding was and stayed
over into Sunday for a good visit (also fun). We were at their food
mercy for several meals while visiting. Again I didn't do too badly,
but still more points than usual. The real problem though was I didn't
drink even a fraction of the water I was supposed to over the weekend.
Talk about all that sodium!!! It just wasn't in the cards. I
immediately returned to normal Monday, but with a noon Tuesday weigh
in that's not much time to bounce back and get off the additional
weight or more importantly flush all that extra sodium and get myself
back to my normal hydration levels.

So I had a 1.8 pound gain. I am not despairing though (even though no
one likes a gain) because I know this was out of my control and I did
the best I could under the circumstances. I refuse to alter all of my
life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life for the
sake of staying home and watching every point. I also refuse to let a
small gain get me down...we're talking big picture here!!!

Also this week I did manage to get way more activity in. Go me!!!

Melissa in NJ

great attitude, very realistic. Part of the reason I started trying to lose
was so we could travel more, and when we travel more I generally gain
because riding in the car makes me retain water... so knowing that I accept
it and am realistic about it, I figure no point in being thin and healthy if
I am not gonna use my healthy body to do things I want, Lee
Melissa in NJ wrote in message
oups.com...
HA! Not my wedding! But I was out of town all weekend at the whim of
other people's menus. Saturday we had a wedding in Maryland (great
time) but they had a very very limited food selection. I did my best
(which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. Then that evening
we went to my cousin's who lived near where the wedding was and stayed
over into Sunday for a good visit (also fun). We were at their food
mercy for several meals while visiting. Again I didn't do too badly,
but still more points than usual. The real problem though was I didn't
drink even a fraction of the water I was supposed to over the weekend.
Talk about all that sodium!!! It just wasn't in the cards. I
immediately returned to normal Monday, but with a noon Tuesday weigh
in that's not much time to bounce back and get off the additional
weight or more importantly flush all that extra sodium and get myself
back to my normal hydration levels.

So I had a 1.8 pound gain. I am not despairing though (even though no
one likes a gain) because I know this was out of my control and I did
the best I could under the circumstances. I refuse to alter all of my
life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life for the
sake of staying home and watching every point. I also refuse to let a
small gain get me down...we're talking big picture here!!!

Also this week I did manage to get way more activity in. Go me!!!

Melissa in NJ

I quoted her exact words and responded to her in an objective and polite
manner. If you feel it necessary to resort to name-calling and insults to
make a point, you've already lost.

" ... she said she had no control over the menu." Of course, we all know
she didn't create the food choices. She said she ate too much and she
blamed the menu for that. Is that what you meant by "being in control" and
"she did quite well"?

So you think a little over eating is fine when a person can't control the
menu? Is that what WW teaches - that one can blame overeating on the menu?

Sheeesh ... !!!


"Willow Herself" wrote in
message et...
George... get lost..

She didn't say she had no control over her eating, she said she had no
control over the menu.. and that even then, she did quite well... That's
being in control, to keep a grip even when you can't control the menu...

Learn to read.. it'll keep you from making an idiot of yourself when you
post.. I bet you can find a school in your neighborhood for adults with
your kind of challenge... if you're an adult that is.. somehow I doubt
it..

Will~


"George" wrote in message
.. .

"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message
oups.com...
... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual.
...
We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points
than usual.
...
... I know this was out of my control ...
...
I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the
good things in life ...

Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll
never solve your weight problem.
Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to
"alter your life".

If you weren't so dumb.. you'd be funny
Will`

"George" wrote in message
. ..
I quoted her exact words and responded to her in an objective and polite
manner. If you feel it necessary to resort to name-calling and insults to
make a point, you've already lost.

" ... she said she had no control over the menu." Of course, we all know
she didn't create the food choices. She said she ate too much and she
blamed the menu for that. Is that what you meant by "being in control"
and "she did quite well"?

So you think a little over eating is fine when a person can't control the
menu? Is that what WW teaches - that one can blame overeating on the
menu?

Sheeesh ... !!!


"Willow Herself" wrote in
message et...
George... get lost..

She didn't say she had no control over her eating, she said she had no
control over the menu.. and that even then, she did quite well... That's
being in control, to keep a grip even when you can't control the menu...

Learn to read.. it'll keep you from making an idiot of yourself when you
post.. I bet you can find a school in your neighborhood for adults with
your kind of challenge... if you're an adult that is.. somehow I doubt
it..

Will~


"George" wrote in message
.. .

"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message
oups.com...
... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual.
...
We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points
than usual.
...
... I know this was out of my control ...
...
I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the
good things in life ...

Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll
never solve your weight problem.
Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to
"alter your life".

George I think you took a few of my points out of context or didn't
understand the spirit of my post. I also think you made some quick
grand assumptions about me and gave me quick generic responses back.
Let me try to explain it better for you.

I understand I am 100% in control of the choices I make and the food
that goes into my mouth. It took me into my 30's to understand that. I
have been doing weight watchers for years now...and believe me I
understand that. I am responsible for the choices I make. And in the
past I have fallen off the wagon. I am back and realize where I went
wrong and am recommitted.

What I was saying was while I am at my cousin's house (or the wedding)
and they chose to serve a certain meal which is not food I would
normally eat I cannot (unless I want to be rude) say don't serve me
that get me something else (same thing at the wedding). I however did
the best I could by leaving some food on my plate, not going for
seconds, smaller portions to begin with, and forgoing dessert...etc.
Despite my attempts of control (which I am proud of trying for when I
could have just said...hmm no control...ok I'll just eat everything in
sight!) in an environment where I don't have control of the menu, I
ate more fat laden and caloric food than I would have normally. I
didn't have access to water like at home. So didn't drink as much.
That is what I am saying. I am sure you too have been in situations
like that.

And as for altering my life I have altered my life and my way of
thinking about food. I have totally re-educated myself. You have to or
it won't work! But I also refuse to so totally alter it that I hide in
my house for fear of bad food at other people's houses or events. I
don't want to miss life either!!! If that were the case I would have
missed that wedding and that cousin visit both of which I highly
enjoyed. Weight loss is a balance of changing your life and also
living your life. I have integrated weight loss into my life so much
so that most of it I do by habit without much thinking. It has become
my way of life. But there will always be situations that don't "fit in
my new life" like the cousin visits and the weddings. I refuse to miss
out on life's events like that for the sake of militant weight loss
regime. What would be the point? Would I enjoy a life that I am hiding
from? I have to strike a harmonious balance...and sometimes that
results in a temporary gain.

So basically what I was trying to say with my post is yeah I had a
gain, yeah I was out of my element this weekend, yeah I tried my very
best (and was proud of my efforts when the old me wouldn't have tried
at all), and yeah it was worth it to me because I enjoyed the wedding
and the cousin visit immensely, and it was a tiny setback in the big
picture. And YES come Sunday evening I was IMMEDIATELY back in my
element and IMMEDIATELY back on track!

I hope I have clarified this for you. You may not feel I did
positively this weekend or that I have the wrong mindset...but despite
my gain I am proud of my efforts and I feel it is better to be
realistic about weight loss. I am not perfect even though I try to
be!!!
Melissa in NJ

I know this sounds crazy, but after my last week and yesterdays weigh in, I
can't wait for the next weigh in after really getting after it again this
week : )

That is exactly how I feel too!!!

Melissa in NJ