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Week 8 - The Wedding Blues!
Melissa
It sounds to me like you used a very sensible approach to the weekends food temptations. You have to live and deal with food in a manner that works for both home situations, and social ones. I think you did that very well. Karen On 26 Apr 2007 07:54:57 -0700, in alt.support.diet.weigh****chers, Melissa in NJ wrote: George I think you took a few of my points out of context or didn't understand the spirit of my post. I also think you made some quick grand assumptions about me and gave me quick generic responses back. Let me try to explain it better for you. I understand I am 100% in control of the choices I make and the food that goes into my mouth. It took me into my 30's to understand that. I have been doing weight watchers for years now...and believe me I understand that. I am responsible for the choices I make. And in the past I have fallen off the wagon. I am back and realize where I went wrong and am recommitted. What I was saying was while I am at my cousin's house (or the wedding) and they chose to serve a certain meal which is not food I would normally eat I cannot (unless I want to be rude) say don't serve me that get me something else (same thing at the wedding). I however did the best I could by leaving some food on my plate, not going for seconds, smaller portions to begin with, and forgoing dessert...etc. Despite my attempts of control (which I am proud of trying for when I could have just said...hmm no control...ok I'll just eat everything in sight!) in an environment where I don't have control of the menu, I ate more fat laden and caloric food than I would have normally. I didn't have access to water like at home. So didn't drink as much. That is what I am saying. I am sure you too have been in situations like that. And as for altering my life I have altered my life and my way of thinking about food. I have totally re-educated myself. You have to or it won't work! But I also refuse to so totally alter it that I hide in my house for fear of bad food at other people's houses or events. I don't want to miss life either!!! If that were the case I would have missed that wedding and that cousin visit both of which I highly enjoyed. Weight loss is a balance of changing your life and also living your life. I have integrated weight loss into my life so much so that most of it I do by habit without much thinking. It has become my way of life. But there will always be situations that don't "fit in my new life" like the cousin visits and the weddings. I refuse to miss out on life's events like that for the sake of militant weight loss regime. What would be the point? Would I enjoy a life that I am hiding from? I have to strike a harmonious balance...and sometimes that results in a temporary gain. So basically what I was trying to say with my post is yeah I had a gain, yeah I was out of my element this weekend, yeah I tried my very best (and was proud of my efforts when the old me wouldn't have tried at all), and yeah it was worth it to me because I enjoyed the wedding and the cousin visit immensely, and it was a tiny setback in the big picture. And YES come Sunday evening I was IMMEDIATELY back in my element and IMMEDIATELY back on track! I hope I have clarified this for you. You may not feel I did positively this weekend or that I have the wrong mindset...but despite my gain I am proud of my efforts and I feel it is better to be realistic about weight loss. I am not perfect even though I try to be!!! Melissa in NJ |
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Week 8 - The Wedding Blues!
Melissa, George is our pet troll, he shows up every once in a while, makes
an ass of himself and then disapear.. Don't worry about it.. those of us who cares about you are all proud of you n stuff.. so are you, that's all that matters! Will~ "Melissa in NJ" wrote in message oups.com... George I think you took a few of my points out of context or didn't understand the spirit of my post. I also think you made some quick grand assumptions about me and gave me quick generic responses back. Let me try to explain it better for you. I understand I am 100% in control of the choices I make and the food that goes into my mouth. It took me into my 30's to understand that. I have been doing weight watchers for years now...and believe me I understand that. I am responsible for the choices I make. And in the past I have fallen off the wagon. I am back and realize where I went wrong and am recommitted. What I was saying was while I am at my cousin's house (or the wedding) and they chose to serve a certain meal which is not food I would normally eat I cannot (unless I want to be rude) say don't serve me that get me something else (same thing at the wedding). I however did the best I could by leaving some food on my plate, not going for seconds, smaller portions to begin with, and forgoing dessert...etc. Despite my attempts of control (which I am proud of trying for when I could have just said...hmm no control...ok I'll just eat everything in sight!) in an environment where I don't have control of the menu, I ate more fat laden and caloric food than I would have normally. I didn't have access to water like at home. So didn't drink as much. That is what I am saying. I am sure you too have been in situations like that. And as for altering my life I have altered my life and my way of thinking about food. I have totally re-educated myself. You have to or it won't work! But I also refuse to so totally alter it that I hide in my house for fear of bad food at other people's houses or events. I don't want to miss life either!!! If that were the case I would have missed that wedding and that cousin visit both of which I highly enjoyed. Weight loss is a balance of changing your life and also living your life. I have integrated weight loss into my life so much so that most of it I do by habit without much thinking. It has become my way of life. But there will always be situations that don't "fit in my new life" like the cousin visits and the weddings. I refuse to miss out on life's events like that for the sake of militant weight loss regime. What would be the point? Would I enjoy a life that I am hiding from? I have to strike a harmonious balance...and sometimes that results in a temporary gain. So basically what I was trying to say with my post is yeah I had a gain, yeah I was out of my element this weekend, yeah I tried my very best (and was proud of my efforts when the old me wouldn't have tried at all), and yeah it was worth it to me because I enjoyed the wedding and the cousin visit immensely, and it was a tiny setback in the big picture. And YES come Sunday evening I was IMMEDIATELY back in my element and IMMEDIATELY back on track! I hope I have clarified this for you. You may not feel I did positively this weekend or that I have the wrong mindset...but despite my gain I am proud of my efforts and I feel it is better to be realistic about weight loss. I am not perfect even though I try to be!!! Melissa in NJ |
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Week 8 - The Wedding Blues!
Glad to hear you enjoyed the wedding. Being away from home is always very
difficult. Up the water this week and I'm sure a lot of the xtra sodium related weight will disappear in time for your next WI. "Melissa in NJ" wrote in message oups.com... HA! Not my wedding! But I was out of town all weekend at the whim of other people's menus. Saturday we had a wedding in Maryland (great time) but they had a very very limited food selection. I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. Then that evening we went to my cousin's who lived near where the wedding was and stayed over into Sunday for a good visit (also fun). We were at their food mercy for several meals while visiting. Again I didn't do too badly, but still more points than usual. The real problem though was I didn't drink even a fraction of the water I was supposed to over the weekend. Talk about all that sodium!!! It just wasn't in the cards. I immediately returned to normal Monday, but with a noon Tuesday weigh in that's not much time to bounce back and get off the additional weight or more importantly flush all that extra sodium and get myself back to my normal hydration levels. So I had a 1.8 pound gain. I am not despairing though (even though no one likes a gain) because I know this was out of my control and I did the best I could under the circumstances. I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life for the sake of staying home and watching every point. I also refuse to let a small gain get me down...we're talking big picture here!!! Also this week I did manage to get way more activity in. Go me!!! Melissa in NJ |
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Well said.
"Melissa in NJ" wrote in message oups.com... George I think you took a few of my points out of context or didn't understand the spirit of my post. I also think you made some quick grand assumptions about me and gave me quick generic responses back. Let me try to explain it better for you. I understand I am 100% in control of the choices I make and the food that goes into my mouth. It took me into my 30's to understand that. I have been doing weight watchers for years now...and believe me I understand that. I am responsible for the choices I make. And in the past I have fallen off the wagon. I am back and realize where I went wrong and am recommitted. What I was saying was while I am at my cousin's house (or the wedding) and they chose to serve a certain meal which is not food I would normally eat I cannot (unless I want to be rude) say don't serve me that get me something else (same thing at the wedding). I however did the best I could by leaving some food on my plate, not going for seconds, smaller portions to begin with, and forgoing dessert...etc. Despite my attempts of control (which I am proud of trying for when I could have just said...hmm no control...ok I'll just eat everything in sight!) in an environment where I don't have control of the menu, I ate more fat laden and caloric food than I would have normally. I didn't have access to water like at home. So didn't drink as much. That is what I am saying. I am sure you too have been in situations like that. And as for altering my life I have altered my life and my way of thinking about food. I have totally re-educated myself. You have to or it won't work! But I also refuse to so totally alter it that I hide in my house for fear of bad food at other people's houses or events. I don't want to miss life either!!! If that were the case I would have missed that wedding and that cousin visit both of which I highly enjoyed. Weight loss is a balance of changing your life and also living your life. I have integrated weight loss into my life so much so that most of it I do by habit without much thinking. It has become my way of life. But there will always be situations that don't "fit in my new life" like the cousin visits and the weddings. I refuse to miss out on life's events like that for the sake of militant weight loss regime. What would be the point? Would I enjoy a life that I am hiding from? I have to strike a harmonious balance...and sometimes that results in a temporary gain. So basically what I was trying to say with my post is yeah I had a gain, yeah I was out of my element this weekend, yeah I tried my very best (and was proud of my efforts when the old me wouldn't have tried at all), and yeah it was worth it to me because I enjoyed the wedding and the cousin visit immensely, and it was a tiny setback in the big picture. And YES come Sunday evening I was IMMEDIATELY back in my element and IMMEDIATELY back on track! I hope I have clarified this for you. You may not feel I did positively this weekend or that I have the wrong mindset...but despite my gain I am proud of my efforts and I feel it is better to be realistic about weight loss. I am not perfect even though I try to be!!! Melissa in NJ |
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Week 8 - The Wedding Blues!
Is this your real personality? Do you think you're being criticized and
feel the need to act out in imagined defense? My original post, as you know, was not directed to you and had nothing to do with you at all. Yet you homed in on me again. Why do you feel the need to continually direct insulting comments toward me? Oh well, go right ahead, then, if you can't help yourself ... ) "Willow Herself" wrote in message ... If you weren't so dumb.. you'd be funny Will` "George" wrote in message . .. I quoted her exact words and responded to her in an objective and polite manner. If you feel it necessary to resort to name-calling and insults to make a point, you've already lost. " ... she said she had no control over the menu." Of course, we all know she didn't create the food choices. She said she ate too much and she blamed the menu for that. Is that what you meant by "being in control" and "she did quite well"? So you think a little over eating is fine when a person can't control the menu? Is that what WW teaches - that one can blame overeating on the menu? Sheeesh ... !!! "Willow Herself" wrote in message et... George... get lost.. She didn't say she had no control over her eating, she said she had no control over the menu.. and that even then, she did quite well... That's being in control, to keep a grip even when you can't control the menu... Learn to read.. it'll keep you from making an idiot of yourself when you post.. I bet you can find a school in your neighborhood for adults with your kind of challenge... if you're an adult that is.. somehow I doubt it.. Will~ "George" wrote in message .. . "Melissa in NJ" wrote in message oups.com... ... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. ... We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points than usual. ... ... I know this was out of my control ... ... I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life ... Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll never solve your weight problem. Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to "alter your life". |
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"criticized?" by you?
heheeheh That requires qualities you don't have.. Will~ "George" wrote in message . net... Is this your real personality? Do you think you're being criticized and feel the need to act out in imagined defense? My original post, as you know, was not directed to you and had nothing to do with you at all. Yet you homed in on me again. Why do you feel the need to continually direct insulting comments toward me? Oh well, go right ahead, then, if you can't help yourself ... ) "Willow Herself" wrote in message ... If you weren't so dumb.. you'd be funny Will` "George" wrote in message . .. I quoted her exact words and responded to her in an objective and polite manner. If you feel it necessary to resort to name-calling and insults to make a point, you've already lost. " ... she said she had no control over the menu." Of course, we all know she didn't create the food choices. She said she ate too much and she blamed the menu for that. Is that what you meant by "being in control" and "she did quite well"? So you think a little over eating is fine when a person can't control the menu? Is that what WW teaches - that one can blame overeating on the menu? Sheeesh ... !!! "Willow Herself" wrote in message et... George... get lost.. She didn't say she had no control over her eating, she said she had no control over the menu.. and that even then, she did quite well... That's being in control, to keep a grip even when you can't control the menu... Learn to read.. it'll keep you from making an idiot of yourself when you post.. I bet you can find a school in your neighborhood for adults with your kind of challenge... if you're an adult that is.. somehow I doubt it.. Will~ "George" wrote in message .. . "Melissa in NJ" wrote in message oups.com... ... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. ... We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points than usual. ... ... I know this was out of my control ... ... I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life ... Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll never solve your weight problem. Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to "alter your life". |
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Week 8 - The Wedding Blues!
My, you really do go on and on! Just what is it that bothers you so much
about me - someone you've never met. Do you live in or near Los Angeles? "Willow Herself" wrote in message t... "criticized?" by you? heheeheh That requires qualities you don't have.. Will~ "George" wrote in message . net... Is this your real personality? Do you think you're being criticized and feel the need to act out in imagined defense? My original post, as you know, was not directed to you and had nothing to do with you at all. Yet you homed in on me again. Why do you feel the need to continually direct insulting comments toward me? Oh well, go right ahead, then, if you can't help yourself ... ) "Willow Herself" wrote in message ... If you weren't so dumb.. you'd be funny Will` "George" wrote in message . .. I quoted her exact words and responded to her in an objective and polite manner. If you feel it necessary to resort to name-calling and insults to make a point, you've already lost. " ... she said she had no control over the menu." Of course, we all know she didn't create the food choices. She said she ate too much and she blamed the menu for that. Is that what you meant by "being in control" and "she did quite well"? So you think a little over eating is fine when a person can't control the menu? Is that what WW teaches - that one can blame overeating on the menu? Sheeesh ... !!! "Willow Herself" wrote in message et... George... get lost.. She didn't say she had no control over her eating, she said she had no control over the menu.. and that even then, she did quite well... That's being in control, to keep a grip even when you can't control the menu... Learn to read.. it'll keep you from making an idiot of yourself when you post.. I bet you can find a school in your neighborhood for adults with your kind of challenge... if you're an adult that is.. somehow I doubt it.. Will~ "George" wrote in message .. . "Melissa in NJ" wrote in message oups.com... ... I did my best (which wasn't too bad) but more points than usual. ... We were at their food mercy for several meals ... still more points than usual. ... ... I know this was out of my control ... ... I refuse to alter all of my life for weight loss by missing out on the good things in life ... Continue to believe that you have no control over eating, and you'll never solve your weight problem. Alter your way of thinking about food, and you'll no longer have to "alter your life". |
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