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Old August 28th, 2004, 02:46 PM
Lady o' the house
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Default Lots of compliments/Body image

School started back up this week, and I saw a lot of my colleagues for the
first time after being out all summer. I was almost embarrassed by all the
compliments they were giving me (almost, but not too much! LOL). They all
said that I look fantastic and my supervisor even said that I seem to have a
'glow' about me. I figured out that I'd lost close to 25 pounds just since
school let out at the end of May. I guess 25 pounds does make a difference.

Last night, I saw a very good friend for the first time in about a year.
She works at another school in our system and I rarely get to see her.
Anyway, she just gushed with compliments!

It really lifted my spirits. I told DH that I know the scale shows a
93-pound loss, but when I look in the mirror, I still see this 'blob' of a
person. I'm beginning to see how anorexic people can look at themselves and
fail to see how thin they really are.

Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it get better
eventually? I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the scale.
I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and giving my
'mind' a break.

Any advice?

--
Linda
296/203/160
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html



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Old August 28th, 2004, 03:06 PM
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"Lady o' the house" wrote in message
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Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it get

better
eventually? I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the scale.
I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and giving my
'mind' a break.


No. It's a whole new viewpoint and it will take some getting used to. I
would just wait it out...and enjoy the ride :-)

As for giving your mind and body a break, it's not a bad idea from either a
physiological or psychological standpoint. Just for the sake of 'why the
hell not?', I'd shoot for a weight of 196 and then take a month long 'break'
from dieting. Continue eating low-carb, but don't eat below maintenance
calories. Your body will thank you for this and when it comes time to
restrict calories again, it'll be happy to lose more fat. :-)



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Pen
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Old August 28th, 2004, 03:50 PM
rosie
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:
: Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it
get better
: eventually?

sometimes the "self image problem" takes care of itself
automatically, but other times it does not, and getting some therapy
would be a GREAT idea.





I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the scale.


OBCESSING over anything, is NOT a good idea, and can lead to
disaster.
i am one who can obcess over numbers and i don't use a scale because
of that!






: I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and
giving my
: 'mind' a break.
:
: Any advice?
:
: --
: Linda
: 296/203/160
: LC since Oct. 13, 2003
: http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
:
:
:


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Old August 28th, 2004, 04:42 PM
Lady o' the house
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Thanks, Pen. A rest from the scale and hard-core LC sounds welcome, now.
Mind you, I won't go 'off plan,' though. I'll look at it as practicing for
the day when I won't have to worry so much about losing but just
maintaining.

--
Linda
296/203/160
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html


"Penelope Baker" wrote in message
...
"Lady o' the house" wrote in message
...

Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it get

better
eventually? I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the

scale.
I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and giving my
'mind' a break.


No. It's a whole new viewpoint and it will take some getting used to. I
would just wait it out...and enjoy the ride :-)

As for giving your mind and body a break, it's not a bad idea from either

a
physiological or psychological standpoint. Just for the sake of 'why the
hell not?', I'd shoot for a weight of 196 and then take a month long

'break'
from dieting. Continue eating low-carb, but don't eat below maintenance
calories. Your body will thank you for this and when it comes time to
restrict calories again, it'll be happy to lose more fat. :-)



--
Peace,
Pen
--
Pawbreakers - The Candy for Cats!
http://www.pawbreakers.com




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Old August 28th, 2004, 04:43 PM
Lady o' the house
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Thanks, rosie. I'll wait it out a little longer, and think about seeing a
therapist if it doesn't improve

--
Linda
296/203/160
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html


" rosie" wrote in message
...
:
: Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it
get better
: eventually?

sometimes the "self image problem" takes care of itself
automatically, but other times it does not, and getting some therapy
would be a GREAT idea.





I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the scale.


OBCESSING over anything, is NOT a good idea, and can lead to
disaster.
i am one who can obcess over numbers and i don't use a scale because
of that!






: I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and
giving my
: 'mind' a break.
:
: Any advice?
:
: --
: Linda
: 296/203/160
: LC since Oct. 13, 2003
: http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html
:
:
:




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Old August 28th, 2004, 04:51 PM
DG511
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"Lady o' the house"

writes:

I know the scale shows a
93-pound loss, but when I look in the mirror, I still see this 'blob' of a
person. I'm beginning to see how anorexic people can look at themselves and
fail to see how thin they really are.


I sometimes wonder if anyone has a sense of how they look to others.

Please take this the way it is meant: I have complimented you as much as I've
complimented anyone here (I'm not normally an effusive person). I am totally
awed by your progress. Your weight-loss accomplishment is outstanding,
exemplary, and a credit to your self-discipline and general character. And
yes, you still have some weight to lose and you're still round where you might
want to be angular. You are NOT a blob. You look *fantastic* compared to your
start pictures. You still have a way to go, though, and if that's what you're
seeing, credit yourself with being a realist.

Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it get better
eventually? I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the scale.
I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and giving my
'mind' a break.


One thing to keep in mind is that you had a lot of weight to lose, and it's
come off quickly thus far. That's likely to slow down at some point as you
approach goal. You'll have plenty of time to adjust to your new body when that
happens. When you're closer to 180 or 170, you might want to think about
talking to a doctor then.

On the other hand, you're going through a big adjustment, and not just
physically. If you previously defined yourself by your size, that might
warrant a visit to a doctor now. One of my Internet friends has a form of
dwarfism, and we've had several discussions about people defining others by
their size. There are issues of unwanted attention, people treating each other
differently based on size, etc. If people are reacting to you differently
while you're the same person inside, that might be disconcerting.

Anyway, I think what you're going through is probably normal, but seeking
therapy if you're uncomfortable isn't unrealistic. As for stopping and holding
at maintenance, the big thing you'd have to decide is how likely you are to
start again. You seem to have good momentum, and I'd hate to see you stop and
get stuck. So that might be a reason to talk to a professional, too -- so
you're more confident about continuing.

Daria
166/under 145/under 145
sugar-free since 2/1/04
low-carb since 2/17/04

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Old August 28th, 2004, 05:00 PM
Lady o' the house
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Thanks, Daria. I like what you said about being a 'realist.' Maybe I'm
confusing my image problems with realism. I feel like I'm at a point where
I need to, at least mentally if not physically, step back and do some
thinking. Thanks for your advice.

--
Linda
296/203/160
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html


"DG511" wrote in message
...
"Lady o' the house"


writes:

I know the scale shows a
93-pound loss, but when I look in the mirror, I still see this 'blob' of

a
person. I'm beginning to see how anorexic people can look at themselves

and
fail to see how thin they really are.


I sometimes wonder if anyone has a sense of how they look to others.

Please take this the way it is meant: I have complimented you as much as

I've
complimented anyone here (I'm not normally an effusive person). I am

totally
awed by your progress. Your weight-loss accomplishment is outstanding,
exemplary, and a credit to your self-discipline and general character.

And
yes, you still have some weight to lose and you're still round where you

might
want to be angular. You are NOT a blob. You look *fantastic* compared to

your
start pictures. You still have a way to go, though, and if that's what

you're
seeing, credit yourself with being a realist.

Do I need to see a doctor about my self-image problem, or does it get

better
eventually? I am worried because I am starting to obsess over the scale.
I've been thinking about going on maintenance for awhile and giving my
'mind' a break.


One thing to keep in mind is that you had a lot of weight to lose, and

it's
come off quickly thus far. That's likely to slow down at some point as

you
approach goal. You'll have plenty of time to adjust to your new body when

that
happens. When you're closer to 180 or 170, you might want to think about
talking to a doctor then.

On the other hand, you're going through a big adjustment, and not just
physically. If you previously defined yourself by your size, that might
warrant a visit to a doctor now. One of my Internet friends has a form of
dwarfism, and we've had several discussions about people defining others

by
their size. There are issues of unwanted attention, people treating each

other
differently based on size, etc. If people are reacting to you differently
while you're the same person inside, that might be disconcerting.

Anyway, I think what you're going through is probably normal, but seeking
therapy if you're uncomfortable isn't unrealistic. As for stopping and

holding
at maintenance, the big thing you'd have to decide is how likely you are

to
start again. You seem to have good momentum, and I'd hate to see you stop

and
get stuck. So that might be a reason to talk to a professional, too -- so
you're more confident about continuing.

Daria
166/under 145/under 145
sugar-free since 2/1/04
low-carb since 2/17/04



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Old August 28th, 2004, 05:33 PM
rosie
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i don't know who wrote this but i just love it!


MY NEW PLAN



My New Policy

Throw out all the non-essential numbers. This includes age, weight
and
height. Let the doctor worry about them - that is why you pay him.

Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. If you
really
need a grouch, there are probably a few of your relatives to do the
job.

Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening,
whatever. Just never let your brain idle.

Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. Laugh
so
much that you can be tracked in the store by your distinctive
laughter.

The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who
is
with you our entire life is yourself.

Surround yourself with what you love, whether it is family, pets,
keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your r!
refuge.

Cherish your health. If it is good - preserve it. If it is
unstable -
improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve - get help.

Don't take guilt trips. Go to the mall, the next county, a foreign
country... but not to guilt.

Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
And remember that Life is not measured by the number of breaths we
take... but by the moments that take our breath away!


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Old August 28th, 2004, 07:05 PM
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Hello Linda,

You've lost almost 1/3 of your original weight, so that is great. But
since you are still 200, and unless you are quite tall, you are still
large, albet MUCH smaller than before. So, great going. Most people are
in awe of someone who has managed as you have done, as it seems most
people don't know how to lose weight.

I'd say, you aren't really used to your size, and you are seeing yourself,
for possibly the first time in a long time as you probably are. (Did you
even look in the mirror before?) Is it possible that you were in denial
for a long time as to how big you actually were? 300 lbs. is rather
large...200 is large for a woman of average height. I say that, as a woman
who was almost 200 lbs and I know that i was in denial for a long time
about how big I really was.

I'd suggest getting down to 180 before taking a break as there seems to be
a big difference in those 20 lbs, where you are getting soo close to being
out of those big sizes and into just 16's and large ladies' sizes
clothing. That is such a big boost to your confidence.

You are doing great, though. You've really made great progress. I've not
checked out your pics lately, but anyone who has lost as much as you have
is doing great!! I'd say keep it up for another 20 lbs and then take a
little break if you feel the need.

I'd only say take a break if you think you absolutely need it. I don't
think "obsessing" over the scale is such a bad thing as long as you keep
it under control. I think that reading here and Jenny's site, and
understanding what is happening to you body is the best thing that you can
do in helping you mentally. Getting over the fear of a couple of pounds
is wonderful as you won't feel like throwing in the towel with a 2 lb.
weight gain for eating something forbidden or TOM.

Please don't think I'm being harsh. I'm trying not to be. You are doing
great. I'd suggest to keep it up. Don't give yourself a label as being
"obsessive" unless you really are. (I think lots of people/children are
labelled when they are really quite normal...we all have our hangups of
one kind of another.)

JMO,
Becky P.
199/140/135 currently on break but plan on starting back as soon as the
corn in the garden is done...
www.family.solidrockpl.org

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Old August 28th, 2004, 07:30 PM
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On Sat, 28 Aug 2004 15:42:47 GMT, Lady o' the house
wrote:

Thanks, Pen. A rest from the scale and hard-core LC sounds welcome, now.
Mind you, I won't go 'off plan,' though. I'll look at it as practicing
for
the day when I won't have to worry so much about losing but just
maintaining.

--
Linda
296/203/160
LC since Oct. 13, 2003
http://home.att.net/~lewis_linda/index.html




What I do is eat more vegetables and fruit and things like that when I
want to go off plan. I'll also have pizza and ice cream every once in a
great while. But, I'm also biking a ton.



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Bob M
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