Snooty? Maybe

"Fairweather Princess" wrote in message
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When I was in college, I dated a 6'5" boy who weighed 265 lbs. (let's call
him Mike.) He grew up being the fattest kid in school. I had just gained
60 lbs to my already-bigger-than-other-girls frame. after dating for 1
year or so, he went to a 5 month internship accross the country. We
decided to diet together and keep each other motivated, and when we see
each other in 5 months, we'll both be beautiful.

fast forward 5 months, i've lost 20 lbs. he had lost 45. I'm 5'5", he's
6'5". Guess who's more beautiful.

When we are together again, I realized that he has changed. When we go
out to eat, he'd say, "Honey, is that really a good choice for you? You
gotta think about the long term benefits. Delayed rewards vs. instant
gratification." When I mention food that are obviously yummy, his face
would get all scrunched up and say "yuck! that's so gross..." (this is
stuff applying to things like pizza, burgers, calzones, cakes, ice cream
sundaes etc etc.) and he would get excited about things like fresh
vegetables, like bell peppers.

I called my best friend to whine about this. (she was in Texas, I was up
north.) She nodded and smiled, and came to visit me. to my utter horror,
she had lost 30 lbs. (she weighed MORE than me when we first parted two
years ago. before my 50 lb weight gain) And when I suggested that we go
have dinner (or anytime i suggest that we grab anything to eat,) she would
scrunch up her face and say, "i'm not really hungry." and when she did
eat, she would eat a serving of the food and call it a day.

Fastforward 5 years. I've dropped both of those lovely people out of my
life. (thankfully they did NOT hook up with each other, like a bad
melodrama tv-show). And here I am on my own diet, tracking calories on a
spreadsheet religiously. and even thinking about plunking down money for
a personal trainer comes new year. But the thing that bothers me is that
the otherday i thought about a grease dripping burger and thought, "ew
gross." and I too am following strict "portion control." And yesterday,
when i gave away my ice cream sundae, part of me was kind of sad -- I
felt so snooty when I order a salad instead of a cold cut trio. I don't
like how those two people made me feel way back when, and I don't want to
become like those two people, but i even caught myself scrunch up my face
at the mention of mayonnaise!!

are all diet successes doomed to become jerks?? your thoughts are, as
usual, appreciated.

He doesn't sound like a "jerk" to me at all. A guy doesn't become a "jerk"
just because a relationship doesn't work out or you have a difference of
opinion. It sounds like he was upset you weren't supporting him or "sticking
with the program".

However, I do notice that when people lose weight (especially true with
women) then they tend to be complete asses to other people who are
overweight, like their own bit of self-improvement entitles them to be ruler
of the universe or something, like they know it all now.

A year later when they are fat again, you can remind them what a tosser they
were ;-)

He doesn't sound like a "jerk" to me at all. A guy doesn't become a "jerk"
just because a relationship doesn't work out or you have a difference of
opinion. It sounds like he was upset you weren't supporting him or "sticking
with the program".

However, I do notice that when people lose weight (especially true with
women) then they tend to be complete asses to other people who are
overweight, like their own bit of self-improvement entitles them to be ruler
of the universe or something, like they know it all now.

A year later when they are fat again, you can remind them what a tosser they
were ;-)



1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be
a good "trophy wife."
2. but judging by how he used to wake up in the middle of the night to
cry about how he's not good enough because he's still too fat, i'm sure
he doesn't need me to remind him what a tosser he actually is.
3. his new gf looks like a man. And she can't do much dieting to change
that.

yeah, i was concerned that I'll be an asshole to other people just
because I managed to finally rule my own body. But you know, I'm
already an asshole to many people on many other issues, so maybe it's
not something I should be too concerned about.

1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."

You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.

1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."

You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.

1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."

You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.

1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."

You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.

Darkfalz wrote:
1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."


You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.



don't be hatin' just because you're a miget. I happen to think they look
good next to me. I never claimed to be a saint. and I'm sure by now my
holier than thou attitude has done little to perpetuate that image.

why are we arguing about my past relationships? you're fat, i'm fat,
let's lose some weight. Then I'll go back to looking for my trophy boy,
and you can go back to raping your cousins. K?

"Fairweather Princess" wrote in message
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Darkfalz wrote:
1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."


You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.

don't be hatin' just because you're a miget. I happen to think they look
good next to me. I never claimed to be a saint. and I'm sure by now my
holier than thou attitude has done little to perpetuate that image.

why are we arguing about my past relationships? you're fat, i'm fat, let's
lose some weight. Then I'll go back to looking for my trophy boy, and you
can go back to raping your cousins. K?

*standing ovation*
You rock Princess! I like your style

Jenn

"Fairweather Princess" wrote in message
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Darkfalz wrote:
1. he was a jerk -- eventually he dumped me because i'm not going to be a
good "trophy wife."


You went for a guy who was a whole foot taller than you. If anyone was
looking for a trophy partner, it was you.

don't be hatin' just because you're a miget. I happen to think they look
good next to me. I never claimed to be a saint. and I'm sure by now my
holier than thou attitude has done little to perpetuate that image.

why are we arguing about my past relationships? you're fat, i'm fat, let's
lose some weight. Then I'll go back to looking for my trophy boy, and you
can go back to raping your cousins. K?

*standing ovation*
You rock Princess! I like your style

Jenn

"Fairweather Princess" wrote in message
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and my parents will never stop asking me when I'm getting married. (until
I get married, but that's not really related to this thread.)

And then they will ask you when the grandchildren will arrive - it truly
never ends.

plain celery sticks...now...that's good eat'n! *wink wink nudge nudge*

You truly know how to live on the wild side, though a little hummus makes
those celery sticks completely decadent

Jenn