Avoiding Sabateurs

I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

On Tue, 14 Sep 2004 17:54:05 GMT, Cathe B
wrote:

I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

Yes - I'll send you my address )

janice
(who loves brownies too)

On Tue, 14 Sep 2004 17:54:05 GMT, Cathe B
wrote:

I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

Yes - I'll send you my address )

janice
(who loves brownies too)

Cathe B wrote:
I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

Is this seriously a problem you've got - too many people bringing you
brownies?

Well, assuming it is, here's what I'd do. I'd say, 'I love you to
death, but I'm really making an effort to stop eating recreationally.
Please don't bring me by brownies because I've got to disentangle love
and food and fun and recreation with regards to how many calories I
consume. Can you think of another way to be with me besides eating for
fun?'

Honestly, you may have to disentangle yourself from some relationships
if they're built around calories. Some of us have mentioned
alcohol-based activities we do with friends that we essentially stop
seeing when we stop doing alcohol-based events.

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

The trash can comes to mind. It's cheap junk, Cathe. Pitch it. Better
it fills a landfill than your thighs.

Dally

Cathe B wrote:
I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

Is this seriously a problem you've got - too many people bringing you
brownies?

Well, assuming it is, here's what I'd do. I'd say, 'I love you to
death, but I'm really making an effort to stop eating recreationally.
Please don't bring me by brownies because I've got to disentangle love
and food and fun and recreation with regards to how many calories I
consume. Can you think of another way to be with me besides eating for
fun?'

Honestly, you may have to disentangle yourself from some relationships
if they're built around calories. Some of us have mentioned
alcohol-based activities we do with friends that we essentially stop
seeing when we stop doing alcohol-based events.

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

The trash can comes to mind. It's cheap junk, Cathe. Pitch it. Better
it fills a landfill than your thighs.

Dally

"Ignoramus13229" wrote in message
...
The less attractive types are those who want to see you fail at least
once and to prove that you don't have the willpower, and who offer you
brownies for sinister reasons. If they are not repulsed by a polite
no, escalate your refusal and do not be afraid to be not particularly
polite, as they deserve it.

For these, finding new friends might also be a good idea. I mean, if people
are actively and consciously trying to sabotage your life, maybe you don't
need to call them friends. Some people are just noxious.
As for the refusal strategy, one advice I have read is to keep to the simple
"no, I don't want any brownie" and repeat it ad nauseam. You don't have to
justify yourself, beyond the fact that you don't *want* that brownie. If you
try to justify yourself, you're exposing weaknesses and room for arguments.
People will try to pick your arguments appart and outwit you or show your
contradictions. But really, the only argument you need for not wanting to
eat brownies is that you don't want to eat brownies. It's perfectly self
sufficient. Food is like sex, what gets in your body is your own decision to
make, there is no arguing with it.

On 9/14/2004 1:54 PM, Cathe B wrote:
I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

Cathe, are they just being nice and don't realize that this doesn't fit
into your new WOE or are they really trying to sabatoge you? If they
just don't know then maybe you could explain to them that while you
appreciate it, you just can't have that around. I think that they will
understand. If it's easier you could say your doctor said no more
brownies but you'd appreciate some fresh veggies from their garden (or
whatever). I mean, I think that they are trying to be nice and they
want to bring something, is that the case?

--
jmk in NC

On 9/14/2004 1:54 PM, Cathe B wrote:
I love brownies. They are my all time favorite torture my scale food...
how do you all deal with folks who are "helping" by bringing you food
who include "Just one treat, I know you'd want it".

I've been wrapping up treats I've been given and hand them to the little
girl next door, but her mom is worried about snacking on them herself,
so we're both scratching our heads for options. We came up with bringing
the treat bags to the people who sit on the corners in our neighborhood
with the "homeless need help" signs.

Any other ideas?

C

Cathe, are they just being nice and don't realize that this doesn't fit
into your new WOE or are they really trying to sabatoge you? If they
just don't know then maybe you could explain to them that while you
appreciate it, you just can't have that around. I think that they will
understand. If it's easier you could say your doctor said no more
brownies but you'd appreciate some fresh veggies from their garden (or
whatever). I mean, I think that they are trying to be nice and they
want to bring something, is that the case?

--
jmk in NC

jmk wrote:

On 9/14/2004 1:54 PM, Cathe B wrote:


Cathe, are they just being nice and don't realize that this doesn't fit
into your new WOE or are they really trying to sabatoge you? If they
just don't know then maybe you could explain to them that while you
appreciate it, you just can't have that around. I think that they will
understand. If it's easier you could say your doctor said no more
brownies but you'd appreciate some fresh veggies from their garden (or
whatever). I mean, I think that they are trying to be nice and they
want to bring something, is that the case?


I used brownies as an example, but with the disability taking over my
body, some well meaning friends are offering to cook meals for me..a
pretty cool thing. But, yes, I like what people are saying. I have noted
there are two people who seem intent on testing my willpower.

I'll definitely put the bug in the ear about preferences.

jmk wrote:

On 9/14/2004 1:54 PM, Cathe B wrote:


Cathe, are they just being nice and don't realize that this doesn't fit
into your new WOE or are they really trying to sabatoge you? If they
just don't know then maybe you could explain to them that while you
appreciate it, you just can't have that around. I think that they will
understand. If it's easier you could say your doctor said no more
brownies but you'd appreciate some fresh veggies from their garden (or
whatever). I mean, I think that they are trying to be nice and they
want to bring something, is that the case?


I used brownies as an example, but with the disability taking over my
body, some well meaning friends are offering to cook meals for me..a
pretty cool thing. But, yes, I like what people are saying. I have noted
there are two people who seem intent on testing my willpower.

I'll definitely put the bug in the ear about preferences.