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I'm Lisa. I'm trying (and trying and failing and trying again and
failing again, and trying some more) to lose weight. I'm not posting this to elicit sympathy or supportive responses, I'm just tired of trying to do this thing alone. So I thought I'd hang out here a while. See you around. |
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On Tue, 08 May 2007 09:40:23 +0200, Lisa wrote:
I'm Lisa. I'm trying (and trying and failing and trying again and failing again, and trying some more) to lose weight. I'm not posting this to elicit sympathy or supportive responses, I'm just tired of trying to do this thing alone. So I thought I'd hang out here a while. See you around. It's taken me 58 years to get the degree of success I'm currently at. It's a struggle, but if you really want to lose weight, and really work hard at it, you can do it. Unfortunately, results sometimes come so slowly that one gets discouraged before they see much success. It's something you've got to work at every single day. I know this doesn't sound that good, but if you are persistent, it can work. -- Zilbandy |
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What I found I needed was structure. I need public weigh ins etc. I
try totally on my own, I get discouraged, throw in the towel. When I'm on a program that is structured and involves other people (whether meetings, a clinic, a group), I am much more likely to stick to it. M |
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Zilbandy wrote:
On Tue, 08 May 2007 09:40:23 +0200, Lisa wrote: I'm Lisa. I'm trying (and trying and failing and trying again and failing again, and trying some more) to lose weight. I'm not posting this to elicit sympathy or supportive responses, I'm just tired of trying to do this thing alone. So I thought I'd hang out here a while. See you around. It's taken me 58 years to get the degree of success I'm currently at. 58 years?! Whoa... Not meaning to be flippant, but I don't have another 58 years. I'm almost 40 now. It's gotta be today. It's a struggle, but if you really want to lose weight, and really work hard at it, you can do it. Unfortunately, results sometimes come so slowly that one gets discouraged before they see much success. I don't want my success to be dependent on how much weight I lose from day to day. I want it to be dependent on whether or not I wake up alive each morning. My weight gain has gotten to the point of dangerous and if I don't do something about it now I'm not going to be here in five years. It's that serious and I'm scared. And I hate that I'm scared, hate feeling this way but I can't put it off anymore. I'm at the point where there's nowhere to run. Not a comfortable place to be. It's something you've got to work at every single day. You've got that right. Seriously, I wonder sometimes how thin people do it. But then drug addicts and alcoholics probably feel the same way about people who have no trouble remaining sober. I guess everyone has their burden to bear. I know this doesn't sound that good, but if you are persistent, it can work. I sure hope so. |
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On Wed, 09 May 2007 08:59:29 +0200, Lisa wrote:
I don't want my success to be dependent on how much weight I lose from day to day. I want it to be dependent on whether or not I wake up alive each morning. My weight gain has gotten to the point of dangerous and if I don't do something about it now I'm not going to be here in five years. It's that serious and I'm scared. And I hate that I'm scared, hate feeling this way but I can't put it off anymore. I'm at the point where there's nowhere to run. Not a comfortable place to be. Believe me, I know it's not a comfy place to be. I started my last, and so far, successful, weight loss program starting at a portly 602 pounds! I'm current in the 450's and still losing. I've still got a couple hundred pounds to go, but this is the longest (9 months) that I have ever been successful on a diet. If you do a crash diet to shed immediate weight, you're probably not doing your body any good. Slow and steady will do you more good, plus you don't have to go on such a drastic diet. Drastic diets are almost always a formula for disaster and the weight comes back... and brings extra friends with it. A few pounds a week is the best way, in my humble opinion. -- Zilbandy (602 455 250) |
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"Lisa" wrote in message ... Zilbandy wrote: On Tue, 08 May 2007 09:40:23 +0200, Lisa wrote: I'm Lisa. I'm trying (and trying and failing and trying again and failing again, and trying some more) to lose weight. I'm not posting this to elicit sympathy or supportive responses, I'm just tired of trying to do this thing alone. So I thought I'd hang out here a while. See you around. It's taken me 58 years to get the degree of success I'm currently at. 58 years?! Whoa... Not meaning to be flippant, but I don't have another 58 years. I'm almost 40 now. It's gotta be today. It's a struggle, but if you really want to lose weight, and really work hard at it, you can do it. Unfortunately, results sometimes come so slowly that one gets discouraged before they see much success. I don't want my success to be dependent on how much weight I lose from day to day. I want it to be dependent on whether or not I wake up alive each morning. My weight gain has gotten to the point of dangerous and if I don't do something about it now I'm not going to be here in five years. It's that serious and I'm scared. And I hate that I'm scared, hate feeling this way but I can't put it off anymore. I'm at the point where there's nowhere to run. Not a comfortable place to be. It sounds like you are exactly where I was a year ago. That's when I found out my blood pressure was at stroke level, and the doctor told me that, if I didn't get it under control I would not live to see my children grow up. THAT scared me enough to do something about my weight. I've lost 90+ pounds, and am near my goal now. Looking back, I have to say that fear was a great motivator at first, but, eventually, I had to make some tough decisions about my eating and exercise. Do I really want to stay at my new, healthier weight badly enough to resist the behaviors that got me to almost 250 pounds? Or am I going to let myself slide "just for today"? I certainly wish you all the best in your journey, Lisa. I'm glad you've decided to hang around here for a while. |
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Zilbandy wrote:
On Wed, 09 May 2007 08:59:29 +0200, Lisa wrote: I don't want my success to be dependent on how much weight I lose from day to day. I want it to be dependent on whether or not I wake up alive each morning. My weight gain has gotten to the point of dangerous and if I don't do something about it now I'm not going to be here in five years. It's that serious and I'm scared. And I hate that I'm scared, hate feeling this way but I can't put it off anymore. I'm at the point where there's nowhere to run. Not a comfortable place to be. Believe me, I know it's not a comfy place to be. I started my last, and so far, successful, weight loss program starting at a portly 602 pounds! I'm current in the 450's and still losing. I've still got a couple hundred pounds to go, but this is the longest (9 months) that I have ever been successful on a diet. If you do a crash diet to shed immediate weight, you're probably not doing your body any good. Slow and steady will do you more good, plus you don't have to go on such a drastic diet. Drastic diets are almost always a formula for disaster and the weight comes back... and brings extra friends with it. A few pounds a week is the best way, in my humble opinion. Congratulations on your loss, that's wonderful! Boy have I needed to talk to you, you've no idea. Thanks so much for replying. I've lurked here a few times and read people who needed to lose fifty pounds or so, or those of seemingly small stature in whom a loss of twenty or thirty pounds was a big deal. Currently I need to lose two hundred and it's not a battle anymore, it's war. May I ask, how do you approach exercise? I bought a yoga tape designed specifically for heavy people and it's a challenge. The thought of doing it more than a couple times a week depresses me because it's so overwhelming. Then there's walking, which totally wears me out, and afterward I don't want to do anything but sleep for three hours. (I'm ashamed to be telling all this on myself but what can you do. When a person needs help, they need help, and it isn't happening if I'm not asking.) There's swimming but it takes a week to get over the laughter, constant staring and half-whispered jibes I get from showing up at a public pool. (I happen to think my bathing suit is very appropriate and cute, by the way. I think it's me that's causing the problem.) So exercise is also a big challenge. Truthfully I begin to think maybe I'm taking on too much. I've been sedentary for so long, maybe it'd be better to begin with exercise I can do while sitting down, or using the back of a chair for support. Any thoughts? |
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teachrmama wrote:
"Lisa" wrote in message ... Zilbandy wrote: On Tue, 08 May 2007 09:40:23 +0200, Lisa wrote: I'm Lisa. I'm trying (and trying and failing and trying again and failing again, and trying some more) to lose weight. I'm not posting this to elicit sympathy or supportive responses, I'm just tired of trying to do this thing alone. So I thought I'd hang out here a while. See you around. It's taken me 58 years to get the degree of success I'm currently at. 58 years?! Whoa... Not meaning to be flippant, but I don't have another 58 years. I'm almost 40 now. It's gotta be today. It's a struggle, but if you really want to lose weight, and really work hard at it, you can do it. Unfortunately, results sometimes come so slowly that one gets discouraged before they see much success. I don't want my success to be dependent on how much weight I lose from day to day. I want it to be dependent on whether or not I wake up alive each morning. My weight gain has gotten to the point of dangerous and if I don't do something about it now I'm not going to be here in five years. It's that serious and I'm scared. And I hate that I'm scared, hate feeling this way but I can't put it off anymore. I'm at the point where there's nowhere to run. Not a comfortable place to be. It sounds like you are exactly where I was a year ago. That's when I found out my blood pressure was at stroke level, and the doctor told me that, if I didn't get it under control I would not live to see my children grow up. THAT scared me enough to do something about my weight. I've lost 90+ pounds, and am near my goal now. Looking back, I have to say that fear was a great motivator at first, but, eventually, I had to make some tough decisions about my eating and exercise. Do I really want to stay at my new, healthier weight badly enough to resist the behaviors that got me to almost 250 pounds? Or am I going to let myself slide "just for today"? I certainly wish you all the best in your journey, Lisa. I'm glad you've decided to hang around here for a while. Hi teachrmama. Those "just for today" slides are the worst and currently they've landed me in a bad spot. At the beginning of the year I lost 40+ lbs, felt a little better and it was a huge ego boost. Then my health went bad and the fear and stress that put on me resulted in my falling back on old habits to try and cope, which was eating to relieve stress. That's the biggie for me. I've been doing that since I was a child. I gained back approximately half of what I lost and now I'm locked in this struggle with two sides of myself - the good me and the weak me. The good me lasts until the afternoon and keeps my intake down and sensible. When the afternoon and a little fatigue roll around the weak me starts screaming and eats too much. The weak me also doesn't want to exercise at all, but I can pretty well gag her on that if I have to. I swear, I've never served in the armed forces but I can imagine what it feels like to be on the front line. I feel like I'm there every single day. I tell myself I'm going to go out and do this thing, that the time is now and give myself these wonderful speeches and self-support, but in the afternoon (for the last week at least) it always ends in some measure of failure. I thought I would be doing this thing day by day, but now it seems I'm going to be fighting these bad habits minute by minute. |
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On May 9, 3:02 am, Lisa wrote:
wrote: What I found I needed was structure. I need public weigh ins etc. I try totally on my own, I get discouraged, throw in the towel. When I'm on a program that is structured and involves other people (whether meetings, a clinic, a group), I am much more likely to stick to it. I've discovered I need that too. Structure and some sense of accountability. My family pretty much accepts me for what I am. They don't like the fact that I'm overweight for health reasons but they don't criticize. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Lisa- the one thing you aren't is alone in your struggle- that's for darn sure. And you aren't alone in re-dieting either. 5 years ago I struggled down to what felt like my ideal weight- one baby and 5 years later I am heavier than ever. I am sitting at about one hundred to lose. But we got to scrape, and rip through the guilt and the shame and realize, it sucks, but we have to do it all over again. Maybe next time we can keep it off. You are not alone- don't ever feel alone or hopeless. Where there is life, there is hope. lissa |
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