family unsupportive of my woe

And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend. Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce, salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate that.

det

"determined" wrote in message
...
And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend. Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out
to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce, salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of
the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a
carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and
said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have
put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate
that.

det


You should have reminded her that you did splurge for lunch and as long as
you continue to moderate your overall eating, you will continue to be able
to do so occasionally without compromising your health or weight. There is
a big difference between an occasional splurge and gluttony. One is a
special occasion. The other just makes you feel bad all the time.

j

On Mon, 13 Oct 2003 08:18:41 -0700, "determined"
wrote:

And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend. Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce, salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate that.


DIdn't you post a while back about your sis having gained some weight
and not watching her health all too carefully?

Could possibly be a bit of sister rivalry/jealousy. You look
fabulous and she can't get herself under control... Or, she just
isn't ready to lose weight yet, but because you choose to skip dinner
(well, in a traditional sense), she's acting somewhat offended and
maybe feels like you are being self riteous (even though you aren't).
Like Wendy's mom reacted on the phone a few weeks ago when Wendy
forwarned her that she's lost another 25lbs since her last visit.
Mom's response was to make excuses for why they hadn't lost.

Maybe your sister just isn't able to handle your weight loss because
of her own personal issues. ANd when you stick to your woe it just
is like a slap in the face to her that she does have issues to deal
with. ALthough I know you don't do it intentionally at all. But
for her own f-d up reasons she feels that way. :-)

On Mon, 13 Oct 2003 08:18:41 -0700, "determined"
wrote:

And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend. Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce, salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate that.

IMO it sucks when anyone, nearest and dearest or not, feels they have
to comment on your WOE. Could it be it makes them feel uncomfortable
or a bit guilty to see you being sensible. Can you talk quietly to
your sister and explain why this irritated you?

janice
233/161/133

On Mon, 13 Oct 2003 08:18:41 -0700, "determined"
wrote:

And, like I really care...

You sure do. See below whining.

But it really irritated me this weekend. Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce, salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and said
it was annoying to be around me.

You are. You are a self-absorbed twit.

"You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

Lovely. Do you talk in front of your 6 year old with a potty mouth?

I love her, but really -

uh-huh

The reason I've been successful is that I have put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate that.

alt.support.familyissues.

Whine over there.

And grow up.

Lift well, Eat less, Walk fast, Live long.

And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend. Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce, salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate that.

det

Well, I'm not a size 4, but my family is the same way. Even after losing 175
lbs I was told over and over how low carb diets don't work. OMG ... and then I
gained 40 lbs! SEE, it doesn't work!!!!! um ... I was pregnant!
I even heard my mother go on and on w/ someone on the phone about how I had
gained 40 lbs! What she DIDN'T tell them was that I had also just had a baby.
Screw them ... Now I haven't seen them in years. If you come from a
dysfunctional family and get yourself functional .. they hate it. As long as
you stay as crazy as the crazy makers, they don't have to look at their own
actions.
Sorry, got a little ranty there ... It just hits a spot w/ me.
~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

"Jarkat2002" wrote in message
...
And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend.
Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out
to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce,
salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of
the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a
carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and
said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have
put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate
that.

det

Well, I'm not a size 4, but my family is the same way. Even after losing
175
lbs I was told over and over how low carb diets don't work. OMG ... and
then I
gained 40 lbs! SEE, it doesn't work!!!!! um ... I was pregnant!
I even heard my mother go on and on w/ someone on the phone about how I
had
gained 40 lbs! What she DIDN'T tell them was that I had also just had a
baby.
Screw them ... Now I haven't seen them in years. If you come from a
dysfunctional family and get yourself functional .. they hate it. As long
as
you stay as crazy as the crazy makers, they don't have to look at their
own
actions.
Sorry, got a little ranty there ... It just hits a spot w/ me.
~Kat

Sisters in nearly every family are rivals, it's just the way it is. It
probably didn't help the situation by smugly having just a glass of skim
milk, as if you say "neener, neener, I can control my weight and you can't."

Maybe it would have been nicer to have ordered two smaller meals. It goes
both ways after all and no one person is 100% to blame.

Martha

Sorry you have such a family...

i

Thank you but
I have realized that my family of orientation does determine my family of
creation.
My husband is amazing! And my children are incredible! I'm truly one lucky
woman

~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

"Jarkat2002" wrote in message
...
And, like I really care... But it really irritated me this weekend.
Took
off for the annual beach cleanup on Saturday with my sis, and we went out
to
eat afterwards. I splurged, and had crab cakes w/hollandaise sauce,
salad
w/shrimp, clam chowder, and something from the bakery. For the rest of
the
day, we shopped, and when it came time for dinner, I opted for just a
carton
of nonfat milk, while she ate another full meal. She scoffed at me and
said
it was annoying to be around me. "You're always watching what you eat,
counting carbs and calories - live a little!" I didn't budge, and I was
glad. Sunday I went shopping for some new clothes, and bought all size 4
pants. SO, she can kiss my ass...

I love her, but really - The reason I've been successful is that I have
put
my wol FIRST. And it sucks when the people you love can't appreciate
that.

det

Well, I'm not a size 4, but my family is the same way. Even after losing
175
lbs I was told over and over how low carb diets don't work. OMG ... and
then I
gained 40 lbs! SEE, it doesn't work!!!!! um ... I was pregnant!
I even heard my mother go on and on w/ someone on the phone about how I
had
gained 40 lbs! What she DIDN'T tell them was that I had also just had a
baby.
Screw them ... Now I haven't seen them in years. If you come from a
dysfunctional family and get yourself functional .. they hate it. As long
as
you stay as crazy as the crazy makers, they don't have to look at their
own
actions.
Sorry, got a little ranty there ... It just hits a spot w/ me.
~Kat

I am so sorry. I would have fallen out laughing. One day, bring them 175
pounds of butter (buy it on sale, of course). It is approximately the
consistency and density of body fat. Tell them that your low carb diet
might not work but obviously something did and since they really seem to
celebrate your fat, maybe they should have a token of it. By the way, I
might be tempted to leave it inside very close to the oven where it will
melt all over the kitchen floor.

Oh, and the baby thing? I'm sure it was just one of your many excuses....

I do so hope you have a sense of humor because I enjoyed that. In your
kinder moments, fell badly that your Mom has nothing better to talk about
than your weight.

I have a very loving family with great parents but one day when I am feeling
really, really tough, I will share with y'all the annual Christmas letter my
Mom sent out one year. She mentioned about how I had lost a ton of weight
and something about nurse's 'training' that was really politically
incorrect. I never saw the letter until a friend showed it to me. It was
too late to complain - 500 of my Mom's closest friends had already received
theirs. The truth is that she really didn't understand some of the more
technical aspects of my job as her mother and sisters were nurses in the
30's when being a handmaiden to the doc was an honor and a privilege and the
weight thing is something she struggled with when quitting smoking and she
really thought she was being complimentary. Meanwhile, I have offered to
type and edit all outgoing Christmas correspondence for my parents since
then They are so overwelmed by the fancy clip art and large print that
they fail to notice when I have omitted some ugly fact about myself.

j


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

I am so sorry. I would have fallen out laughing. One day, bring them 175
pounds of butter (buy it on sale, of course). It is approximately the
consistency and density of body fat. Tell them that your low carb diet
might not work but obviously something did and since they really seem to
celebrate your fat, maybe they should have a token of it. By the way, I
might be tempted to leave it inside very close to the oven where it will
melt all over the kitchen floor.

Or maybe in the car on a nice hot summer day? lol
oh .. their not worth it .. but it's fun to think about! lol

Meanwhile, I have offered to
type and edit all outgoing Christmas correspondence for my parents since
then They are so overwelmed by the fancy clip art and large print that
they fail to notice when I have omitted some ugly fact about myself.

j

ahhh .. your a clever one! Good cover! lol
~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer