Personal battle inthe kitchen

Hi all,

A while back I ranted that I was having no cooperation from my mother in
my pursual of a low carb lifestyle.

I had decided that boycotting meals would be my best bet, and it worked.

She started telling me what was for supper, and asking if I could eat it
... sometimes snottily (is that a word?), sometimes not. I chose to
ignore the snottiness and say yes or no, or just asked her if she could
cook more vegetables. Or make arrangements to cook my own supper.

Well I thought we were at a turning point last night. She asked me
about lentils. I looked them up in my book and said .. not really mum
... maybe in a few weeks, but not now .. she then suggested I run them
thru the analyzer with 2 ingredients missing .. I printed them out and
brought them to her.

She then suggested something else, and I said sure that will work.
While I was gone, she went to the grocery store to buy some of the
things that that recipe called for. She couldn't find them, so opted
for the lentil soup. I said no problem mum .. I'll just cook a pork
chop with some veggies.

We went back and forth on that. The main issue here is she has a
brushed metal cooktop that if grease gets on it .. I have a bugger of a
time cleaning .. can't get it clean and leave grease streaks on -
frustrates me to no end .. but I asked her exactly how she cleans it
yesterday afternoon, and it worked .. so that issue is mute. The end
result for my supper last night was, I couldn't cook in her kitchen.

So I was ****ed to say the least. I ended up going out to dinner ..
GREAT supper, but one I could ill afford to spend the money on.

So I got smart today - I brought it up in front of my dad ..
see he works midnights and is sleeping when my mother pulls her gestapo
act with the kitchen.

heh heh .. I reiterated right in front of him, that I NEVER expect her
to cook for MY needs alone .. all I ask is that she cook more veggies
are leave me be to get my own supper. He looked at her and said, is
this true .. she goes yes. She accussed me of leaving her kitchen a
mess. I asked if it was because of the cooktop .. she goes yes. I then
explained to my dad the above about the cooktop. He looks at her. And
asks her if the cooktop was satisfactory in the afternoon .. she goes
yes.

So needless to say, I have cooking priviledges again - granted she is
going to make me pay somewhere along the line for getting my dad into
it, but I don't care. I don't want to ever be in that position again.

Part of my gameplan also, was to be sure that HE understood that I
wasn't expecting my mum to cook meals that would solely fit my eating
along .. just that I wanted the opportunity to be able to fend for
myself.

See, while my dad doesn't want to do Atkins, he's very proud of me for
sticking wtih it and losing the almost 10 lbs that I have. He wants me
to succeed and will do anything he can to ensure that I can!!

My mum is proud of me too, but is worried about my cholesterol. I just
found out that she has high cholesterol last night. So part of her
resistant could be just that. My results were good in July. Since she
is in the medical field, I just may let her stick a needle in me to give
her the proof she needs. So maybe her resistance is her way of looking
out for my health based on her own medical history. Long story but
breast cancer runs rampant in my mum's family and she is a two times
breast cancer survivor. The last time almost killed her. So, while I
understand her concern, she will come to grips to it when she is ready.
Leaving my atkins book accessible is one way for me to ease her into
acceptance.

Maybe I won the war this time??

--
Kitty =^..^=
168/156.6/130 - November Goal 155
17 September 03

On Sun, 16 Nov 2003 15:27:06 -0500, (Qilt) wrote:



Maybe I won the war this time??

Are you old enough and financially able to get your own place and
avoid that kind of useless fighting all together?

That was the same kind of crap my mom used to pull on me until I left
home at age 16.

http://community.webshots.com/user/miss_jaime

Qilt wrote:

Hi all,

A while back I ranted that I was having no cooperation from my mother in
my pursual of a low carb lifestyle.

I had decided that boycotting meals would be my best bet, and it worked.

She started telling me what was for supper, and asking if I could eat it
.. sometimes snottily (is that a word?), sometimes not. I chose to
ignore the snottiness and say yes or no, or just asked her if she could
cook more vegetables. Or make arrangements to cook my own supper.

Well I thought we were at a turning point last night. She asked me
about lentils. I looked them up in my book and said .. not really mum
.. maybe in a few weeks, but not now .. she then suggested I run them
thru the analyzer with 2 ingredients missing .. I printed them out and
brought them to her.

She then suggested something else, and I said sure that will work.
While I was gone, she went to the grocery store to buy some of the
things that that recipe called for. She couldn't find them, so opted
for the lentil soup. I said no problem mum .. I'll just cook a pork
chop with some veggies.

We went back and forth on that. The main issue here is she has a
brushed metal cooktop that if grease gets on it .. I have a bugger of a
time cleaning .. can't get it clean and leave grease streaks on -
frustrates me to no end .. but I asked her exactly how she cleans it
yesterday afternoon, and it worked .. so that issue is mute. The end
result for my supper last night was, I couldn't cook in her kitchen.

So I was ****ed to say the least. I ended up going out to dinner ..
GREAT supper, but one I could ill afford to spend the money on.

So I got smart today - I brought it up in front of my dad ..
see he works midnights and is sleeping when my mother pulls her gestapo
act with the kitchen.

heh heh .. I reiterated right in front of him, that I NEVER expect her
to cook for MY needs alone .. all I ask is that she cook more veggies
are leave me be to get my own supper. He looked at her and said, is
this true .. she goes yes. She accussed me of leaving her kitchen a
mess. I asked if it was because of the cooktop .. she goes yes. I then
explained to my dad the above about the cooktop. He looks at her. And
asks her if the cooktop was satisfactory in the afternoon .. she goes
yes.

So needless to say, I have cooking priviledges again - granted she is
going to make me pay somewhere along the line for getting my dad into
it, but I don't care. I don't want to ever be in that position again.

Part of my gameplan also, was to be sure that HE understood that I
wasn't expecting my mum to cook meals that would solely fit my eating
along .. just that I wanted the opportunity to be able to fend for
myself.

See, while my dad doesn't want to do Atkins, he's very proud of me for
sticking wtih it and losing the almost 10 lbs that I have. He wants me
to succeed and will do anything he can to ensure that I can!!

My mum is proud of me too, but is worried about my cholesterol. I just
found out that she has high cholesterol last night. So part of her
resistant could be just that. My results were good in July. Since she
is in the medical field, I just may let her stick a needle in me to give
her the proof she needs. So maybe her resistance is her way of looking
out for my health based on her own medical history. Long story but
breast cancer runs rampant in my mum's family and she is a two times
breast cancer survivor. The last time almost killed her. So, while I
understand her concern, she will come to grips to it when she is ready.
Leaving my atkins book accessible is one way for me to ease her into
acceptance.

Maybe I won the war this time??

not for the first time, i am so glad that i live alone.

Jaime wrote:

Are you old enough and financially able to get your own place and
avoid that kind of useless fighting all together?

That was the same kind of crap my mom used to pull on me until I left
home at age 16.

oh definitely old enough .. matter of fact, due to financial
considerations .. I HAD to move back home .. not a happy situation for
my son OR myself .. or my parents for that fact.

Anyone want to hire a graphic designer, office administrator, project
coordinator????

Can work on both sides of the border LOL

j/k

--
Kitty =^..^=
168/156.6/130 - November Goal 155
17 September 03
caloric needs visit http://www.femalemuscle.com/nutrition/calculate.html

You are to be congratulated for using such restraint in working
on your mother problem. I would not have been able to do so
well.

Cookie

Hi Kitty, I hope that your job hunting is going well.
My wife was having a devil of a time cleaning her cooktop. I attempted to
assist, without gobs of success, until I noticed a cleaning tool in the
Webber gas and charcoal grill section. A square fiber scrubbing pad with a
handle over the pad. One uses body weight instead of muscle. Perhaps it will
assist you with Mum's precious cooktop.

Alan M

The main issue here is she has a
brushed metal cooktop that if grease gets on it .. I have a bugger of a
time cleaning ..

Cookie Cutter wrote:

You are to be congratulated for using such restraint in working
on your mother problem. I would not have been able to do so
well.

TY .. it's a matter of picking your "battles" with her. And this is one
I will wage.

Getting around her takes a lot of imagination and timing tho :S

But I am used to her gestapo ways in the kitchen, so it's a matter of
getting around her. The time's do eventually present themselves.

Heh heh .. I should submit my reciept for last night's dinner for
reimbursement ROFL

ya right - chuckles

--
Kitty =^..^=
168/156.6/130 - November Goal 155
17 September 03
caloric needs visit http://www.femalemuscle.com/nutrition/calculate.html

Alan M wrote:

Hi Kitty, I hope that your job hunting is going well.

TY Alan .. everyday without fail, I'm looking - and trying to get my
design business built up.

Webber gas and charcoal grill section. A square fiber scrubbing pad with a
handle over the pad. One uses body weight instead of muscle. Perhaps it will
assist you with Mum's precious cooktop.

Hmm that's an idea.

My mum's solution is rather much simpler. It's so stupid you overlook
it. Wipe the cooktop with a paper towel to get up the excess grease,
THEN use the cleaner. I still say she needs to use something other than
fantastik on it tho .. but she won't listen to me. Or even try. So the
paper towel works!


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Kitty =^..^=
168/156.6/130 - November Goal 155
17 September 03
caloric needs visit http://www.femalemuscle.com/nutrition/calculate.html

On Sun, 16 Nov 2003 18:56:55 -0500, (Qilt) wrote:

Alan M wrote:

Hi Kitty, I hope that your job hunting is going well.

TY Alan .. everyday without fail, I'm looking - and trying to get my
design business built up.

Webber gas and charcoal grill section. A square fiber scrubbing pad with a
handle over the pad. One uses body weight instead of muscle. Perhaps it will
assist you with Mum's precious cooktop.

Hmm that's an idea.

My mum's solution is rather much simpler. It's so stupid you overlook
it. Wipe the cooktop with a paper towel to get up the excess grease,
THEN use the cleaner. I still say she needs to use something other than
fantastik on it tho .. but she won't listen to me. Or even try. So the
paper towel works!

Ask her what is more important to her. Your health or her cooktop.

Would she feed you sugar if you were diabetic. I bet she never
considered that.

http://community.webshots.com/user/miss_jaime

Jaime wrote:

Ask her what is more important to her. Your health or her cooktop.

It would be my health .. but she's stubborn ya know ... that would be
cornering her without a way to gracefully back off .. I can only do
something like that when my dad is there ..

That prevents her from the "It's my house and my rules arguement" (@@)
God I hate living here!!

Would she feed you sugar if you were diabetic. I bet she never
considered that.

you're right!

--
Kitty =^..^=
168/156.6/130 - November Goal 155
17 September 03
caloric needs visit http://www.femalemuscle.com/nutrition/calculate.html