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Old November 7th, 2003, 06:04 AM
BigD
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Hey all...

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to
tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to
all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't
fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict.

I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of
water tomorrow to purge my system.

232-218-175 10/19/03


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Old November 7th, 2003, 06:26 AM
Opinicus
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BigD said:

I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons
of water tomorrow to purge my system.


Go on strict induction for about three days (72 hours). That'll undo most if
not all of any damage that may have been done.

--
Bob
Kanyak's Doghouse
http://kanyak.com

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Old November 7th, 2003, 06:48 AM
Wayne Crannell
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In article qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07, "BigD"
wrote:

Hey all...

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to
tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to
all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't
fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict.

I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of
water tomorrow to purge my system.

232-218-175 10/19/03



OK....it happened....you're done....move on.

Now...NEVER DO THAT AGAIN....the ONLY person who should control your
eating is YOU. There is nothing so sacred about any type of food that it
should affect relationships.

The correct answer was, "Mom, I appreciate how hard you worked and
everything looks great, but *I* am working even harder to finally and
forever lose this weight, and I just CAN'T eat this type of food. I'll
get myself something while you're getting the meal ready."

Your Mom made it, but YOU chose to eat it. You can always choose to eat
it.

Good luck.

--
Wayne Crannell
Atkins+ 10/27/01
250/139
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Old November 7th, 2003, 07:38 AM
Van den Beemt
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This happened to me with my MIL too (DH also on Atkins). Beef was great, but
loads of gravy, yorkshire pudding, creamed corn (sugar added), lima beans,
potatoes, and ice cream for dessert. I was 4 weeks into Atkins, and yes I was
guilted into eating too. Now when we go to in-laws for dinner, I politely
refuse to put any high carb on my plate, even though it gets passed back to me
3-4 times to make sure I haven't changed my mind. I know MIL does not approve
of LC, but this is my body and my health. BTW, DH still eats at least a little
of everything his mom serves him. But he has smaller and smaller helpings of
the high carb/high sugar stuff, and passes on dessert. I know it is hard when
it's your mother. And she's close to 90, he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.

When they come here, I serve the most pretty, tasty, balanced LC meals I can.
Including dessert! When it's all over, I let DH know what the carb count was -
usually under 30 -- right at the table. I want MIL to see that LC is *normal*
and *good* food.

Do what you can, and get back to LC afterward. Hang in there.

Deb Van
175/156/130

"BigD" wrote:

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to
tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to
all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't
fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict.

I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of
water tomorrow to purge my system.


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Old November 7th, 2003, 01:03 PM
JC Der Koenig
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Default Bad night....guilted into eating

Why did you accept the invitation in the first place? You must have known
what would happen.

--
JC

Lyle's New Ultimate Diet

"1. eat less you fat ****
2. exercise more you fat ****"

"BigD" wrote in message
news:qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07...
Hey all...

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few

minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to
tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to
all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't
fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict.

I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of
water tomorrow to purge my system.

232-218-175 10/19/03




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Old November 7th, 2003, 04:12 PM
Sue
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"BigD" wrote in message
news:qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07...
Hey all...

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few

minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to
tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to
all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't
fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict.

I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of
water tomorrow to purge my system.

232-218-175 10/19/03



It's okay. It caught you off-guard and hopefully you have learned from it.
The thing is, you may always face this situation with not just your mom but
friends, clients, etc. when you eat out while you are losing as well as long
after you have reached maintenance. Start practicing what you will need to
say in this situation. Use general statements with a smile and be firm. It's
their problem, not yours, if they keep insisting or become rude.

Good luck. I had to face the same thing with the new MIL who was quite rude
and insistent about my eating after I got married years ago. I already had
been in maintenance by three years then. I persevered and she no longer
bothers me about it.


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Old November 7th, 2003, 05:27 PM
jolene278
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I second Wayne's comments. His suggestions to use "I" are important ...
it's not your mother's issue, it's your issue, and it keeps you out of
the guilt-blame game.

Jolene

Wayne Crannell wrote:

The correct answer was, "Mom, I appreciate how hard you worked and
everything looks great, but *I* am working even harder to finally and
forever lose this weight, and I just CAN'T eat this type of food. I'll
get myself something while you're getting the meal ready."

Your Mom made it, but YOU chose to eat it. You can always choose to eat
it.


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Old November 7th, 2003, 07:50 PM
Abby Walker
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Default Bad night....guilted into eating

"Sue" wrote in message news:9DOqb.139643$e01.466803@attbi_s02...
"BigD" wrote in message
news:qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07...
Hey all...

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few

minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies.


If I may...take a lesson from what the "don't smoke around me" crowd
has known for years...even if you don't have an allergy...you can
easily justify asking people to butt out by telling them you've
developed an allergy to whatever it is you want to stay away from.
Honestly, they don't know what to say to that. So tell whoever,
you've developed an allergy or bad reaction to sugars, starches give
you dreadful heartburn or whatever.

Others that I have found works: Sugar has started to give me horrible
migraines. Or my tolerance to certain foods has really changed, I get
horrible headaches/stomach aches, heartburn etc etc if I eat
(whatever). Most people will back down if you indicate it makes you
sick in some way.

The trick is to state it quickly and with as little explanation as
possible. People who are lying, tend to go "on and on" and over
justify, so just slam dunk the excuse and most people will leave you
alone afterwards. If they don't,...just restate simply: Yeah, I'd
really like one but cuz those migraines are just too painful to play
with. Or something to that effect. It's helpful if your spouse just
learns to nod and affirm what you're saying, again with as little
comment as possible. Good luck!
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Old November 7th, 2003, 08:53 PM
Cheri
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Personally, I would discuss it with my mom before the next dinner date.
I would ask her if we could have baked chicken, cauliflower, salad, and
things like that. I'd offer to bring the dessert and beverages if
necessary. In the long run, it'll be a lot less work for your mom, and
will be on your plan. Good luck. :-)

--
Cheri

BigD wrote in message ...
Hey all...

I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few

minor
mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back

in
ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my

mom
knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits,
home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried

to



 




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