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Bad night....guilted into eating
Hey all...
I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict. I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of water tomorrow to purge my system. 232-218-175 10/19/03 |
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Bad night....guilted into eating
BigD said:
I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of water tomorrow to purge my system. Go on strict induction for about three days (72 hours). That'll undo most if not all of any damage that may have been done. -- Bob Kanyak's Doghouse http://kanyak.com |
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In article qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07, "BigD"
wrote: Hey all... I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict. I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of water tomorrow to purge my system. 232-218-175 10/19/03 OK....it happened....you're done....move on. Now...NEVER DO THAT AGAIN....the ONLY person who should control your eating is YOU. There is nothing so sacred about any type of food that it should affect relationships. The correct answer was, "Mom, I appreciate how hard you worked and everything looks great, but *I* am working even harder to finally and forever lose this weight, and I just CAN'T eat this type of food. I'll get myself something while you're getting the meal ready." Your Mom made it, but YOU chose to eat it. You can always choose to eat it. Good luck. -- Wayne Crannell Atkins+ 10/27/01 250/139 |
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This happened to me with my MIL too (DH also on Atkins). Beef was great, but
loads of gravy, yorkshire pudding, creamed corn (sugar added), lima beans, potatoes, and ice cream for dessert. I was 4 weeks into Atkins, and yes I was guilted into eating too. Now when we go to in-laws for dinner, I politely refuse to put any high carb on my plate, even though it gets passed back to me 3-4 times to make sure I haven't changed my mind. I know MIL does not approve of LC, but this is my body and my health. BTW, DH still eats at least a little of everything his mom serves him. But he has smaller and smaller helpings of the high carb/high sugar stuff, and passes on dessert. I know it is hard when it's your mother. And she's close to 90, he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. When they come here, I serve the most pretty, tasty, balanced LC meals I can. Including dessert! When it's all over, I let DH know what the carb count was - usually under 30 -- right at the table. I want MIL to see that LC is *normal* and *good* food. Do what you can, and get back to LC afterward. Hang in there. Deb Van 175/156/130 "BigD" wrote: I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict. I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of water tomorrow to purge my system. |
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Why did you accept the invitation in the first place? You must have known
what would happen. -- JC Lyle's New Ultimate Diet "1. eat less you fat **** 2. exercise more you fat ****" "BigD" wrote in message news:qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07... Hey all... I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict. I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of water tomorrow to purge my system. 232-218-175 10/19/03 |
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"BigD" wrote in message news:qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07... Hey all... I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to tell her I couldn't eat that stuff, but she pulled out the old "I went to all this work, you won't even eat for your mom?" Yes, I knew I shouldn't fall for it, but I ate it just to avoid conflict. I feel like a frickin' balloon now....anxious to drink a few gallons of water tomorrow to purge my system. 232-218-175 10/19/03 It's okay. It caught you off-guard and hopefully you have learned from it. The thing is, you may always face this situation with not just your mom but friends, clients, etc. when you eat out while you are losing as well as long after you have reached maintenance. Start practicing what you will need to say in this situation. Use general statements with a smile and be firm. It's their problem, not yours, if they keep insisting or become rude. Good luck. I had to face the same thing with the new MIL who was quite rude and insistent about my eating after I got married years ago. I already had been in maintenance by three years then. I persevered and she no longer bothers me about it. |
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I second Wayne's comments. His suggestions to use "I" are important ...
it's not your mother's issue, it's your issue, and it keeps you out of the guilt-blame game. Jolene Wayne Crannell wrote: The correct answer was, "Mom, I appreciate how hard you worked and everything looks great, but *I* am working even harder to finally and forever lose this weight, and I just CAN'T eat this type of food. I'll get myself something while you're getting the meal ready." Your Mom made it, but YOU chose to eat it. You can always choose to eat it. |
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"Sue" wrote in message news:9DOqb.139643$e01.466803@attbi_s02...
"BigD" wrote in message news:qJFqb.2667$Cj1.2595@fed1read07... Hey all... I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. If I may...take a lesson from what the "don't smoke around me" crowd has known for years...even if you don't have an allergy...you can easily justify asking people to butt out by telling them you've developed an allergy to whatever it is you want to stay away from. Honestly, they don't know what to say to that. So tell whoever, you've developed an allergy or bad reaction to sugars, starches give you dreadful heartburn or whatever. Others that I have found works: Sugar has started to give me horrible migraines. Or my tolerance to certain foods has really changed, I get horrible headaches/stomach aches, heartburn etc etc if I eat (whatever). Most people will back down if you indicate it makes you sick in some way. The trick is to state it quickly and with as little explanation as possible. People who are lying, tend to go "on and on" and over justify, so just slam dunk the excuse and most people will leave you alone afterwards. If they don't,...just restate simply: Yeah, I'd really like one but cuz those migraines are just too painful to play with. Or something to that effect. It's helpful if your spouse just learns to nod and affirm what you're saying, again with as little comment as possible. Good luck! |
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Bad night....guilted into eating
Personally, I would discuss it with my mom before the next dinner date.
I would ask her if we could have baked chicken, cauliflower, salad, and things like that. I'd offer to bring the dessert and beverages if necessary. In the long run, it'll be a lot less work for your mom, and will be on your plan. Good luck. :-) -- Cheri BigD wrote in message ... Hey all... I've been on Atkins about 3 weeks now....doing pretty well with a few minor mishaps. I've been "perfect" for the past 3 days though, and WAS back in ketosis. Until tonight. My folks invited us over for dinner, and my mom knows my wife and I are low-carbing. She served Chicken and Biscuits, home-made brownie sundaes, and chocolate chip cookies. I first tried to |
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