feeling down and don't know why......

The last couple of days since i've come home, i have been feeling really
down. Not really depressed just said and lonely. I am also not happy about
my weight. I weighted myself this morning and which I haven't done in the
last little while , and it said that I was 140lbs. I shouldn't be at that
weight. I have been noticing to that the weight is getting to me.
I'm only 5'4 and my ideal weight is between 108 and 135 I believe. I know
that it's up to me to do something about it. And god believe me I am
trying...... I have a lot on my plate to deal with right now. My b/f are
havin problems (what else is new though), I'm stressed a lot lately. My best
friend is getting married in 21 days and I am stressed because I have no
money for the wedding and I have to get hair make up and nails done. Plus
there is the rehersal dinner. And the wedding gift.
Well you get the idea. Also at the same time I have bills to pay, and
rent. It's never ending. When I get stressed I eat and i eat even if I'm not
hungry , and it's to the point that I feel like I want to get sick to my
stomach. I know I have a problem and I am trying to work on it. As I'm sure
you know it's not that easy.
I'm cutting myself off of all junk food (sugar) and diet sodas today. I
wasn't going to follow the Atkins diet until June 1 after my best friends
wedding but it's in 21 days. So I'm going to start now. Today this is day
one to making myself a better person a healthier person. I have to do this.
No if's and and butts about it. I don't want to be back up to where I was at
this time last years which was 152.5 lbs. No way. I rememeber how I felt
then and I didn't like it.
So I am going to post here. As often as I can . I will also post my menus
that you guys can give me pointers and make sure that I am following the
plan right. I need all the help I can get right now. Thanks for listening
and sorry for ranting. But I needed to get this all out.
You guys have been great help for me so far and I hope that you can help
me out even more.

Angie

In article ,
"Angie" wrote:

The last couple of days since i've come home, i have been feeling really
down. Not really depressed just said and lonely. I am also not happy about
my weight. I weighted myself this morning and which I haven't done in the
last little while , and it said that I was 140lbs. I shouldn't be at that
weight. I have been noticing to that the weight is getting to me.
I'm only 5'4 and my ideal weight is between 108 and 135 I believe. I know
that it's up to me to do something about it. And god believe me I am
trying...... I have a lot on my plate to deal with right now. My b/f are
havin problems (what else is new though), I'm stressed a lot lately. My best
friend is getting married in 21 days and I am stressed because I have no
money for the wedding and I have to get hair make up and nails done. Plus
there is the rehersal dinner. And the wedding gift.
Well you get the idea. Also at the same time I have bills to pay, and
rent. It's never ending. When I get stressed I eat and i eat even if I'm not
hungry , and it's to the point that I feel like I want to get sick to my
stomach. I know I have a problem and I am trying to work on it. As I'm sure
you know it's not that easy.
I'm cutting myself off of all junk food (sugar) and diet sodas today. I
wasn't going to follow the Atkins diet until June 1 after my best friends
wedding but it's in 21 days. So I'm going to start now. Today this is day
one to making myself a better person a healthier person. I have to do this.
No if's and and butts about it. I don't want to be back up to where I was at
this time last years which was 152.5 lbs. No way. I rememeber how I felt
then and I didn't like it.
So I am going to post here. As often as I can . I will also post my menus
that you guys can give me pointers and make sure that I am following the
plan right. I need all the help I can get right now. Thanks for listening
and sorry for ranting. But I needed to get this all out.
You guys have been great help for me so far and I hope that you can help
me out even more.

Angie



Hey Angie. I want to wish you the best, you CAN do this. I have some
suggestions for you right now, take them or not, your choice. Freely
offered, and you're free to reject them, of course.

1. When you do post your menus, if you get any criticism, don't get mad
about it. Everyone on here has opinions about what should or should not be
eaten on a low-carb diet, so don't be surprised or get emotional if people
argue.

2. In my opinion, too much stress causes stalls or gain even if you
_don't_ overeat. I suggest making a list of your main stressors, and
prioritize them from the most important to the least important. Then let
something go. Like, obviously it is important to make rent, but maybe
getting your hair and nails done for a wedding isn't worth stressing over.
If she's really your best friend, she won't get mad if you tell her money
is tight. Maybe if all the girls in the wedding party go to the same place
for hair and nails, you could get a group discount?

3. Reassess your relationship with your boyfriend. Are you just have
normal relationship problems that everyone has and you just need a little
work? Or are the problems red flags that you are not right for each other?
One of life's big truths is that it is MUCH better to be alone than to be
stuck with the wrong person.

4. Instead of eating to relieve stress, try exercising. This works in
almost all human beings. Aside from how good it is for you physically, if
you do it right you're almost sure to get a relaxing, good, "high" feeling
from it.

5. Remember that life is about learning and change. None of us are perfect
in every area of life, so if and when you mess up with something, remember
that is part of life, part of being human, and one of the best ways to
learn.

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.

Thank you Luna for your suggestions. I will take them to heart. I have
decided to do my hair myself. And I really don't need make up for the
wedding don't wear it anyway, and as for the nails. I'll buy some polish if
I can and do my nails my self. And I talked to my best friend and she
doesn't care if I can't afford to get all that stuff done she just wants me
in her wedding.
And as for the B/F stuff, it's just everyday problems that we have and he
is the one I know that I want to be with. we have been together for a years
on my best friends wedding and have to much too throw it all away now. I am
going to sit down later on today and write down all the things we have to
pay money to and try and make a buget and see if that works to make things
easier for me.
I mostly get strressed out when I am at work so exercise is out of the
question then (as mentioned before I work at Tim Hortons ) so it's very
stressful. But I guess that I could keep buisy there by doing other things.
Like cleaning or something. And I will try not to take things too serious or
too heart when people on here give advice. It's not easy but I will try.
Thanks for your imput any other advice would be greatful. And I promise I
will try and not get angry if I don't like what I here .
Angie

Start date of Atkins May 7/04
Start Weight: 138lbs (YUCK!!!!!)
First goal weight 125lbs
Second goal Weight: 108lbs - 110lbs ..........
"Luna" wrote in message
...
In article ,
"Angie" wrote:

The last couple of days since i've come home, i have been feeling really
down. Not really depressed just said and lonely. I am also not happy
about
my weight. I weighted myself this morning and which I haven't done in
the
last little while , and it said that I was 140lbs. I shouldn't be at
that
weight. I have been noticing to that the weight is getting to me.
I'm only 5'4 and my ideal weight is between 108 and 135 I believe. I
know
that it's up to me to do something about it. And god believe me I am
trying...... I have a lot on my plate to deal with right now. My b/f are
havin problems (what else is new though), I'm stressed a lot lately. My
best
friend is getting married in 21 days and I am stressed because I have no
money for the wedding and I have to get hair make up and nails done.
Plus
there is the rehersal dinner. And the wedding gift.
Well you get the idea. Also at the same time I have bills to pay, and
rent. It's never ending. When I get stressed I eat and i eat even if I'm
not
hungry , and it's to the point that I feel like I want to get sick to my
stomach. I know I have a problem and I am trying to work on it. As I'm
sure
you know it's not that easy.
I'm cutting myself off of all junk food (sugar) and diet sodas
today. I
wasn't going to follow the Atkins diet until June 1 after my best
friends
wedding but it's in 21 days. So I'm going to start now. Today this is
day
one to making myself a better person a healthier person. I have to do
this.
No if's and and butts about it. I don't want to be back up to where I
was at
this time last years which was 152.5 lbs. No way. I rememeber how I felt
then and I didn't like it.
So I am going to post here. As often as I can . I will also post my
menus
that you guys can give me pointers and make sure that I am following the
plan right. I need all the help I can get right now. Thanks for
listening
and sorry for ranting. But I needed to get this all out.
You guys have been great help for me so far and I hope that you can
help
me out even more.

Angie



Hey Angie. I want to wish you the best, you CAN do this. I have some
suggestions for you right now, take them or not, your choice. Freely
offered, and you're free to reject them, of course.

1. When you do post your menus, if you get any criticism, don't get mad
about it. Everyone on here has opinions about what should or should not
be
eaten on a low-carb diet, so don't be surprised or get emotional if people
argue.

2. In my opinion, too much stress causes stalls or gain even if you
_don't_ overeat. I suggest making a list of your main stressors, and
prioritize them from the most important to the least important. Then let
something go. Like, obviously it is important to make rent, but maybe
getting your hair and nails done for a wedding isn't worth stressing over.
If she's really your best friend, she won't get mad if you tell her money
is tight. Maybe if all the girls in the wedding party go to the same
place
for hair and nails, you could get a group discount?

3. Reassess your relationship with your boyfriend. Are you just have
normal relationship problems that everyone has and you just need a little
work? Or are the problems red flags that you are not right for each
other?
One of life's big truths is that it is MUCH better to be alone than to be
stuck with the wrong person.

4. Instead of eating to relieve stress, try exercising. This works in
almost all human beings. Aside from how good it is for you physically, if
you do it right you're almost sure to get a relaxing, good, "high" feeling
from it.

5. Remember that life is about learning and change. None of us are
perfect
in every area of life, so if and when you mess up with something, remember
that is part of life, part of being human, and one of the best ways to
learn.

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.

First of all you don't HAVE to get you hair, nails and makeup done. There
are some of us guys that like a more natural look anyway, so save your money
and buy a nice inexpensive gift. Maybe a cheap bottle of wine or something.
Relax.

Weight can all get us down now and again. Just keep plugging away. They
say a person's true character is shown when in tough times. Anyone can show
character in good times.

Use this tough time to get stronger and do your best. When it is over, you
will look back on it and see how strong you are to do well in what seems to
be a tough time. Then you will feel great knowing you are doing the best you
can.

Believe me, it can be worse.
Curt

"Angie" wrote in message
...
The last couple of days since i've come home, i have been feeling really
down. Not really depressed just said and lonely. I am also not happy about
my weight. I weighted myself this morning and which I haven't done in the
last little while , and it said that I was 140lbs. I shouldn't be at that
weight. I have been noticing to that the weight is getting to me.
I'm only 5'4 and my ideal weight is between 108 and 135 I believe. I
know
that it's up to me to do something about it. And god believe me I am
trying...... I have a lot on my plate to deal with right now. My b/f are
havin problems (what else is new though), I'm stressed a lot lately. My
best
friend is getting married in 21 days and I am stressed because I have no
money for the wedding and I have to get hair make up and nails done. Plus
there is the rehersal dinner. And the wedding gift.
Well you get the idea. Also at the same time I have bills to pay, and
rent. It's never ending. When I get stressed I eat and i eat even if I'm
not
hungry , and it's to the point that I feel like I want to get sick to my
stomach. I know I have a problem and I am trying to work on it. As I'm
sure
you know it's not that easy.
I'm cutting myself off of all junk food (sugar) and diet sodas today.
I
wasn't going to follow the Atkins diet until June 1 after my best friends
wedding but it's in 21 days. So I'm going to start now. Today this is day
one to making myself a better person a healthier person. I have to do
this.
No if's and and butts about it. I don't want to be back up to where I was
at
this time last years which was 152.5 lbs. No way. I rememeber how I felt
then and I didn't like it.
So I am going to post here. As often as I can . I will also post my
menus
that you guys can give me pointers and make sure that I am following the
plan right. I need all the help I can get right now. Thanks for listening
and sorry for ranting. But I needed to get this all out.
You guys have been great help for me so far and I hope that you can help
me out even more.

Angie

On Fri, 7 May 2004 10:54:48 -0400, "Angie"
wrote:

I'm cutting myself off of all junk food (sugar) and diet sodas today. I
wasn't going to follow the Atkins diet until June 1 after my best friends
wedding but it's in 21 days. So I'm going to start now. Today this is day
one to making myself a better person a healthier person. I have to do this.
No if's and and butts about it. I don't want to be back up to where I was at
this time last years which was 152.5 lbs. No way. I rememeber how I felt
then and I didn't like it.

Good for you!

Carol

--
"Years ago my mother used to say to me... She'd say
'In this world Elwood, you must be oh-so smart or
oh-so pleasant.' Well, for years I was smart.... I
recommend pleasant. You may quote me."

*James Stewart* in the 1950 movie, _Harvey_

Angie says,
The last couple of days since i've come home, i have been feeling really
down. Not really depressed just said and lonely.

Becky says,
Angie, we all get this way once in a while, if we are honest with
ourselves, and women, in particular.

Take Luna's advice, pay the bills like rent and other important things, do
your own hair, and if you feel like you need a professional manicure (a
"professional" is someone who gets paid for something), find a
professional manicurist who needs some babysitting work done and work out
a trade, etc...maybe you have time or something she could use done. But,
IMO, do your own.

The weather really affects my mood. I hate to admit it...and my monthly
cycle. I can be very happy and normal and then one day wake up a
grouch and really impatient and even down. A few days later, I'm okay
again, but in the meantime, I feel sorry for my family!

About your weight...be glad it isn't really high! If you only need to
lose about 12-13 lbs. to initial goal, then count yourself blessed. Most
people reading this would love to be there. Quit beating yourself down,
go check out your BMI and see where you compare with the rest of American
women your age and you are probably quite normal, or even under the 50
percentile range. That may make you feel better...or it may not.

Weddings tend to be stressors...for everyone. Be esp. kind to your friend
who is having the wedding and focus on helping her...with time and energy,
if you have any left. Let her know you will help her any way you
can...cleaning bathrooms if necessary...and she will be grateful. (and
mean it!) If she has to "worry" about your emotions and try to "help
you"...it may be more than she can handle right now. Weddings are
supposed to be fun. It is a big problem I have...most people focus more
on the "wedding" than on the "marriage." The wedding is for a day, but
the marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime, but we manage to go in debt
big time, stress out majorly, and even get upset over something that is
supposed to be wonderful.

Just remember, you think more about yourself and how you look than other
people do! Remember that. You will probably lose 10 lbs and not even
many people will notice. People don't tend to be so observant, you know.
We're all pretty self centered and people have to substantially change
before others notice.



Becky P.
199/142/135

Angie wrote:
Thank you Luna for your suggestions. I will take them to heart. I have
decided to do my hair myself. And I really don't need make up for the
wedding don't wear it anyway, and as for the nails. I'll buy some polish if
I can and do my nails my self. And I talked to my best friend and she
doesn't care if I can't afford to get all that stuff done she just wants me
in her wedding.

If you're not comfortable with applying special event make-up, but want it
for the pictures, you can probably find books on it in the library, and
practice, or go to one of the salons that offer free make-up instruction
(and then try to sell you their products) and duplicate the method with
inexpensive make-up. Paula Begoun's "Blue Eyeshadow Should be Illegal"
used to be a good make-up instruction book, I don't know if it's still
around. (One tip: use either a little moisturizer, if you don't need
some kind of coverage, or a foundation, to give powder shadow and
blush something to stick to evenly.)

As to nails, if I were to attempt to apply polish neatly, it would take
me hours, but stick-on nails look fine in wedding pictures. :-)

--
jamie )

"There's a seeker born every minute."

Angie,

I strongly recommend "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. You can get it
in paperback. It is an AWESOME, eye-opening book and I am sure it would
help you feel better It helped (and is still helping me) immensely.

Regards,

Deb
235/216/135


jamie wrote:
Angie wrote:

Thank you Luna for your suggestions. I will take them to heart. I have
decided to do my hair myself. And I really don't need make up for the
wedding don't wear it anyway, and as for the nails. I'll buy some polish if
I can and do my nails my self. And I talked to my best friend and she
doesn't care if I can't afford to get all that stuff done she just wants me
in her wedding.


If you're not comfortable with applying special event make-up, but want it
for the pictures, you can probably find books on it in the library, and
practice, or go to one of the salons that offer free make-up instruction
(and then try to sell you their products) and duplicate the method with
inexpensive make-up. Paula Begoun's "Blue Eyeshadow Should be Illegal"
used to be a good make-up instruction book, I don't know if it's still
around. (One tip: use either a little moisturizer, if you don't need
some kind of coverage, or a foundation, to give powder shadow and
blush something to stick to evenly.)

As to nails, if I were to attempt to apply polish neatly, it would take
me hours, but stick-on nails look fine in wedding pictures. :-)

When you feel yourself getting tense, take a few deep breaths letting them
out slowly, it's simple but it really does help.

A budget is a good idea, keeping track of where your money goes is as
important as keeping track of what you eat. It can be a surprise to find
out how much you are dribbling away on little things.

In ,
Angie stated
| Thank you Luna for your suggestions. I will take them to heart. I have
| decided to do my hair myself. And I really don't need make up for the
| wedding don't wear it anyway, and as for the nails. I'll buy some
| polish if I can and do my nails my self. And I talked to my best
| friend and she doesn't care if I can't afford to get all that stuff
| done she just wants me in her wedding.
| And as for the B/F stuff, it's just everyday problems that we have
| and he is the one I know that I want to be with. we have been
| together for a years on my best friends wedding and have to much too
| throw it all away now. I am going to sit down later on today and
| write down all the things we have to pay money to and try and make a
| buget and see if that works to make things easier for me.
| I mostly get strressed out when I am at work so exercise is out
| of the question then (as mentioned before I work at Tim Hortons ) so
| it's very stressful. But I guess that I could keep buisy there by
| doing other things. Like cleaning or something. And I will try not to
| take things too serious or too heart when people on here give
| advice. It's not easy but I will try. Thanks for your imput any other
| advice would be greatful. And I promise I will try and not get angry
| if I don't like what I here .
| Angie
|
| Start date of Atkins May 7/04
| Start Weight: 138lbs (YUCK!!!!!)
| First goal weight 125lbs
| Second goal Weight: 108lbs - 110lbs ..........

Suicide?

--
Most people are dumb as bricks; some people are dumber than that. -- MFW


"Angie" wrote in message
...
The last couple of days since i've come home, i have been feeling really
down. Not really depressed just said and lonely. I am also not happy about
my weight. I weighted myself this morning and which I haven't done in the
last little while , and it said that I was 140lbs. I shouldn't be at that
weight. I have been noticing to that the weight is getting to me.
I'm only 5'4 and my ideal weight is between 108 and 135 I believe. I
know
that it's up to me to do something about it. And god believe me I am
trying...... I have a lot on my plate to deal with right now. My b/f are
havin problems (what else is new though), I'm stressed a lot lately. My
best
friend is getting married in 21 days and I am stressed because I have no
money for the wedding and I have to get hair make up and nails done. Plus
there is the rehersal dinner. And the wedding gift.
Well you get the idea. Also at the same time I have bills to pay, and
rent. It's never ending. When I get stressed I eat and i eat even if I'm
not
hungry , and it's to the point that I feel like I want to get sick to my
stomach. I know I have a problem and I am trying to work on it. As I'm
sure
you know it's not that easy.
I'm cutting myself off of all junk food (sugar) and diet sodas today.
I
wasn't going to follow the Atkins diet until June 1 after my best friends
wedding but it's in 21 days. So I'm going to start now. Today this is day
one to making myself a better person a healthier person. I have to do
this.
No if's and and butts about it. I don't want to be back up to where I was
at
this time last years which was 152.5 lbs. No way. I rememeber how I felt
then and I didn't like it.
So I am going to post here. As often as I can . I will also post my
menus
that you guys can give me pointers and make sure that I am following the
plan right. I need all the help I can get right now. Thanks for listening
and sorry for ranting. But I needed to get this all out.
You guys have been great help for me so far and I hope that you can help
me out even more.

Angie