How can I force fat wife to lose weight

Now suddenly my wife, who ruined her health and looks by
overeating and laziness, (despite being a good wife otherwise) is a
beautiful person to "ozgirl" when "ozgirl" knows nothing about
her. Strange.
Again. I came with a question. How do I break her wall of denial?
Someone said that a person needs to hir rock bottom before they decide
that they are not living the right kind of life. I think that she hit
the rock bottom a long time ago. How can I make her see that without
ruining our relationship and without ruining her self esteem?

Dave

Denial is a river in Egypt.
Your wife is obviously clinically depressed and it's quite obvious
why.

You say that she ruined her health by overeating and laziness. I bet
it is so, so much more. Seeing as you are posting to
alt.support.diabetes, do either of you suspect she is diabetic? Has
she ever been tested? Have you ever suggested it?

You say that you would like her to see that she hit rock bottom a long
time ago, but you want to do that without ruining her self esteem..
anyone else see anything wrong with this statement? If she has hit
rock bottom, she has no self esteem and by your posts here, it doesn't
look like you're doing much to help.

~For better or for worse, In sickness and in health~

Trina