Getting girls to do sports

I know you are right. It is just the distorted mental vision of myself that
is holding me back... not reality.

"Chris Braun"

I can't really say what it's like at other gyms, but I'd be sort of
surprised if anyone is paying much attention to other people's
figures; they're probably mostly busy with what they're doing.

I know lots of people at our gym quite well, since I'm there a lot and
since I know many of the trainers. So I hear a lot of conversation
about people in the gym. If I hear the guys saying anything negative
about a woman in the gym, it's about the ones who come in looking like
they think they're really hot and are trying to show off their bodies
in inappropriate clothing. By contrast, there's one woman who comes
in almost every day and who's always working very hard. She's very,
very fat -- by far the heaviest person in the gym. I've never heard
anyone speak of her with other than admiration for getting out there
and doing it. And she doesn't hide behind anything; she'll be
chugging up and down the main staircase with dumbbells in her hands.

Chris

On Tue, 10 Feb 2004 14:24:56 GMT, Chris Braun
wrote:


were always fed healthy food, and "treats" rarely entered our house.
Junk food was forbidden. Well, guess what: as soon as I was able to
get out on my own I enjoyed all the things I didn't get at home. And


This is a good point. My mom, while being overweight, did her best to
serve healthy meals. She rarely bought any pop or candy. I could only
have "sugar' cereals when I had a friend overnight. We did have
icecream a couple nights a week, but mostly, the food was pretty
healthy. I refused to eat anything I didn't like, so I just didn't get
as much to eat those nights. I went to bed early many nights too.

But the second I had a job and a paycheck, I was buying my own food.
Thus started my 15 years with mountain dew. I was spending all my
money on pop, candy, sugar cereal, and fried chicken. All the things I
didn't get to have - those were the things I wanted.

I don't blame her. She wad doing what she thought best, and I might
still have gone that way if we had that stuff on more of a regular
basis. But the truth is, you can do your best to set your kid up
right, but they will still have to make their own decisions.
Meghan & the Zoo Crew
Equine and Pet Photography
http://www.zoocrewphoto.com

On Tue, 10 Feb 2004 18:46:03 -0500, Dally wrote:



Well, a dozen anecdotal people doesn't make a study, but my observed
correlation is that the people who have enough "get up and go" to leave
the house to go to a friend's party are also likely to have enough "get
up and go" to go workout. I don't know causation, but my guess is that
the energy that they get from working out spills over into other areas
of their lives.


I think a lot of that though, is incentive. Invite me to a party, and
I will be sick or too exhausted, but invite me to a trail ride, and I
will be that at 7am even if I went to bed at 4am. I photograph horse
shows, and I will often go to those with less than 4 hour sof sleep,
maybe no sleep at all. I'm a severe night owl, but I will do what it
takes to get to those shows. But ask me to work my regular job at 7am,
and all you will see is a tired slug. And you can forget parties. I
hate them, regardless of time of day. I can't think of a single party
that I wanted to go to. I just don't like them.


There's also an element - at least for me - of choosing to hang out with
healthier friends. I've got a friend who smokes, is obese, in a bad
marriage and lives in a bad neighborhood. I really like this woman and
would love to be a positive part of her life, but she just brings me
down too much when I hang out with her. I didn't invite her to this
party. (I feel guilty about that and sincerely hope she never learns
about it.)

I do agree with this. My sister has a friend like this, and I fnd her
depressing,. She sucks the energy out of a room, and I don't like to
be around her.


I think you have to realize that people don't give a rat's ass what
*YOU* look like. They care about what *THEY* look like. If you look
really bad that just makes them feel better about themselves. If you
look really good it makes them feel bad about themselves. The point is,
they're thinking about THEMSELVES, not you. No one is looking at you
and thinking, "she's too gross to share my air."

Very good point. Perhaps that is really what it is about. Me seeing
them and feeling bad (and embarassed) about myself. I need to get over
it.


Meghan & the Zoo Crew
Equine and Pet Photography
http://www.zoocrewphoto.com

"Dally" wrote in message
...
"Chris Braun"

If I hear the guys saying anything negative
about a woman in the gym, it's about the ones who come in looking like
they think they're really hot and are trying to show off their bodies
in inappropriate clothing.

At my gym the guys just seem to enjoy the eye candy. The weight room
was knee deep in them today, honestly, there were about four girls
trolling for dates slouching around in the weight room for some reason
this evening. The most beautiful woman in the room was doing a fairly
serious weight-lifting routine and didn't want to be bugged (and wasn't)
but I was annoyed by the ones chatting on benches with no workout being
done at all.


That's why you need to go to the gym when I do. At 5:30 AM. The only
people there (except for one guy, always) are there to exercise. No one
shows off. We are NOT beautiful people. Hell, NO ONE is beautiful at 5:30
AM.

"Dally" wrote in message
...
"Chris Braun"

If I hear the guys saying anything negative
about a woman in the gym, it's about the ones who come in looking like
they think they're really hot and are trying to show off their bodies
in inappropriate clothing.

At my gym the guys just seem to enjoy the eye candy. The weight room
was knee deep in them today, honestly, there were about four girls
trolling for dates slouching around in the weight room for some reason
this evening. The most beautiful woman in the room was doing a fairly
serious weight-lifting routine and didn't want to be bugged (and wasn't)
but I was annoyed by the ones chatting on benches with no workout being
done at all.

That's exactly why I love Mission Cliffs, my gym. No bimbos, no
muscleheads!!! Yea!

But, I wonder if the guys agreed with you on the best-looking female. Bet
they didn't. A lot of guys love bimbos. : )

By contrast, there's one woman who comes
in almost every day and who's always working very hard. She's very,
very fat -- by far the heaviest person in the gym. I've never heard
anyone speak of her with other than admiration for getting out there
and doing it. And she doesn't hide behind anything; she'll be
chugging up and down the main staircase with dumbbells in her hands.

That was me a year ago.

Today I saw two severely obese apples of women chatting in some lounge
chairs, probably waiting for their kids to finish something. I was a
bit appalled that they would actually be IN THE GYM and not use that
time to workout. I would have only had admiration for them if they
donned some spandex and got in line for a treadmill.

Dally

There are no obese people at my gym, there are a few overweight folks, most
are in decent shape; outdoorsy types. I haven't met anyone there are wasn't
even a little friendly.

Martha