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Old November 27th, 2004, 11:04 AM
Deb in Northern California
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I had some disappointing and them some good NSVs this past week. I have not
seen any of these people since Christmas last year. So far I have lost a
total of 65 pounds and my daughter has lost 41 pounds, between the two of
us, we have lost my youngest daughter who weighs a whopping 106 pounds. I
have lost 40 of my 65 in the past year. On to my disappointments and my
happy moments with friends and family.

Went to see mom for her 79th birthday last weekend. She tells my daughter
that she is impressed with her weight loss as it really shows on her then
proceeds to tell me that she does not see any difference in me. I was truly
disappointed with that, but figure mom is not happy with me at the moment
any way and it is her way of hurting my feelings.

For Thanksgiving, went to see my best friend and her family for dinner. I
walked in the door and her and her husband were amazed at how much different
I looked. They could not get over the weight loss. Even her mom, asked if
I was losing weight or just working out at the gym, toning up. I told her
it was both. They made me feel so good.

Then on to the ex-in-laws for dessert. They had not seen me in a few months
and all of them made comments about my weight loss. So the 7 people that
noticed surely offset my mother not noticing my weight loss.

At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

Debbie

319.4/253.6/(Xmas goal 250)/150



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Old November 27th, 2004, 11:21 AM
Miss Violette
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sometimes people we care about are the first to push our buttons and if we
have displeased them they go out of their way to do it, you KNOW what the
scale says and you have the others, Lee,
Deb in Northern California wrote in message
...
I had some disappointing and them some good NSVs this past week. I have

not
seen any of these people since Christmas last year. So far I have lost a
total of 65 pounds and my daughter has lost 41 pounds, between the two of
us, we have lost my youngest daughter who weighs a whopping 106 pounds. I
have lost 40 of my 65 in the past year. On to my disappointments and my
happy moments with friends and family.

Went to see mom for her 79th birthday last weekend. She tells my daughter
that she is impressed with her weight loss as it really shows on her then
proceeds to tell me that she does not see any difference in me. I was

truly
disappointed with that, but figure mom is not happy with me at the moment
any way and it is her way of hurting my feelings.

For Thanksgiving, went to see my best friend and her family for dinner. I
walked in the door and her and her husband were amazed at how much

different
I looked. They could not get over the weight loss. Even her mom, asked

if
I was losing weight or just working out at the gym, toning up. I told her
it was both. They made me feel so good.

Then on to the ex-in-laws for dessert. They had not seen me in a few

months
and all of them made comments about my weight loss. So the 7 people that
noticed surely offset my mother not noticing my weight loss.

At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

Debbie

319.4/253.6/(Xmas goal 250)/150





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Old November 27th, 2004, 11:43 AM
Nathalie W
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I can so relate. I 've lost nearly 100 lbs and everyone has been commenting
on my loss except for mom... instead she bakes desserts and serves full-fat
dishes every time I come to her place for dinner. She is slim but has a lot
of weight issues, I think she has a hard time accepting that it is possible
to lose weight without starving or taking pills. And I 've always been the
fat daughter and now I don't consider myself fat anymore, it will take her
some time to get used to it.
But you are losing the weight for you and not for her so try to put her
comments aside... you have done great!
--
Nathalie from Belgium
134.1/90.8/minigoal 90.3/ Goal 68 Kg
295.6/200.2/minigoal 199/Goal 150 pounds
WW challenge 204.8/200.2/194 pounds
92.9/90.8/88 Kg

"Deb in Northern California" wrote in message
...
I had some disappointing and them some good NSVs this past week. I have

not
seen any of these people since Christmas last year. So far I have lost a
total of 65 pounds and my daughter has lost 41 pounds, between the two of
us, we have lost my youngest daughter who weighs a whopping 106 pounds. I
have lost 40 of my 65 in the past year. On to my disappointments and my
happy moments with friends and family.

Went to see mom for her 79th birthday last weekend. She tells my daughter
that she is impressed with her weight loss as it really shows on her then
proceeds to tell me that she does not see any difference in me. I was

truly
disappointed with that, but figure mom is not happy with me at the moment
any way and it is her way of hurting my feelings.

For Thanksgiving, went to see my best friend and her family for dinner. I
walked in the door and her and her husband were amazed at how much

different
I looked. They could not get over the weight loss. Even her mom, asked

if
I was losing weight or just working out at the gym, toning up. I told her
it was both. They made me feel so good.

Then on to the ex-in-laws for dessert. They had not seen me in a few

months
and all of them made comments about my weight loss. So the 7 people that
noticed surely offset my mother not noticing my weight loss.

At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

Debbie

319.4/253.6/(Xmas goal 250)/150





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Old November 27th, 2004, 11:43 AM
Nathalie W
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I can so relate. I 've lost nearly 100 lbs and everyone has been commenting
on my loss except for mom... instead she bakes desserts and serves full-fat
dishes every time I come to her place for dinner. She is slim but has a lot
of weight issues, I think she has a hard time accepting that it is possible
to lose weight without starving or taking pills. And I 've always been the
fat daughter and now I don't consider myself fat anymore, it will take her
some time to get used to it.
But you are losing the weight for you and not for her so try to put her
comments aside... you have done great!
--
Nathalie from Belgium
134.1/90.8/minigoal 90.3/ Goal 68 Kg
295.6/200.2/minigoal 199/Goal 150 pounds
WW challenge 204.8/200.2/194 pounds
92.9/90.8/88 Kg

"Deb in Northern California" wrote in message
...
I had some disappointing and them some good NSVs this past week. I have

not
seen any of these people since Christmas last year. So far I have lost a
total of 65 pounds and my daughter has lost 41 pounds, between the two of
us, we have lost my youngest daughter who weighs a whopping 106 pounds. I
have lost 40 of my 65 in the past year. On to my disappointments and my
happy moments with friends and family.

Went to see mom for her 79th birthday last weekend. She tells my daughter
that she is impressed with her weight loss as it really shows on her then
proceeds to tell me that she does not see any difference in me. I was

truly
disappointed with that, but figure mom is not happy with me at the moment
any way and it is her way of hurting my feelings.

For Thanksgiving, went to see my best friend and her family for dinner. I
walked in the door and her and her husband were amazed at how much

different
I looked. They could not get over the weight loss. Even her mom, asked

if
I was losing weight or just working out at the gym, toning up. I told her
it was both. They made me feel so good.

Then on to the ex-in-laws for dessert. They had not seen me in a few

months
and all of them made comments about my weight loss. So the 7 people that
noticed surely offset my mother not noticing my weight loss.

At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

Debbie

319.4/253.6/(Xmas goal 250)/150





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Old November 27th, 2004, 12:44 PM
Lesanne
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Debbie, I really must say that in my past, the 50 people who made positive
comments about my weight losses never made up for the things my own Mother
used to say to me. Before Mom got sick, around twenty years ago, I began to
tell her how badly I felt when she made those comments to me. It was really
hard to do, but after I did it, sometimes in groups of people even, if that
was where she made the hurtful comment, she actually began to change. We had
around 10 years of a better relationship before she began to get the
Alzheimers, and I am grateful for it now, because if we had not she would be
in a nursing home, and I would be wracked with guilt.

--
Lesanne
"Deb in Northern California" wrote in message
...
I had some disappointing and them some good NSVs this past week. I have
not
seen any of these people since Christmas last year. So far I have lost a
total of 65 pounds and my daughter has lost 41 pounds, between the two of
us, we have lost my youngest daughter who weighs a whopping 106 pounds. I
have lost 40 of my 65 in the past year. On to my disappointments and my
happy moments with friends and family.

Went to see mom for her 79th birthday last weekend. She tells my daughter
that she is impressed with her weight loss as it really shows on her then
proceeds to tell me that she does not see any difference in me. I was
truly
disappointed with that, but figure mom is not happy with me at the moment
any way and it is her way of hurting my feelings.

For Thanksgiving, went to see my best friend and her family for dinner. I
walked in the door and her and her husband were amazed at how much
different
I looked. They could not get over the weight loss. Even her mom, asked
if
I was losing weight or just working out at the gym, toning up. I told her
it was both. They made me feel so good.

Then on to the ex-in-laws for dessert. They had not seen me in a few
months
and all of them made comments about my weight loss. So the 7 people that
noticed surely offset my mother not noticing my weight loss.

At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

Debbie

319.4/253.6/(Xmas goal 250)/150





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Old November 27th, 2004, 02:44 PM
cobalt
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At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.


Don't let your mom get you down. I know thats hard, my grandmother is about
as nasty as a woman can be towards my weight. You worked hard and earned your
success! If everyone else could see it, you know they are the ones to listen
to. Congrats to you and your daughter, you guys are doing awesome!

Sarah
  #9  
Old November 27th, 2004, 02:44 PM
cobalt
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At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.


Don't let your mom get you down. I know thats hard, my grandmother is about
as nasty as a woman can be towards my weight. You worked hard and earned your
success! If everyone else could see it, you know they are the ones to listen
to. Congrats to you and your daughter, you guys are doing awesome!

Sarah
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Old November 27th, 2004, 05:11 PM
Laura
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I think mothers can be very cruel at times. I know my mother can be. I have
been learning to ignore my mothers comments about my weight loss or I might
not like the things that come out of my mouth. She has her own weight issues
and can not deal with my sucess. Perhaps your mom is dealing with some
hidden feelings from her past that are being brought out by your weight
loss. Did she struggle with food or weight issues at some point in her life.
It might be that she can't acknowledge your weight loss because it is too
painful for her to do so. Just remember that you are doing this for yourself
and not for her. Her comments are not important as you getting to a healthy
weight are.

"Deb in Northern California" wrote in message
...
I had some disappointing and them some good NSVs this past week. I have

not
seen any of these people since Christmas last year. So far I have lost a
total of 65 pounds and my daughter has lost 41 pounds, between the two of
us, we have lost my youngest daughter who weighs a whopping 106 pounds. I
have lost 40 of my 65 in the past year. On to my disappointments and my
happy moments with friends and family.

Went to see mom for her 79th birthday last weekend. She tells my daughter
that she is impressed with her weight loss as it really shows on her then
proceeds to tell me that she does not see any difference in me. I was

truly
disappointed with that, but figure mom is not happy with me at the moment
any way and it is her way of hurting my feelings.

For Thanksgiving, went to see my best friend and her family for dinner. I
walked in the door and her and her husband were amazed at how much

different
I looked. They could not get over the weight loss. Even her mom, asked

if
I was losing weight or just working out at the gym, toning up. I told her
it was both. They made me feel so good.

Then on to the ex-in-laws for dessert. They had not seen me in a few

months
and all of them made comments about my weight loss. So the 7 people that
noticed surely offset my mother not noticing my weight loss.

At least I know that my co-workers, friends and non-blood family notice me
even though my own mother can not see any differences in me.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

Debbie

319.4/253.6/(Xmas goal 250)/150





 




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