I don't understand

I am having a hard time understanding the recent posts from people who want
to leave or almost leave this group because they don't like some of the
posts. In almost every case they mention that some of the posts HAVE been
helpful or informative, but they have to leave anyway because some other
posts were insulting.

Newsgroups aren't an all or nothing deal people. Why throw the baby out
with the bathwater? Almost every newsreader out there has a killfile or
filter function, and it's not that hard to block topics or posters you
don't want to read. It's not like the offending person is following you
around screaming in your ear, you have total control over whether you see
their posts or not. It's not being mean or wimpy to killfile someone, it's
just like skipping over certain articles in the newspaper that don't
interest you. I mean, dang, sometimes I killfile people just because
they're boring. And there are plenty of newsgroups out there that I've
subscribed to for a limited time, and when I decided to leave I didn't make
a big announcement about it, I just unsubscribed. To me, leaving a whole
group because one or two people offend you, even when there is useful
information there from other people, is like saying I love everything in my
local paper except one of the movie reviewers sucks so I just won't read
the paper anymore. It's not like someone is forcing me to read that
reviewer, you know?

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.

"Luna" wrote in message
...
I am having a hard time understanding the recent posts from people who
want
to leave or almost leave this group because they don't like some of the
posts. In almost every case they mention that some of the posts HAVE been
helpful or informative, but they have to leave anyway because some other
posts were insulting.

Newsgroups aren't an all or nothing deal people. Why throw the baby out
with the bathwater? Almost every newsreader out there has a killfile or
filter function, and it's not that hard to block topics or posters you
don't want to read. It's not like the offending person is following you
around screaming in your ear, you have total control over whether you see
their posts or not. It's not being mean or wimpy to killfile someone,
it's
just like skipping over certain articles in the newspaper that don't
interest you. I mean, dang, sometimes I killfile people just because
they're boring. And there are plenty of newsgroups out there that I've
subscribed to for a limited time, and when I decided to leave I didn't
make
a big announcement about it, I just unsubscribed. To me, leaving a whole
group because one or two people offend you, even when there is useful
information there from other people, is like saying I love everything in
my
local paper except one of the movie reviewers sucks so I just won't read
the paper anymore. It's not like someone is forcing me to read that
reviewer, you know?

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.

In our house, we would call these people "whinybabies" It's like "watch me,
see me, look at me (stamping feet)" kind of reminds me of my mother
hmmmmm..... LOL

--
Lori
220/150/140
LC since 1/17/03
Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40
http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller-date

Do you understand the term "drama queen"?

--
JC

Eat less, exercise more.

--
"Luna" wrote in message
...
I am having a hard time understanding the recent posts from people who
want
to leave or almost leave this group because they don't like some of the
posts. In almost every case they mention that some of the posts HAVE been
helpful or informative, but they have to leave anyway because some other
posts were insulting.

Newsgroups aren't an all or nothing deal people. Why throw the baby out
with the bathwater? Almost every newsreader out there has a killfile or
filter function, and it's not that hard to block topics or posters you
don't want to read. It's not like the offending person is following you
around screaming in your ear, you have total control over whether you see
their posts or not. It's not being mean or wimpy to killfile someone,
it's
just like skipping over certain articles in the newspaper that don't
interest you. I mean, dang, sometimes I killfile people just because
they're boring. And there are plenty of newsgroups out there that I've
subscribed to for a limited time, and when I decided to leave I didn't
make
a big announcement about it, I just unsubscribed. To me, leaving a whole
group because one or two people offend you, even when there is useful
information there from other people, is like saying I love everything in
my
local paper except one of the movie reviewers sucks so I just won't read
the paper anymore. It's not like someone is forcing me to read that
reviewer, you know?

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.

Almost like real life. I often wonder how people who can't deal with
obnoxious posters on Usenet can handle such people in person. I can't
believe that they are fortunate enough never to encounter any.


In ,
Luna stated
| I am having a hard time understanding the recent posts from people
| who want to leave or almost leave this group because they don't like
| some of the posts. In almost every case they mention that some of the
| posts HAVE been helpful or informative, but they have to leave anyway
| because some other posts were insulting.
|
| Newsgroups aren't an all or nothing deal people. Why throw the baby
| out with the bathwater? Almost every newsreader out there has a
| killfile or filter function, and it's not that hard to block topics
| or posters you don't want to read. It's not like the offending
| person is following you around screaming in your ear, you have total
| control over whether you see their posts or not. It's not being mean
| or wimpy to killfile someone, it's just like skipping over certain
| articles in the newspaper that don't interest you. I mean, dang,
| sometimes I killfile people just because they're boring. And there
| are plenty of newsgroups out there that I've subscribed to for a
| limited time, and when I decided to leave I didn't make a big
| announcement about it, I just unsubscribed. To me, leaving a whole
| group because one or two people offend you, even when there is useful
| information there from other people, is like saying I love everything
| in my local paper except one of the movie reviewers sucks so I just
| won't read the paper anymore. It's not like someone is forcing me to
| read that reviewer, you know?
|
| --
| Michelle Levin
| http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick
|
| I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3
| flaws.

I work with several teachers like that. The students run all over them. It's
kinda funny.

--
JC

Eat less, exercise more.

--
"FOB" wrote in message
.com...
Almost like real life. I often wonder how people who can't deal with
obnoxious posters on Usenet can handle such people in person. I can't
believe that they are fortunate enough never to encounter any.


In ,
Luna stated
| I am having a hard time understanding the recent posts from people
| who want to leave or almost leave this group because they don't like
| some of the posts. In almost every case they mention that some of the
| posts HAVE been helpful or informative, but they have to leave anyway
| because some other posts were insulting.
|
| Newsgroups aren't an all or nothing deal people. Why throw the baby
| out with the bathwater? Almost every newsreader out there has a
| killfile or filter function, and it's not that hard to block topics
| or posters you don't want to read. It's not like the offending
| person is following you around screaming in your ear, you have total
| control over whether you see their posts or not. It's not being mean
| or wimpy to killfile someone, it's just like skipping over certain
| articles in the newspaper that don't interest you. I mean, dang,
| sometimes I killfile people just because they're boring. And there
| are plenty of newsgroups out there that I've subscribed to for a
| limited time, and when I decided to leave I didn't make a big
| announcement about it, I just unsubscribed. To me, leaving a whole
| group because one or two people offend you, even when there is useful
| information there from other people, is like saying I love everything
| in my local paper except one of the movie reviewers sucks so I just
| won't read the paper anymore. It's not like someone is forcing me to
| read that reviewer, you know?
|
| --
| Michelle Levin
| http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick
|
| I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3
| flaws.

In article , "FOB"
wrote:

Almost like real life. I often wonder how people who can't deal with
obnoxious posters on Usenet can handle such people in person. I can't
believe that they are fortunate enough never to encounter any.


My POV: I have to deal with the obnoxious people in real life, but I
don't have to deal with obnoxiousness in this medium. That's why there
are killfiles and the ability to ignore people/posts/threads.

Personally, I may take a "vacation" from time to time, and may quit
posting, because, frankly, just 'cause they're here doesn't make 'em an
expert, but I still find useful things here. I just employ my rights to
disregard the rest with a more liberal hand than most.

Finally, and I say this with all due respect for those who generally
mean well - there are a number of posters who feel it is their God-given
right/gift to belittle others. It gets annoying after awhile.

--
Nancy Howells (don't forget to switch it, and replace the to send mail).

People don't come here for the same reason they go to other usenet groups.
They come here for support, not debate. Differing opinions are good and help
us to understand our own opinions better, in the end. But if folks don't
find support, there's no reason to stay. Drama queens, JC, enjoy the drama
here and stay to play. I'm not into drama and that's why I said I was
leaving. I'm staying because I was reminded that I have something to
contribute and it made me feel good. I like to help people. It's what I do
for a living. But, I find it tiring having to defend every little point
made. There are people on this NG that I like that others don't. I'm sure
that there are plenty of people that don't like me and wish that I *would*
leave. That's life. But bickering and nitpicking get a big yawn from me. I
said goodbye because it's what people do when they leave, if they're polite.
If you find that odd Luna, well then we grew up differently. All of this, of
course is IMHO, free and worth every penny paid.

--
- Bear
Grrrrrrrr : o)

297/274/210

http://home.earthlink.net/~polarbear50/index.html
"Luna" wrote in message
...
I am having a hard time understanding the recent posts from people who
want
to leave or almost leave this group because they don't like some of the
posts. In almost every case they mention that some of the posts HAVE been
helpful or informative, but they have to leave anyway because some other
posts were insulting.

Newsgroups aren't an all or nothing deal people. Why throw the baby out
with the bathwater? Almost every newsreader out there has a killfile or
filter function, and it's not that hard to block topics or posters you
don't want to read. It's not like the offending person is following you
around screaming in your ear, you have total control over whether you see
their posts or not. It's not being mean or wimpy to killfile someone,
it's
just like skipping over certain articles in the newspaper that don't
interest you. I mean, dang, sometimes I killfile people just because
they're boring. And there are plenty of newsgroups out there that I've
subscribed to for a limited time, and when I decided to leave I didn't
make
a big announcement about it, I just unsubscribed. To me, leaving a whole
group because one or two people offend you, even when there is useful
information there from other people, is like saying I love everything in
my
local paper except one of the movie reviewers sucks so I just won't read
the paper anymore. It's not like someone is forcing me to read that
reviewer, you know?

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.

"FOB" wrote in message
.com...
Almost like real life. I often wonder how people who can't deal
with
obnoxious posters on Usenet can handle such people in person. I
can't
believe that they are fortunate enough never to encounter any.



there are many folks who are NEW to the newsgroup neighborhood, just
as i was 7yrs ago, when i showed up.
i was SHOCKED at how nasty folks can get, when they can be
anonymous......................
the anonymity of usenet brings out the worst in some folks, PERIOD!

"Bear" wrote in message
nk.net...
I find it tiring having to defend every little point
made.

I don't defend every little point, and you don't have to either.

In article ,
" rosie" wrote:

"FOB" wrote in message
.com...
Almost like real life. I often wonder how people who can't deal
with
obnoxious posters on Usenet can handle such people in person. I
can't
believe that they are fortunate enough never to encounter any.



there are many folks who are NEW to the newsgroup neighborhood, just
as i was 7yrs ago, when i showed up.
i was SHOCKED at how nasty folks can get, when they can be
anonymous......................
the anonymity of usenet brings out the worst in some folks, PERIOD!





Yeah, and? I was new once too. From the time I wondered "hmm, wonder if
there's a way to filter posts?" to the time I figured out how to actually
do it was less than 5 minutes. It took 0.000 seconds to figure out I
didn't have to read every single post.

--
Michelle Levin
http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick

I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws.