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Have a good cry, surround yourself with as many good friends as possible,
don't try to think too hard ....your brain is going to shut down. Nothing will seem important right now except the life of your loved one. I lost my 18 yr old son 4 yrs ago on 9-11 . Took me 2 years to feel half way normal . Hang in there !!! ...After all there's nothing else you can do . Peter (Warp100) |
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I can't imagine what you're going through, but I would do whatever it
took to get me through each day, whatever it took. -- Cheri Lorelei wrote in message .net... Since the doctor's appointment last Tuesday, I have been eating too much for the first time in almost 2 yrs!! Someone, somewhere refilled one of my prescriptions so I am without one while they figure this out. I have an impending sense of doom with Curt's survival time being way shorter than we had hoped. Work out of my control. I am sitting here thinkin about the 1/4 of frozen tony's pizza I just had and stopping myself from throwing it up. It looks like I have a binge coming on. I haven't done that for a few years either!!! Yeah, I know, butch up. but dammit, my husband is dying, my job is f'd up, everything in my house is either broke, repaired or soon to break. and all I want to do is EAT!!! This morning I have had 3/4 c old fashioned outmeal with 2%milk and splenda, ~1/2 tub of small strawberry creme wafers from Cub, the 1/4 pizza, a diet vanilla coke and water. I have been up since 930 pm last night because I worked nights ( had one cheddarwurst there and nothing before that since 4pm yesterday)and then S4 woke up 3 hrs earlier than normal so instead of having a smoke and going to sleep, I have been up eating sugar and waiting to take him to preschool so I can fall asleep in my van in the parking lot. I would go to Curves (went Wed) but I am going to quit there and join the health club downstairs (no classes during my free time tho and I feel guilty about jumping ship on the owners of my Curves. so I am waffling on that. they are really nice mother/daughter team Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" probably, but unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori 220/156/144 LC since 1/17/03 Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40 http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller |
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I can't imagine what you're going through, but I would do whatever it
took to get me through each day, whatever it took. -- Cheri Lorelei wrote in message .net... Since the doctor's appointment last Tuesday, I have been eating too much for the first time in almost 2 yrs!! Someone, somewhere refilled one of my prescriptions so I am without one while they figure this out. I have an impending sense of doom with Curt's survival time being way shorter than we had hoped. Work out of my control. I am sitting here thinkin about the 1/4 of frozen tony's pizza I just had and stopping myself from throwing it up. It looks like I have a binge coming on. I haven't done that for a few years either!!! Yeah, I know, butch up. but dammit, my husband is dying, my job is f'd up, everything in my house is either broke, repaired or soon to break. and all I want to do is EAT!!! This morning I have had 3/4 c old fashioned outmeal with 2%milk and splenda, ~1/2 tub of small strawberry creme wafers from Cub, the 1/4 pizza, a diet vanilla coke and water. I have been up since 930 pm last night because I worked nights ( had one cheddarwurst there and nothing before that since 4pm yesterday)and then S4 woke up 3 hrs earlier than normal so instead of having a smoke and going to sleep, I have been up eating sugar and waiting to take him to preschool so I can fall asleep in my van in the parking lot. I would go to Curves (went Wed) but I am going to quit there and join the health club downstairs (no classes during my free time tho and I feel guilty about jumping ship on the owners of my Curves. so I am waffling on that. they are really nice mother/daughter team Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" probably, but unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori 220/156/144 LC since 1/17/03 Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40 http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller |
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Hang in there, Lori. I know you'll make it through all of this, but I
wish you didn't have to. :-( {{{{{Lori and Curt}}}}} Carol -- "Years ago my mother used to say to me... She'd say 'In this world Elwood, you must be oh-so smart or oh-so pleasant.' Well, for years I was smart.... I recommend pleasant. You may quote me." *James Stewart* in the 1950 movie, _Harvey_ |
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Hello,
On 10-Sep-2004, "Lorelei" wrote: Snip Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" Snip Lori, this is just too damn heavy a load to expect to be able to handle alone. That therapist (or another one who specializes in grief counseling) is a good start for load sharing. You know your time with Curt is too short. Please take what steps you can to enjoy every sunrise with him. You are in my thoughts. Take care, Carmen |
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On Fri, 10 Sep 2004 16:49:09 GMT, "Lorelei"
wrote: unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori {{{{{LORI}}}}} You're right. Watching the slow and painful death of your lover is HARD. I've never had to do it, but I did help support emotionally some friends while one of them was doing the same thing. Don expressed many of the feelings you just did - about how dare he make plans while Jan wasn't going to be able to ever again. Life just SUCKS sometimes and he felt (as I imagine you feel) just so terribly lost, alone and frightened in a world going to hell too damned fast. I will be holding you and Curt close to my heart as you face this frightening future. What you're experiencing is grief. You're already saying goodbye to him and that hurts so badly. It doesn't help much (I know) to say that it's normal and it will pass. One thing that Don found, to his amazement, is that when the end finally came a great deal of his grief was *already* worked out. The eventual death of Jan hurt like nothing I can imagine, but at the same time it was a turning point that meant he could start getting better, taking control again. His life has gone on. It is now more than 12 years since Jan died. He has remarried (a thing Jan REALLY wanted him to do) and had children with his second wife - since Jan was infertile this was a blessing he never expected. He has never forgotten Jan, in fact his eldest daughter with his second wife bears her name as a middle name (with his second wife's blessing) but his life has been mostly happy despite this devastating blow. Aramanth |
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"Lorelei" wrote in message link.net... Since the doctor's appointment last Tuesday, I have been eating too much for the first time in almost 2 yrs!! Someone, somewhere refilled one of my prescriptions so I am without one while they figure this out. I have an impending sense of doom with Curt's survival time being way shorter than we had hoped. Work out of my control. I am sitting here thinkin about the 1/4 of frozen tony's pizza I just had and stopping myself from throwing it up. It looks like I have a binge coming on. I haven't done that for a few years either!!! Yeah, I know, butch up. but dammit, my husband is dying, my job is f'd up, everything in my house is either broke, repaired or soon to break. and all I want to do is EAT!!! This morning I have had 3/4 c old fashioned outmeal with 2%milk and splenda, ~1/2 tub of small strawberry creme wafers from Cub, the 1/4 pizza, a diet vanilla coke and water. I have been up since 930 pm last night because I worked nights ( had one cheddarwurst there and nothing before that since 4pm yesterday)and then S4 woke up 3 hrs earlier than normal so instead of having a smoke and going to sleep, I have been up eating sugar and waiting to take him to preschool so I can fall asleep in my van in the parking lot. I would go to Curves (went Wed) but I am going to quit there and join the health club downstairs (no classes during my free time tho and I feel guilty about jumping ship on the owners of my Curves. so I am waffling on that. they are really nice mother/daughter team Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" probably, but unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori 220/156/144 LC since 1/17/03 Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40 http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller Hang in there, dear. As Saffy said, everyone cares. This is a community of real people with real hearts. I wish there was something I could do, I really do. |
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"Lorelei" wrote in message link.net... Since the doctor's appointment last Tuesday, I have been eating too much for the first time in almost 2 yrs!! Someone, somewhere refilled one of my prescriptions so I am without one while they figure this out. I have an impending sense of doom with Curt's survival time being way shorter than we had hoped. Work out of my control. I am sitting here thinkin about the 1/4 of frozen tony's pizza I just had and stopping myself from throwing it up. It looks like I have a binge coming on. I haven't done that for a few years either!!! Yeah, I know, butch up. but dammit, my husband is dying, my job is f'd up, everything in my house is either broke, repaired or soon to break. and all I want to do is EAT!!! This morning I have had 3/4 c old fashioned outmeal with 2%milk and splenda, ~1/2 tub of small strawberry creme wafers from Cub, the 1/4 pizza, a diet vanilla coke and water. I have been up since 930 pm last night because I worked nights ( had one cheddarwurst there and nothing before that since 4pm yesterday)and then S4 woke up 3 hrs earlier than normal so instead of having a smoke and going to sleep, I have been up eating sugar and waiting to take him to preschool so I can fall asleep in my van in the parking lot. I would go to Curves (went Wed) but I am going to quit there and join the health club downstairs (no classes during my free time tho and I feel guilty about jumping ship on the owners of my Curves. so I am waffling on that. they are really nice mother/daughter team Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" probably, but unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori 220/156/144 LC since 1/17/03 Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40 http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller Hang in there, dear. As Saffy said, everyone cares. This is a community of real people with real hearts. I wish there was something I could do, I really do. |
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"Lorelei" wrote in message link.net... Since the doctor's appointment last Tuesday, I have been eating too much for the first time in almost 2 yrs!! Someone, somewhere refilled one of my prescriptions so I am without one while they figure this out. I have an impending sense of doom with Curt's survival time being way shorter than we had hoped. Work out of my control. I am sitting here thinkin about the 1/4 of frozen tony's pizza I just had and stopping myself from throwing it up. It looks like I have a binge coming on. I haven't done that for a few years either!!! Yeah, I know, butch up. but dammit, my husband is dying, my job is f'd up, everything in my house is either broke, repaired or soon to break. and all I want to do is EAT!!! This morning I have had 3/4 c old fashioned outmeal with 2%milk and splenda, ~1/2 tub of small strawberry creme wafers from Cub, the 1/4 pizza, a diet vanilla coke and water. I have been up since 930 pm last night because I worked nights ( had one cheddarwurst there and nothing before that since 4pm yesterday)and then S4 woke up 3 hrs earlier than normal so instead of having a smoke and going to sleep, I have been up eating sugar and waiting to take him to preschool so I can fall asleep in my van in the parking lot. I would go to Curves (went Wed) but I am going to quit there and join the health club downstairs (no classes during my free time tho and I feel guilty about jumping ship on the owners of my Curves. so I am waffling on that. they are really nice mother/daughter team Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" probably, but unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori 220/156/144 LC since 1/17/03 Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40 http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller Lori, my heart goes out to you. I too wish I could do something. I will keep you in my prayers. M |
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"Lorelei" wrote in message link.net... Since the doctor's appointment last Tuesday, I have been eating too much for the first time in almost 2 yrs!! Someone, somewhere refilled one of my prescriptions so I am without one while they figure this out. I have an impending sense of doom with Curt's survival time being way shorter than we had hoped. Work out of my control. I am sitting here thinkin about the 1/4 of frozen tony's pizza I just had and stopping myself from throwing it up. It looks like I have a binge coming on. I haven't done that for a few years either!!! Yeah, I know, butch up. but dammit, my husband is dying, my job is f'd up, everything in my house is either broke, repaired or soon to break. and all I want to do is EAT!!! This morning I have had 3/4 c old fashioned outmeal with 2%milk and splenda, ~1/2 tub of small strawberry creme wafers from Cub, the 1/4 pizza, a diet vanilla coke and water. I have been up since 930 pm last night because I worked nights ( had one cheddarwurst there and nothing before that since 4pm yesterday)and then S4 woke up 3 hrs earlier than normal so instead of having a smoke and going to sleep, I have been up eating sugar and waiting to take him to preschool so I can fall asleep in my van in the parking lot. I would go to Curves (went Wed) but I am going to quit there and join the health club downstairs (no classes during my free time tho and I feel guilty about jumping ship on the owners of my Curves. so I am waffling on that. they are really nice mother/daughter team Just trying to stop destroying my success. My therapist would have a field day with this. "why don't you feel like you can be successful, Lori?. Is it because Curt is losing his battle, so why should you succeed at yours?" probably, but unless you have gone or are going through the painful slow death of your best friend and lover, you have no idea how I feel. I feel like my thoughts are constantly jumbling from paralyzing pre-grief that makes me want to go with him when he goes, to having my practical side start planning what I am going to do when this is over. that makes me feel bad like How dare I make plans when he won't ever have plans again??/ I am giving myself this weekend to make myself sick (like I feel right now) and resolving to get back on track. fitness zone =Monday -- Lori 220/156/144 LC since 1/17/03 Devoted wife of Curtis, Stage 4 Prostate cancer at age 40 http://community.webshots.com/user/lorismiller Lori, my heart goes out to you. I too wish I could do something. I will keep you in my prayers. M |
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