im morbidly obese

I have a huge health delimma; I have Chronic Obsturctive Pulmonary
Disease; borderline asmatic; according to my pulmonary dr. I also have
severe sleep apena. I have had many, many, major stomach operations. I
suffer from Major Depression, colotis, differticulitis, gastritis,
neumoria in my feet; and high triglyceritates. Every time I see my
critical care pulmonary Dr. he tells me "Your going to die" you must
loose weight. I am not now; nor will I ever be a canadiate for gastric
bypass. I have to many adhesions; they took 6 hours just to get to my
ovaries in Aug 2004. Thats the time I had an ingunial hernia repaired
in an emergency surgery. I am now on 2 liters of oxygen prn; albuterol;
and my sleep apena is at the highest possible setting 20. I know I have
to eat less and exercise by I have a chronically ill husband, he is in
end stage renal failure, has cornary artery disease, has had 4 heart
attacks; 13/ports/accesses/fistulas place for dialysis. He also suffers
from a broken collar bone and shoulder that cannot be addressed until 6
months after the last heart attack which was Aug 26, 2006. He suffers
from rheumotoid/osteoarthritis & psydo gout. Food to me is not to live.
Its my comfort and once I get beyond that I think I can loose weight on
my own. Im under so many stressors; and I just cant seem to get myself
together one step forward and three steps back! I thank God we are
alive and still able to joke about what happens; but I was overwhelmed
and overdosed in June of this year. I'd rather be dead that to live
with these limitations that are somewhat/mostly my fault. I need
suggestions from folks on how to eat "within" my husbands boundries. No
cheese/dairy to much phosphrus; no broccoli; tomatoes; potatoes; to
much potassium; he is a brittle diabetic; and I DO NOT want to become
one. Please if any of you all can help guide me; I be 4ever thankful.
I just bougth the book about the new food pyramid. Hoping to go to
water areobics etc. Drs cleared me for that. Life is just one obstical
after another; if you can't help in any other way PRAY for the two of
us. My names Rhonda and my husband is Harry. Im new to this area/groups
hope I didn't go into to much detail or be to lengthy. ALOHA