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From our daily newspaper. "Life" section. My own opinion is the size
issue will not remain invisible in the relationship. The woman appears to be OK with it but I am wondering about her partner. Q: I've been dating a Big Beautiful Woman (BBW). I was instantly attracted, not just by her beauty, but by her brains, her heart, passion, sensuality, and mostly, her comfort with herself. With other women, I'm considered overweight, even obese. My new lover considers me HOT! This is my first relationship with someone considered plus-size. I'm concerned about the reaction from friends and family when I introduce her. I'm more concerned about my own doubts and why I'm thinking such negative, hypocritical thoughts. How can I reconcile these conflicting feelings, emotions and thoughts? Is there hope for me? Confused AYes, there's hope, but only if you drop all those stereotyping labels and go with your heart's emotions instead of your brain's muddled thinking. Your lover has a name and it's NOT "BBW." Treat her as the person she is (she sounds wonderful) not the oversized caricature you're dithering about. Since your friends accept you as you are, they're bound to be as open to her ... unless you sabotage their welcome by raising doubts and making negative judgments. Take a lesson from her. The "hypocritical" part of this letter is your own lack of self-confidence and hang-ups about your image. A slimmer woman won't change that, but having the good fortune to be with a terrific partner, like this one, may help. -- Diva ***** The Best Man For The Job Is A Woman |
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Carol Frilegh wrote in message
... From our daily newspaper. "Life" section. My own opinion is the size issue will not remain invisible in the relationship. The woman appears to be OK with it but I am wondering about her partner. Q: I've been dating a Big Beautiful Woman (BBW). I was instantly attracted, not just by her beauty, but by her brains, her heart, passion, sensuality, and mostly, her comfort with herself. With other women, I'm considered overweight, even obese. My new lover considers me HOT! This is my first relationship with someone considered plus-size. I'm concerned about the reaction from friends and family when I introduce her. I'm more concerned about my own doubts and why I'm thinking such negative, hypocritical thoughts. How can I reconcile these conflicting feelings, emotions and thoughts? Is there hope for me? Confused AYes, there's hope, but only if you drop all those stereotyping labels and go with your heart's emotions instead of your brain's muddled thinking. Your lover has a name and it's NOT "BBW." Treat her as the person she is (she sounds wonderful) not the oversized caricature you're dithering about. Since your friends accept you as you are, they're bound to be as open to her ... unless you sabotage their welcome by raising doubts and making negative judgments. Take a lesson from her. The "hypocritical" part of this letter is your own lack of self-confidence and hang-ups about your image. A slimmer woman won't change that, but having the good fortune to be with a terrific partner, like this one, may help. As pathetic as this guy is I have seen a family not accept their daughter's boyfriend because of his size so his fear isn't as totally unwarranted as the columnist makes it seem. But IMHO he needs to ignore everyone else's prejudices and work on his own. I think this relationship is purely an ego booster for him, and eventually he will need to find a real relationship either with his current GF or someone else. Matthew -- You're it. Get fit! Sign up for the President's Challenge: http://www.presidentschallenge.org/l...ndividual.aspx Group ID Number: 23823 / Group Member ID/Name: Alt.Support.Diet Began 3/10/2005 - Current: points 1,262 - Goal: 20,000 points |
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