coming clean...

It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose as much as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the concept of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual number I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am having to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that, but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to stop once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so long that I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh 136 next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower limit appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH and I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed, Lee

It'll all work out Lee. You'll need to get used to the all the attention
though. Until everyone is used to you being thin, you will continue getting
attention!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose as much
as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the concept
of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual number
I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am having to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that, but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to stop
once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so long that
I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh 136
next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower limit
appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH and I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an
impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed, Lee

I am an attention hog just that there are certain kinds of attention that I
would rather NOT have, I think this is in part at the root of my weight
issue, you know kinda deal where fat girls don't get unwanted advances. I
really am bothered when men I don't know make advances, and its worse when
it is someone I know and they make a comment that they would never have made
fifty pounds ago, I am really shocked to be figuring this out now, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
It'll all work out Lee. You'll need to get used to the all the attention
though. Until everyone is used to you being thin, you will continue
getting
attention!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose as
much
as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the concept
of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to
figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual
number
I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am having to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that, but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to stop
once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so long
that
I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh 136
next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower limit
appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH and I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an
impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed, Lee

Oh, I've had that happen. You know it's because you're no longer *FAT* and
that they would never have made the advances in the first place if you were
*FAT*. It's hard to get your head around isn't it? I've been that thin
person and received lots of attention, then the *FAT* person and received
almost no attention. I kind of like the attention I receive when I'm
thinner....Can't wait to get there. So far so good...three days OP!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am an attention hog just that there are certain kinds of attention that
I
would rather NOT have, I think this is in part at the root of my weight
issue, you know kinda deal where fat girls don't get unwanted advances. I
really am bothered when men I don't know make advances, and its worse when
it is someone I know and they make a comment that they would never have
made
fifty pounds ago, I am really shocked to be figuring this out now, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
It'll all work out Lee. You'll need to get used to the all the
attention
though. Until everyone is used to you being thin, you will continue
getting
attention!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose as
much
as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the
concept
of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to
figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual
number
I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over
sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am having
to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that, but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to stop
once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so long
that
I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh
136
next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower limit
appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH and
I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an
impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds
then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed, Lee

I started out thin (like 100 lbs bikini thin) and then NOT THIN (190 lbs
sweat suits, shorts and tee shirt bathing suits) Then back down, and back
up. Just didn't learn. Now I'm back, and pray I'll "get the message" this
time around, for me and my health.

Any attention can be an ego booster, it's all in the way you deal with it.
Enjoy it, don't let it rule you, or overwhelm you. Be proud of your
accomplishment. But..... if I'm only worthy of attention if I'm thin, then
that person will never be worthy of me or my attention. You are a sum of
your parts, NOT just your appearance.

On the other side, I had a very good friend who lost a lot of weight, and
her personality changed to the point where I wondered if I ever really knew
her. She started a few relationships that nearly destroyed her marriage to
a great guy who didn't care whether she was overweight, just that she be
happy and healthy. She never adjusted to her new self. And is back where
she was 20 years ago.

JMO ;)
Sharon

Well, that photo showed a glamour image. So you have no fear of NOT
getting attention. (G)

Now keep posting and keep on program.

On Wed, 3 Mar 2004 07:34:10 -0800, "Brenda Hammond"
wrote:

Oh, I've had that happen. You know it's because you're no longer *FAT* and
that they would never have made the advances in the first place if you were
*FAT*. It's hard to get your head around isn't it? I've been that thin
person and received lots of attention, then the *FAT* person and received
almost no attention. I kind of like the attention I receive when I'm
thinner....Can't wait to get there. So far so good...three days OP!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am an attention hog just that there are certain kinds of attention that
I
would rather NOT have, I think this is in part at the root of my weight
issue, you know kinda deal where fat girls don't get unwanted advances. I
really am bothered when men I don't know make advances, and its worse when
it is someone I know and they make a comment that they would never have
made
fifty pounds ago, I am really shocked to be figuring this out now, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
It'll all work out Lee. You'll need to get used to the all the
attention
though. Until everyone is used to you being thin, you will continue
getting
attention!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose as
much
as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the
concept
of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to
figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual
number
I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over
sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am having
to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that, but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to stop
once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so long
that
I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh
136
next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower limit
appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH and
I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an
impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds
then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed, Lee

That's nice, thanks Fred.

Brenda

"Fred" wrote in message
...
Well, that photo showed a glamour image. So you have no fear of NOT
getting attention. (G)

Now keep posting and keep on program.

On Wed, 3 Mar 2004 07:34:10 -0800, "Brenda Hammond"
wrote:

Oh, I've had that happen. You know it's because you're no longer *FAT*
and
that they would never have made the advances in the first place if you
were
*FAT*. It's hard to get your head around isn't it? I've been that thin
person and received lots of attention, then the *FAT* person and received
almost no attention. I kind of like the attention I receive when I'm
thinner....Can't wait to get there. So far so good...three days OP!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am an attention hog just that there are certain kinds of attention
that
I
would rather NOT have, I think this is in part at the root of my weight
issue, you know kinda deal where fat girls don't get unwanted advances.
I
really am bothered when men I don't know make advances, and its worse
when
it is someone I know and they make a comment that they would never have
made
fifty pounds ago, I am really shocked to be figuring this out now, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
It'll all work out Lee. You'll need to get used to the all the
attention
though. Until everyone is used to you being thin, you will continue
getting
attention!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an
overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose
as
much
as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the
concept
of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to
figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual
number
I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over
sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am
having
to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that,
but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to
stop
once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so
long
that
I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh
136
next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower
limit
appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH
and
I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked
too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in
message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an
impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds
then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed,
Lee

It is a double edged sword. I like to flirt, and so does DH so we are
always teasing each other about our flirting, but when it crosses my mind
that someone would not have done it in my fat version, I get angry, maybe at
them, maybe at myself for hiding, after men are visual creatures and just
following nature, so this is really my problem, Lee, still getting used to
it
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Oh, I've had that happen. You know it's because you're no longer *FAT*
and
that they would never have made the advances in the first place if you
were
*FAT*. It's hard to get your head around isn't it? I've been that thin
person and received lots of attention, then the *FAT* person and received
almost no attention. I kind of like the attention I receive when I'm
thinner....Can't wait to get there. So far so good...three days OP!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am an attention hog just that there are certain kinds of attention
that
I
would rather NOT have, I think this is in part at the root of my weight
issue, you know kinda deal where fat girls don't get unwanted advances.
I
really am bothered when men I don't know make advances, and its worse
when
it is someone I know and they make a comment that they would never have
made
fifty pounds ago, I am really shocked to be figuring this out now, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
It'll all work out Lee. You'll need to get used to the all the
attention
though. Until everyone is used to you being thin, you will continue
getting
attention!

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
It is starting to become a curiosity to me rather than an
overwhelming
prospect. I can't think about the fact that I might need to lose as
much
as
sixty more pounds, I also am having a bit of difficulty with the
concept
of
"only" about thirty to go... The rather exciting part is trying to
figure
out when enough is enough. I am having no anxiety about the actual
number
I
end up at just really a sense of excitement that it could be over
sooner
than I ever dreamed. In some odd way it is scary because I am
having
to
deal with err unwanted attention again, Not too happy about that,
but
excited to see if I can handle holding steady, Lee
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Good luck getting to where you want to be. You'll know when to
stop
once
you get there.

Brenda

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
I am not sure how far I have to go, I have been heavy for so
long
that
I
haven't a clue what is right. The WW charts say I should weigh
136
next
July when I turn 45 so that is the upper limit. The lower limit
appears
to
be 104 which is five pounds below the WW smallest weight. DH
and
I
decided
I would lose until I felt skinny enough or he thought I looked
too
skinny,
Lee, still not sure
Brenda Hammond wrote in message
...
Thanks for sharing your wonderful success with us! What an
impressive
loss.
Congratulations! How far are you from your goal weight?

--
Brenda
209/186/150
RafL goal 165

"Miss Violette" wrote in message
...
before I lose my nerve, I started at 251.5 lost 14.5 pounds
then
joined
WW
at 237 and now weigh 165.8, unless my memory has failed, Lee

You have explained the dilemma better than I did. I do love attention, but
not if it is only because of how I look, Lee, getting used to it slowly
Sharon & Jack wrote in message
hlink.net...
I started out thin (like 100 lbs bikini thin) and then NOT THIN (190 lbs
sweat suits, shorts and tee shirt bathing suits) Then back down, and back
up. Just didn't learn. Now I'm back, and pray I'll "get the message"
this
time around, for me and my health.

Any attention can be an ego booster, it's all in the way you deal with it.
Enjoy it, don't let it rule you, or overwhelm you. Be proud of your
accomplishment. But..... if I'm only worthy of attention if I'm thin,
then
that person will never be worthy of me or my attention. You are a sum of
your parts, NOT just your appearance.

On the other side, I had a very good friend who lost a lot of weight, and
her personality changed to the point where I wondered if I ever really
knew
her. She started a few relationships that nearly destroyed her marriage
to
a great guy who didn't care whether she was overweight, just that she be
happy and healthy. She never adjusted to her new self. And is back where
she was 20 years ago.

JMO ;)
Sharon