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"You must feel GREAT!"
"Ignoramus28710" wrote in message ... Oh, I see. Just a word of caution. If you have any kind of inlaw problems of any serious degree, DO NOT GET MARRIED. any kind? i sure would have missed marrying the most wonderful guy in the world, with that advise! |
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On 1 Oct 2003 19:38:18 GMT, Ignoramus28710
wrote: you sound pretty sad Wendy...Hoping that your life is okay. but being slim does make me personally feel much better. Plus you will probably live longer etc. If her life sucks as bad as she puts on, why would she want to? And I see nothing wrong with being ogled by men either, in fact. I didn't know you were a homosexual. |
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Wendy wrote:
I just ran into a friend at the gym and she exclaimed, "don't you just feel great now that you've lost all this weight?" When I was over 250 pounds, I got similar prophesies of losing all kinds of weight and suddenly my life will be handed to me on a silver platter, where at that point I *must* have been miserable, I mean *how* can anyone be happy weighing that much? VBG I *was* unhealthy when I was heavier, but it wasn't really the weight. It was *what* I was eating. When I changed my way of eating it took less than a *week* to feel really good (which was my *only* motivation to change my WOE in the first place). And the weight fell off all by itself. It didn't want to hang around a body that was getting progressively healthier. Losing weight in this society has been a real eye opener. Lose 70 odd pounds (I still have about 30-40 to go, but no time frame set), and people look at it with the same respect as someone who won the nobel peace prize. "oh *I* could never do that, I love my [insert favorite food here] too much!" While I do enjoy losing the weight, I do not enjoy the unnecessary worship I've been getting... really, it's not that big of a deal. It's not like I am on this earth for the purpose of being eye candy for anyone, anyway. Crafting Mom http://ca.photos.yahoo.com/craftingmom2001 Modified WOL since spring '02 || Weight at start: over 250 lb Today's weight: 180.5 lb || Goal/Maintenance: 140 lb |
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Ignoramus28710 wrote:
My experience is exactly opposite. After losing weight, I feel like a stud physically, I enjoy all that attention, I love my exercise etc. Doing stuff that I never have been able to do (like climbing rope) is great fun. i I feel good physically, I just think all the gushing is way overblown. I've lost weight, and still, I am about 30ish pounds overweight. Are people going to build freakin' statues in my honor when I reach goal? LOL Crafting Mom in NS (back from a dance with Hurricane Juan) http://ca.photos.yahoo.com/craftingmom2001 Modified WOL since spring '02 || Weight at start: over 250 lb Today's weight: 180.5 lb || Goal/Maintenance: 140 lb |
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On 1 Oct 2003 20:24:03 GMT, Ignoramus28710
wrote: I didn't know you were a homosexual. I meant wendy... but if men like to look at me, why can it be bad for me even though I a proud, unbowed heterosexual? Seriously? If you want men to ogle you, go for it. |
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"You must feel GREAT!"
When I lay down at night and can't sleep I often think about my life.
Mostly I'm thankful for all that I have. I also think about those things that I would change about my current life and goals I would like to reach. In the last few years my weight has been right up there on my list of things I would like to change about my life. For me, losing weight and maintaining a normal weight is a major goal. Once I achieve it I'll have one less issue in my life to worry about. Weight loss to me isn't about *looking* a certain way, it's about losing the uncomfortable feelings (physical and emotional) I have about myself physically. Candy "Wendy" wrote in message ... I just ran into a friend at the gym and she exclaimed, "don't you just feel great now that you've lost all this weight?" Umm, no. First of all, I didn't feel bad when I was fat. I was strong and active and not suffering from any illnesses. Second of all, I still feel exactly like me. I look better, but don't really care that much about my looks (aside from my cuticles.) :-) Thirdly, I'm actually a bit tired from all this exercise and trying to shoe-horn it into my life whether it fits or not (and even after a solid year of it I sometimes just can't fit it in easily) and I'm also a bit resentful of never being able to eat unrestrainedly for entertainment. Being non-fat costs me something. It's a trade-off. Am I happier now? Not really. Am I healthier now? Not noticeably (though most likely in the long run.) I'm trying to figure out what losing all this weight has gotten me. Because right now it's a pain in the ass: I have a vanishingly small wardrobe of things that fit, for example, and my skin is literally striped from the stretch marks compacting. The only benefits I can really come up with a 1.) Better athletic endurance/wind for functional activities like playing with the kids or gardening. 2.) Annoying (but not seriously painful) knee pain and plantar fasciatis pain is gone. 3.) A bit better confidence in social situations: I don't feel like they're discounting me because I must be stupid (the fat/stupid connection is terribly ingrained in people.) 4.) Esoteric non-tangible future probable benefits to my health. Can anyone bring up some benefits that make losing weight worth the work and the aggravation? Or failing that, can you come up with the things for me to say when I see my family this next week-end (I've lost 25 pounds since they last saw me) and THEY exclaim how happy I must be? Wendy, who kindly did NOT cross-post this to ASF-A. :-) |
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Wendy, thanks for such an honest post. There's a lot of nonsense
talked about how much your life will change with weight loss. First of all, people need to know that losing weight won't magically get rid of all the other issues in their life. If anything, the anticlimax when they discover this can lead to bitter disappointment. Like you, I never felt too incapacitated when I was at my top weight. I could still walk 15 miles in a day simply because I've always loved walking and never questioned my ability to do this whatever I weighed. I went swimming too - in fact there weren't many things the weight prevented me doing because I didn't let it. I think for me the main benefits even this far into the journey are to do with knowing how I'm "buying" myself extra years of active life at some time in the future when I get older. My flexibility and balance have already improved no end, and I can do things like get up from the floor, get out of the bath, and so on much more easily. But on the negative side, my skin is wrinkled, I still sometimes wonder if the sacrifice of not being able to eat what I like is worth it, and I hate people telling me I ought to be so happy about it all when they know nothing about me. You caused me to rant a bit here janice 233/161/133 On 1 Oct 2003 14:18:15 -0400, Wendy wrote: I just ran into a friend at the gym and she exclaimed, "don't you just feel great now that you've lost all this weight?" Umm, no. First of all, I didn't feel bad when I was fat. I was strong and active and not suffering from any illnesses. Second of all, I still feel exactly like me. I look better, but don't really care that much about my looks (aside from my cuticles.) :-) Thirdly, I'm actually a bit tired from all this exercise and trying to shoe-horn it into my life whether it fits or not (and even after a solid year of it I sometimes just can't fit it in easily) and I'm also a bit resentful of never being able to eat unrestrainedly for entertainment. Being non-fat costs me something. It's a trade-off. Am I happier now? Not really. Am I healthier now? Not noticeably (though most likely in the long run.) I'm trying to figure out what losing all this weight has gotten me. Because right now it's a pain in the ass: I have a vanishingly small wardrobe of things that fit, for example, and my skin is literally striped from the stretch marks compacting. The only benefits I can really come up with a 1.) Better athletic endurance/wind for functional activities like playing with the kids or gardening. 2.) Annoying (but not seriously painful) knee pain and plantar fasciatis pain is gone. 3.) A bit better confidence in social situations: I don't feel like they're discounting me because I must be stupid (the fat/stupid connection is terribly ingrained in people.) 4.) Esoteric non-tangible future probable benefits to my health. Can anyone bring up some benefits that make losing weight worth the work and the aggravation? Or failing that, can you come up with the things for me to say when I see my family this next week-end (I've lost 25 pounds since they last saw me) and THEY exclaim how happy I must be? Wendy, who kindly did NOT cross-post this to ASF-A. :-) |
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