getting tired of it

im candy and new here. i have gained 40lbs in about 1 1/2 yrs...i hate it and wouldnt even go certain places...all my life i was a small size on average a 4. i learned to accept it instead of doing something about it...but i still look in the mirror and sometimes dont recognize myself and it makes me moody...all those cute clothes and now its beach weather again! since having gained weight i have found my husband to be and he loves me the way i am completely...i wish i could bounce back to where i use to be for him even though he dont know the difference but first and foremost for myself...plus the fact heart disease runs in my family...and lastly i want to feel good in that wedding dress!!!!

any motivational tips, any suggestions, i would like to hear what has worked for others. i would love to loose 30-35 but i would be thrilled right now with at least 20....which would put me back to 120...i am 5'1 and the heat and weight is just getting to me....

sensibly how much weight comes off per week?

xtralbs wrote in message
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im candy and new here. i have gained 40lbs in about 1 1/2 yrs...i
hate
it and wouldnt even go certain places...all my life i was a small
size
on average a 4. i learned to accept it instead of doing something
about it...but i still look in the mirror and sometimes dont
recognize
myself and it makes me moody...all those cute clothes and now its
beach
weather again! since having gained weight i have found my husband
to be
and he loves me the way i am completely...i wish i could bounce back
to
where i use to be for him even though he dont know the difference
but
first and foremost for myself...plus the fact heart disease runs in
my
family...and lastly i want to feel good in that wedding dress!!!!

any motivational tips,

Some motivators for you: looking better in the mirror, wearing cute
clothes/beach clothes, looking better for your husband-to-be, reducing
your risk of heart disease, and looking better in your wedding dress.
Focus on these, especially the first four as they are longer term.
Remind yourself of them continually. Perhaps post a picture of
yourself a couple a years ago on your mirror. Hang your favorite cute
outfit that doesn't fit any longer in a place you will see it when you
get dressed.

any suggestions, i would like to hear what has
worked for others.

"Eat less, move more" has a pretty good track record. www.fitday.com
works well for tracking the eat less part. If you have an exercise
activity you love or have always wanted to try, now is a good time to
get into it.

i would love to loose 30-35 but i would be thrilled
right now with at least 20....which would put me back to 120...i am
5'1
and the heat and weight is just getting to me....

sensibly how much weight comes off per week?

About 1lb per week, probably less with the stress of an upcoming
wedding. Be patient.

Matthew

On 24 May 2005 19:33:21 GMT, Ignoramus19430
wrote:

On Tue, 24 May 2005 17:41:45 +0000, xtralbs wrote:

im candy and new here. i have gained 40lbs in about 1 1/2 yrs...i hate
it and wouldnt even go certain places...all my life i was a small size
on average a 4. i learned to accept it instead of doing something
about it...but i still look in the mirror and sometimes dont recognize
myself and it makes me moody...all those cute clothes and now its beach
weather again! since having gained weight i have found my husband to be
and he loves me the way i am completely...i wish i could bounce back to
where i use to be for him even though he dont know the difference but
first and foremost for myself...plus the fact heart disease runs in my
family...and lastly i want to feel good in that wedding dress!!!!

any motivational tips, any suggestions, i would like to hear what has
worked for others. i would love to loose 30-35 but i would be thrilled
right now with at least 20....which would put me back to 120...i am 5'1
and the heat and weight is just getting to me....

I hate to say it, but gaining so much weight in so little time is a
cause for alarm. It is a very high rate of weight gain. Have you seen
a doctor about it? You could have a undiagnosed illness, for example
thyroid disfunction etc.


It is a difference of about 256 calories a day... A small increase in
what you are eating, and stopping exercise, for example could easily
make that difference...The balance of such things are fairly
precarious... You change environments where you stop your regular
exercise (even if it was hidden as part of your daily routine), and
end up eating 100 more calories a day and you can put 40 lbs on in an
year and a half no problem.

Ignoramus19430 wrote:
I hate to say it, but gaining so much weight in so little time is a
cause for alarm. It is a very high rate of weight gain. Have you seen
a doctor about it? You could have a undiagnosed illness, for example
thyroid disfunction etc.



I hate to say it, but she could be perfectly healthy and gain 40 lbs in
2 years. Over eating and lack of exercise did it to me. I took off 20
and have 20 more to go. I am 5'8" so the 20 lbs is not that bad, but
believe me, you can gain fast if you eat too much and stop exercising.
I could gain that 20 lbs back in a heartbeat and I know it. But always
go to a doctor first before starting any exercise or diet program.

Maggie

"Maggie" wrote in message
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Ignoramus19430 wrote:
I hate to say it, but gaining so much weight in so little time is a
cause for alarm. It is a very high rate of weight gain. Have you seen
a doctor about it? You could have a undiagnosed illness, for example
thyroid disfunction etc.



I hate to say it, but she could be perfectly healthy and gain 40 lbs in
2 years. Over eating and lack of exercise did it to me. I took off 20
and have 20 more to go. I am 5'8" so the 20 lbs is not that bad, but
believe me, you can gain fast if you eat too much and stop exercising.
I could gain that 20 lbs back in a heartbeat and I know it. But always
go to a doctor first before starting any exercise or diet program.

Maggie

40 lbs in 2 years is not all that alarming. 40 lbs in 2 months OTOH is
something to be looked into. In addition to the eat more/move less reasons,
menopause (including pre & peri) once you get to your late 40's/early 50's
can really screw with your metabolism even if you aren't eating more or
moving less.
--
the volleyballchick

Ignoramus11475 wrote:
On 25 May 2005 08:11:53 -0700, Maggie wrote:


Ignoramus19430 wrote:
I hate to say it, but gaining so much weight in so little time is a
cause for alarm. It is a very high rate of weight gain. Have you seen
a doctor about it? You could have a undiagnosed illness, for example
thyroid disfunction etc.



I hate to say it, but she could be perfectly healthy and gain 40 lbs in
2 years.

Never said she could not be perfectly healthy. But her weight gain was
rapid enough to be concerned and look at various possible reasons.

(40 * 3500) / (365 * 1.5) = 256

So she would have to have a daily average positive caloric intake of
256 calories above her BMR in order to gain 40 pounds in 1.5 years.

Sound right?

--
Phil M.

Ignoramus11475 wrote:
On 25 May 2005 09:23:18 -0700, Phil M. wrote:


Ignoramus11475 wrote:
On 25 May 2005 08:11:53 -0700, Maggie wrote:


Ignoramus19430 wrote:
I hate to say it, but gaining so much weight in so little time is a
cause for alarm. It is a very high rate of weight gain. Have you seen
a doctor about it? You could have a undiagnosed illness, for example
thyroid disfunction etc.



I hate to say it, but she could be perfectly healthy and gain 40 lbs in
2 years.

Never said she could not be perfectly healthy. But her weight gain was
rapid enough to be concerned and look at various possible reasons.

(40 * 3500) / (365 * 1.5) = 256

So she would have to have a daily average positive caloric intake of
256 calories above her BMR in order to gain 40 pounds in 1.5 years.

Sound right?


Sounds about right.

That's a small order of McDonald's french fries.

--
Phil M.

I am not sure, though, what are you leading to.

Most people do not gain 27 lbs per year,

Not under normal circumstances, but periods of stress, lifestyle changes,
depression, family issues, problems at work, etc. can cause you weight gain
in a relatively short time.

without failure of previous big dieting efforts and such (which the OP did
not mention).

Just 'coz it wasn't mentioned doesn't mean this wasn't the case, we don't
know.

Her weight gain is unusually rapid.

Considering that most people on a diet lose 40lbs in a lot less than 1 1/2
yrs AND gaining weight is generally regarded as easier than losing it, it
really isn't that unusual or rapid.

Because of this, I suggested to talk to a doctor and try to see if
there is a cause of such a gain, such as a thyroid condition (which is
a very frequent occurrence, especially among women).

Do you think that my suggestion to try to figure out if she has any
such condition is unwise? In other words, do you think that she should
not check with a doctor if she has something wrong with her (other
than eating too much, which we know did happen).

It all depends on the particular circumstances, and we don't know enough
about them. If you're positive you've kept your food intake & physical
activity at exactly the same level and you gain 40lbs for no reason
whatsoever, then there's definitely reason to see a doctor, otherwise just a
couple of non-diet sodas or a choc bar extra a day is a more likely
expanation. Only the OP knows exactly what she's been up to. Most weight
increases are NOT due to medical conditions.

If so, I would love to hear your reasons as to why she she should not
seek medical advice about her unusually rapid weight gain.

Before seeking medical advice she should ask herself a few questions
relating to things like those mentioned above. If none of these things
apply, then there's a reason to see a doctor, who is also likely to ask the
same questions before ordering any tests. Doctors must have heard 1000s of
people say 'I eat very little and gain weight, just looking at food is
enough to make me fat' ;-)

If you, in fact, agree that she should seek medical advice, then we
can together marvel at how little daily surpluses could lead to
surprisingly large weight gains. I also find it quite fascinating,
just how well our bodies regulate how much we eat, at least until we
begin dieting.

....or go through a difficult patch, or get depressed, or have a stressful
time, or suffer a setback, or change our lifestyle....

Ignoramus11475 wrote:


Also, I did not claim that she gained weight without eating too much.

"I hate to say it, but gaining so much weight in so little time is a
cause for alarm. It is a very high rate of weight gain. Have you seen
a doctor about it? You could have a undiagnosed illness, for example
thyroid disfunction etc. (on a weight gain of 40 pounds over two
years)"
Ignoramus, Asd, May 24, 2005

lid wrote:

If you, in fact, agree that she should seek medical advice

I agree. It couldn't hurt. It might even help.

then we can together marvel at how little daily surpluses could lead
to surprisingly large weight gains.

That was my point. But then again, who's going to eat exactly 250 calories
over their BMR every day. Caloric intake for those that don't monitor such
things can be very eratic.

I also find it quite fascinating, just how well our bodies regulate
how much we eat, at least until we begin dieting.

True. Even then our bodies want to to regulate. We just have find ways to
supress those urges.


--
Phil M.