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Old December 17th, 2004, 06:59 PM
jes
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I went on Atkins for 2 valid health reasons: (1) avoid, if possible,
Adult type 2 diabetes and (2) see if it would lower an elevated liver
reading. There are things I want to do in my remaining time in this
world, and overweight makes it either difficult or outright
prohibitive. I do not weigh. I cannot answer the question "how much
have you lost?"

But I keep getting this chorus, ad nauseum and ad infinitim, ranting of
"how good you look." I've told one person my reasons, over and over,
yet her sole emphasis is on looks.

Like that's more important? Like none of my other life's
accomplishments are diddly because I'm fat?

Do I really care what my looks are to another person and that it's
important they endorse me as approved?

If we want people to support us, then maybe we can educate them to
support us in a health life style choice?

I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know it isn't
enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained weight in the past.
Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless that does it!! ;-)
Anyone agree with me?

Joan

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Old December 17th, 2004, 07:30 PM
BJ in Texas
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jes wrote:
|| I went on Atkins for 2 valid health reasons: (1) avoid, if
|| possible, Adult type 2 diabetes and (2) see if it would lower
|| an elevated liver reading. There are things I want to do in
|| my remaining time in this world, and overweight makes it
|| either difficult or outright prohibitive. I do not weigh. I
|| cannot answer the question "how much have you lost?"
||
|| But I keep getting this chorus, ad nauseum and ad infinitim,
|| ranting of "how good you look." I've told one person my
|| reasons, over and over, yet her sole emphasis is on looks.
||
|| Like that's more important? Like none of my other life's
|| accomplishments are diddly because I'm fat?
||
|| Do I really care what my looks are to another person and that
|| it's important they endorse me as approved?
||
|| If we want people to support us, then maybe we can educate
|| them to support us in a health life style choice?
||
|| I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know
|| it isn't enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained
|| weight in the past. Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless
|| that does it!! ;-)
|| Anyone agree with me?
||
|| Joan

Looks are one facet of who you are along with everything else.
Different people place varying degrees of importance on it. It
is the first thing you notice about a person when meeting them.
It is the only thing people that don't know/never meet you know
about you. Usually the better someone gets to know you the
less important it becomes.

BJ


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Old December 17th, 2004, 07:30 PM
BJ in Texas
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jes wrote:
|| I went on Atkins for 2 valid health reasons: (1) avoid, if
|| possible, Adult type 2 diabetes and (2) see if it would lower
|| an elevated liver reading. There are things I want to do in
|| my remaining time in this world, and overweight makes it
|| either difficult or outright prohibitive. I do not weigh. I
|| cannot answer the question "how much have you lost?"
||
|| But I keep getting this chorus, ad nauseum and ad infinitim,
|| ranting of "how good you look." I've told one person my
|| reasons, over and over, yet her sole emphasis is on looks.
||
|| Like that's more important? Like none of my other life's
|| accomplishments are diddly because I'm fat?
||
|| Do I really care what my looks are to another person and that
|| it's important they endorse me as approved?
||
|| If we want people to support us, then maybe we can educate
|| them to support us in a health life style choice?
||
|| I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know
|| it isn't enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained
|| weight in the past. Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless
|| that does it!! ;-)
|| Anyone agree with me?
||
|| Joan

Looks are one facet of who you are along with everything else.
Different people place varying degrees of importance on it. It
is the first thing you notice about a person when meeting them.
It is the only thing people that don't know/never meet you know
about you. Usually the better someone gets to know you the
less important it becomes.

BJ


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Old December 17th, 2004, 07:47 PM
Roger Zoul
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jes wrote:
|| Anyone agree with me?

No.

health is #1 but looking good doesn't hurt anything. Take what you can get
in this life and run with it.


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Old December 17th, 2004, 07:47 PM
Roger Zoul
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jes wrote:
|| Anyone agree with me?

No.

health is #1 but looking good doesn't hurt anything. Take what you can get
in this life and run with it.


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Old December 17th, 2004, 08:41 PM
Nicky
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"jes" wrote in message
ups.com...
I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know it isn't
enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained weight in the past.
Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless that does it!! ;-)
Anyone agree with me?


Your motivation has to come from inside you, or it's not worth anything. If
it feels good when people praise you, that's cool - but it needs to
supplement your own sense of self-worth. Which you clearly have, or you
wouldn't be bothered by your friend's insistence on looks as a prime worth
measurer!

Personally, I'd be happier if the face in the mirror didn't look so much
like my Dad these days...

Nicky.

--
HbA1c 10.5/6.4/6 Weight 95/79/72
1g Metformin, 75ug Thyroxine
T2 DX 05/2004


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Old December 17th, 2004, 08:41 PM
Nicky
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"jes" wrote in message
ups.com...
I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know it isn't
enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained weight in the past.
Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless that does it!! ;-)
Anyone agree with me?


Your motivation has to come from inside you, or it's not worth anything. If
it feels good when people praise you, that's cool - but it needs to
supplement your own sense of self-worth. Which you clearly have, or you
wouldn't be bothered by your friend's insistence on looks as a prime worth
measurer!

Personally, I'd be happier if the face in the mirror didn't look so much
like my Dad these days...

Nicky.

--
HbA1c 10.5/6.4/6 Weight 95/79/72
1g Metformin, 75ug Thyroxine
T2 DX 05/2004


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Old December 17th, 2004, 08:46 PM
Glitter Girl
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when I rant and rave about how fabulous someone looks, it is usually because
they are oozing vitality and sunshine and happiness..

I want to lose weight because I am tired of looking like a hag. Plain and
simple. Forget all the health benefits of losing 100+ lbs. I see women all
the time that look 20 years older than I do, all because they dont take care
of themselves, and I know that I look the same way.

Yes, am teaching my children to love themselves and their bodies no matter
how they look, and how to make proper nutritional and lifestyle choices.
However, I do secretly gloat over their long, lean bodies--thank god for
their father's genes!

I would love for one of my friends to rave about how fabulous I look, and
they wouldnt have to even mention one word about all my other
accomplishments in my life. Bring it on! I'm ready!

Glitter Girl
"jes" wrote in message
ups.com...
I went on Atkins for 2 valid health reasons: (1) avoid, if possible,
Adult type 2 diabetes and (2) see if it would lower an elevated liver
reading. There are things I want to do in my remaining time in this
world, and overweight makes it either difficult or outright
prohibitive. I do not weigh. I cannot answer the question "how much
have you lost?"

But I keep getting this chorus, ad nauseum and ad infinitim, ranting of
"how good you look." I've told one person my reasons, over and over,
yet her sole emphasis is on looks.

Like that's more important? Like none of my other life's
accomplishments are diddly because I'm fat?

Do I really care what my looks are to another person and that it's
important they endorse me as approved?

If we want people to support us, then maybe we can educate them to
support us in a health life style choice?

I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know it isn't
enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained weight in the past.
Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless that does it!! ;-)
Anyone agree with me?

Joan



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Old December 17th, 2004, 08:46 PM
Glitter Girl
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when I rant and rave about how fabulous someone looks, it is usually because
they are oozing vitality and sunshine and happiness..

I want to lose weight because I am tired of looking like a hag. Plain and
simple. Forget all the health benefits of losing 100+ lbs. I see women all
the time that look 20 years older than I do, all because they dont take care
of themselves, and I know that I look the same way.

Yes, am teaching my children to love themselves and their bodies no matter
how they look, and how to make proper nutritional and lifestyle choices.
However, I do secretly gloat over their long, lean bodies--thank god for
their father's genes!

I would love for one of my friends to rave about how fabulous I look, and
they wouldnt have to even mention one word about all my other
accomplishments in my life. Bring it on! I'm ready!

Glitter Girl
"jes" wrote in message
ups.com...
I went on Atkins for 2 valid health reasons: (1) avoid, if possible,
Adult type 2 diabetes and (2) see if it would lower an elevated liver
reading. There are things I want to do in my remaining time in this
world, and overweight makes it either difficult or outright
prohibitive. I do not weigh. I cannot answer the question "how much
have you lost?"

But I keep getting this chorus, ad nauseum and ad infinitim, ranting of
"how good you look." I've told one person my reasons, over and over,
yet her sole emphasis is on looks.

Like that's more important? Like none of my other life's
accomplishments are diddly because I'm fat?

Do I really care what my looks are to another person and that it's
important they endorse me as approved?

If we want people to support us, then maybe we can educate them to
support us in a health life style choice?

I fall into the preening from the look-good praise, but know it isn't
enough to keep me focused. I have lost and gained weight in the past.
Looks isn't enough. It's scared witless that does it!! ;-)
Anyone agree with me?

Joan



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Old December 17th, 2004, 09:23 PM
Lisa
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"jes" wrote in message
ups.com...


But I keep getting this chorus, ad nauseum and ad infinitim, ranting of
"how good you look." I've told one person my reasons, over and over,
yet her sole emphasis is on looks.

Like that's more important? Like none of my other life's
accomplishments are diddly because I'm fat?


I think people focus on looks because it's a more tangible concept. They
can see it, it is right in front of them. Also, for some to focus on your
health, then they have to take stock in their own, and it may not be
comfortable for them.

Or they might just be really shallow people. ;o) Unfortunately, appearance
is our first impression we have of people. It's just how human nature is.


--
Lisa
208/159.5/145-150
High weight in 2004: 228
Low-carb since June 2004



 




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