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Old October 10th, 2003, 02:37 AM
Wendy
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In alt.support.diet Patricia Heil wrote:
What does your childcare manual say?


I knew it! I just KNEW there had to be a childcare manual! I called up
the maternity ward and complained and complained that they hadn't given it
to me but they kept pretending it didn't exist. Spiteful bitches.

Wendy





(I'm joking, people.)
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Old October 10th, 2003, 04:17 AM
Ericka Kammerer
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Sophie wrote:


And some children have a favorite meal time. My nephew (21 months) eats the
most at breakfast - he just picks up at lunch and dinner. My daughter (5)
and youngest son (22 months) love dinner, whereas my other son (almost 4)
eats the most at lunchtime so I don't worry about him not eating as much as
his brother and sister at dinnertime.



Really? You actually have kids whose big meal is
dinner? I thought those didn't exist ;-) Mine tend to
want to eat the most either at lunchtime or in mid-afternoon.

Best wishes,
Ericka

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Old October 10th, 2003, 01:09 PM
Chookie
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Ignoramus13806 wrote:

My son is 2.5. He oftentimes refuses to eat much during regular
meals. This is frustrating because we cook for him etc. Then he might
get something -- like a piece of cheese or some such thing -- in
between. I now think that it is unhealthy and that if he wants to eat
during a meal, that's great. If he does not, he gets nothing until the
next one. Would that be a reasonable policy.


No. Toddlers have small stomachs that need refilling more often. Also, if my
2.5yo is anything to go by, toddlers are not good at identifying their own
hunger signals. I have found that crabbiness often vanishes when DS's tummy
is filled up again. Anyway, here is a list of tips that have worked for me so
far (from a previous post):

* Have meals together as a family. I don't expect DS to eat alone, nor do we
watch TV while eating
* Have a pleasant atmosphere at mealtimes (I find that saying grace promotes a
mood of thankfulness and peacefulness)
* Offer the child the same food that everybody else is eating (unless it
involves chillies!), mashed or cut up if necessary
* Pay no attention to likes and dislikes at this age -- they change every
week. Just offer them what you're eating. If they don't want it, they don't
eat it.
* Put very small amounts of a few foods on his plate -- lots of food is
confusing and off-putting
* Replace whatever he has eaten after a little while
* Fulfil any requests the child makes for more food
* Don't hang over the child while he eats (have you ever had someone stare at
you while you eat? It's a real appetite-killer). Eat and talk as you would
do at a table of adults.
* Encourage independent eating. When the child seems ready/eager to use a
spoon or fork, let him.
* Offer only water to drink, except on special occasions
* Have meals and snacks at about the same time each day
* Never make a big deal out of what he eats or doesn't eat -- trust his
judgement
* Expect mess and be prepared for it -- use a "splat mat" if you have carpet,
put a bib on the child, roll his sleeves up, have a washcloth handy for wiping
face/hands afterward, etc
* We don't usually have dessert, and therefore don't use bribery

We never give him anything with sugar and no junk food. He does not
know what junk food is at this point.


I would be very surprised if he has never eaten any sugar -- or do you mean
sucrose? It's laudable to keep children away from junk food, but I personally
don't sweat over the occasional cake or chip. People can get a bit tooo
intense about foods at times.

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Old October 10th, 2003, 04:30 PM
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toto wrote:
On 9 Oct 2003 16:57:35 GMT, enigma wrote:


my 3 year old eats whenever he's hungry, which does mean he
may not be hungry when we eat dinner... he helps me cook by
sampling things



Remember also that adults in our society eat dinner quite late by
children's standards. It used to be quite common to feed the children
before dad got home from work when they were small because they
could not wait until 6 or 7 pm for their food.



That would still be common in my house if my husband were getting
home at 6 or 7 p.m. We normally eat around 5 p.m., and that's when I'd
feed the kids regardless of when he got home.

Clisby


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Old October 10th, 2003, 04:55 PM
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Really? You actually have kids whose big meal is
dinner? I thought those didn't exist ;-) Mine tend to
want to eat the most either at lunchtime or in mid-afternoon.

Best wishes,
Ericka


Yep, Lewis naps during lunch (12 till 2) so he has a morning and afternoon
snack, and dinner. Charlotte might have toast before school (before 8 am),
lunch is 12:30, afternoon snack, and dinner. They've just both always liked
dinner. Thankfully they have the same tastes too so it's just Patrick who's
a pain at dinner (what to cook for him).


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Old October 10th, 2003, 04:57 PM
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Remember also that adults in our society eat dinner quite late by
children's standards. It used to be quite common to feed the children
before dad got home from work when they were small because they
could not wait until 6 or 7 pm for their food.



That would still be common in my house if my husband were getting
home at 6 or 7 p.m. We normally eat around 5 p.m., and that's when I'd
feed the kids regardless of when he got home.

Clisby



My kids eats dinner between 5 and 5:30 pm. My husband (when he's not
deployed) gets home between 6 and 7 pm. 2 of my kids go to bed at 7 pm so
I wouldn't wait for dad to get home either. I eat after my oldest goes to
bed at 8pm.


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Old October 11th, 2003, 03:19 PM
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toto wrote:


Kids often surprise you with what they like. We had one 3 year old
in daycare who really liked uncooked brocoli.


That was my child *until* she realized that no one else liked it. Then,
suddenly she *hated* broccoli. That was the one time I really considered
homeschooling...

Jeanne
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Old October 12th, 2003, 01:47 AM
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Ignoramus13806 wrote in
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In article , Wendy wrote:
In misc.kids Ignoramus13806
wrote:


What I *do* make them do is join us and stay at the table
until they're excused. We use family meals to catch up
and visit and to practice manners. I struggle quite a lot
with trying to get my small sons to sit still in
restaurants and one way we practice that is to really
stress that the food aspect of the meal is just one
element.


what about snacks between meals? That was kind of the
center of my question. To me, no snacks means eating during
meals. (whether it is a good strategy or not is an open
question, but there is no doubt that he *will* eat during
meals if no snacks are provided in between)


well, with a toddler that is not a given. at 3, mine still
doesn't eat all that much. he may eat half a waffle at
breakfast, no snack at preschool (he refuses to eat there), no
lunch, maybe a quarter of an apple around 3 & no dinner...
*or* he may eat 3 pancakes & a couple slices of bacon for
breakfast, a doughnut on the way to school (if daddy stops for
coffee), 3/4 of a can of noodle soup for lunch, half an apple
& 2 Oreos for snack, 6 oz. of yogurt while making dinner, a
cup of broccoli, 3 oz. of meat & 1/4 cup of rice, and ice
cream before bed. it just depends. i don't care that it's so
erratic since he's a good weight (50%) & overall he has a
balanced diet.
at 2.5, your child can help you cook, even if most of the
'helping' is just watching you. at that age they can pour
premeasured ingredients, mix, rinse rice & shred greens. my 3
year old can measure dry ingredients, cut apples with an apple
slicer-corer, butter toast or veggies, & knead, roll & cut
biscuits (his favorite next to making bread in the bread
machine). i let him pour macaroni into the pot & stir, but
anything near the stove is very closely supervised.
while we are cooking we talk about food & how growing bodies
need good food, not junky stuff. the conversation about sugar
& empty calories was pretty funny... i don't expect he
understands most of what i tell him, but it does seem to sink
in. he's not always clamoring for cookies or candy anymore.
he'll choose apple over Oreo most of the time
lee
 




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