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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Mxsmanic wrote:
Larry Hodges writes: LOL..."a fast-moving attempt to establish "permanent" relationships". Yes. Potentially abusive men rapidly begin talking about marriage and permanent relationships and frequently say things like "this is forever," "our lifetime together," etc. They become deeply involved very quickly, much more quickly than their partners. Is that so we can incarsorate some woman by way of marriage so we can get right to beating her ASAP? It's part of the control-freak behavior that one commonly sees among abusive men. "Star 80" |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Doug Freyburger wrote in message om... John M. Williams wrote: mapp wrote: Doug Freyburger wrote: Proton Soup wrote: Mxsmanic wrote: "Potentially" ? As opposed to what, "impotentially" ? Men are potentially abusive if they exhibit the symptoms of abusive personalities but haven't actually hit a woman yet. Such as? Also it's both genders in approximately equal numbers. Men get the wrap more often because men tend to be physically larger, but there are plenty of abusive woman. this has actually been confirmed by a study in Canada of all places. ... women are SLIGHTLY more likely to intitiate physical violence. 2) men are FAR less likely to report minor assaults to police than women are. Even when it includes a trip to the hospital to handle the damage. Been there, done that, have a finallized divorce as a result. It signaled the time to exit. i've been slapped before. that's "domestic violence". i would not and did not call 911 to report this heinous abuse. and i think that is typical of most men. far more women would report a slap. that is how the reporting gets skewed. i had a friend in college who got kicked in the nads by his girlfriend. he kind of deserved it, but still... now THAT's domestic violence. whit I have known a number of girls/women who think it acceptable to react to a guy verbally teasing them by pinching him, giving him a little shove, or punching him in the arm. I think that's an extremely bad habit to let a girl develop. It incites violence, and it is *not* a benign reaction to mere words. And someday, it will result in a guy kicking the crap out them. That does not justify the guy's actions. However, she is not innocent, and his violent acts might not have occurred but for her physical provocation. Rough-housing that both parties view as rough-housing is NOT abuse. Abuse comes from a competely different mental state. This is like comparing sober driving and drunk driving and thinking they are the same becaus ethey both involve driving. I get your point that it needs to be viewed as an enabling step. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Proton Soup writes:
Sorry, you're not getting off that easily. Getting off what? Why is it that women always want to shrug off responsibility? Who said that? Oh yeah, I forgot, they're manipulative. And irresponsible. They can always use the "I'm just a girl" defense. Pout, cry, turn on the tears. Men are just suckers for that. Not all men. -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Mxsmanic wrote in message ... marbury writes: they still tend to prefer strong men over weak men. Both sexes tend to prefer psychologically strong partners. but men do not tend to value physical strength in women, to the extent that women value physical strength in a man. also, women are much more likely to choose and desire a partner that is physically stronger than they are, then men are to want to choose a partner that is physically stronger than them this has been borne out in my personal experience as well, as in theory Women are sexually attracted to physical strength as well, which only makes sense since that matches the majority of men (from a woman's viewpoint). However, there is more to successful relationships than sexual attraction. well, duh and it's not just sexual. not at all. that is not the sole reason, or even the primary reason why women are attracted to strong men ... in our society, strong doesn't necessarily mean physically strong - it can also have to do with money/power etc. Yes. See above. But both sexes prefer partners who are strong in other ways, unless they are very insecure (as many men are, alas!). but men are generally not that interested in strength and power etc as women are. men are far more interested than women in fecundity, youth, etc. and less interested in power, strength etc. that is why, for instance, it is far more rare for women to marry below their station than women. it is also why the older male and younger woman is more common than the older woman and younger man whit -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
John M. Williams writes:
I think I recall someone talking recently about martial arts sparring with his wife. I learned during my first marriage that it's not such a good idea. One spouse gets a little over-competitive, and it escalates. I think it depends on personalities. People who have a violent nature should avoid "sparring" and other "playful" forms of violence, as they will find it hard to resist the urge to escalate. Of course, these are the very people who are most likely to be interested in "playful" violence to begin with. People who don't like violence aren't even interested in pretending to be violent, as they find the whole idea perverse. -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Mxsmanic wrote in message ... marbury writes: more women than men are likely to use physical violence. They are raised to believe it is acceptable, as long as it doesn't injure anyone physically. Women need to be taught that it is _not_ acceptable, injury or not. what they need to be taught is another issue. i was merely commenting on the fact that they are more likely to use physical force in relationships, however minor it is. men are much more likely to use more SERIOUS physical violence, resulting in injury, though Men seek to injure through violence; women generally do not. i am not sure this is the distinction. it may also have to do with strength factors, etc. but i haven't seen data either way. whit -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
mapp writes:
i had a friend in college who got kicked in the nads by his girlfriend. he kind of deserved it, but still... What sort of behavior "deserves" violence? -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
mapp writes:
but men do not tend to value physical strength in women, to the extent that women value physical strength in a man. I said "psychologically." also, women are much more likely to choose and desire a partner that is physically stronger than they are, then men are to want to choose a partner that is physically stronger than them Most men are stronger than most women, so the choice of that for a woman is not difficult. and it's not just sexual. not at all. that is not the sole reason, or even the primary reason why women are attracted to strong men It is almost exclusively sexual. The rest is conditioning. On rare occasions, some personalities (of either sex) might be attracted to it. but men are generally not that interested in strength and power etc as women are. Men have very fragile egos in many cases and are thus likely to be more intimidated by power in women than attracted to it. Secure men may not have this problem, although I think both of them are already married. -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Mxsmanic wrote in message ... mapp writes: but men do not tend to value physical strength in women, to the extent that women value physical strength in a man. I said "psychologically." i know. that's why i referenced back to phys strength. in general, women value strength in a potential mate more than men do, whereas men value fecundity, youthfulness, etc. more than women do. also, women are much more likely to choose and desire a partner that is physically stronger than they are, then men are to want to choose a partner that is physically stronger than them Most men are stronger than most women, so the choice of that for a woman is not difficult. yes, but it is still a truism. imo, it is an edifice of evolution. fwiw, women who are exceptionally strong DO have a hard time finding mates. i have several very6 strong wl'er women friends who oft-remark on this. a physically strong woman is going to scare a lot of guys off - guys are extremely loathe to partner with a woman who is stronger than them and it's not just sexual. not at all. that is not the sole reason, or even the primary reason why women are attracted to strong men It is almost exclusively sexual. i disagree The rest is conditioning. no, there is more than that. for example, a stronger man is going ot be perceived as a potentially better protector, breadwinner, etc. On rare occasions, some personalities (of either sex) might be attracted to it. but men are generally not that interested in strength and power etc as women are. Men have very fragile egos in many cases and are thus likely to be more intimidated by power in women than attracted to it. Secure men may not have this problem, although I think both of them are already married. it is not just a matter of fragile ego. it is a matter of what is found to be attractive. it is a matter of perceived ability to (in the case of men seeking women) bear children, raise them, etc. whereas in the case of men it is the perceived ability to protect, provide care/food for, etc. those are a lot more robust than ego whit -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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How to acquire a "rugged look"?
Mxsmanic wrote in message ... mapp writes: i had a friend in college who got kicked in the nads by his girlfriend. he kind of deserved it, but still... What sort of behavior "deserves" violence? i knew i was going to get a response like that. he cheated on her and lied to her. from a legal standpoint, it is unacceptable (not that he would have considered calling the cops, of course). from a societal standpoint - he got what he deserved imo whit -- Transpose hotmail and mxsmanic in my e-mail address to reach me directly. |
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