You know you've lost weight when...

Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback from
others).

I reached a point where, suddenly, everyone in my social group started
noticing I'd lost weight. The funny thing was, it happened on one particular
day. That day, at least 30 people (I'm not exaggerating) came up to me at
Church and were raving about how much weight I'd lost. Maybe it was
something I wore...who knows?

Another one has been happening lately where people are now starting to take
an interest in my (nonexistent) love-life. They are trying to find a husband
for me. HELP! One woman told me now that I had lost so much weight, she
figured I was a pretty good bet for finding a husband. LOL!

Cat

Men are visual creatures. One shouldn't pass up a good book based on the
cover. Unfortunatley, it is often the cover that attracts the reader to the
book... Maybe it was just that you have more self confidence now??? That
can be very attractive.

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"Susan Jones-Anderson" wrote in message
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My epiphany comes in small doses.
Example.. the stalls in women's rooms were once uncomfortably smaller
than what I would prefer. Now they are not.
Seatbelts in my pickup fit differently.
Right this very second my butt is not wider than the seat of my chair.
I can cross my legs again properly.
I can wrap my forearm under my breasts and actually rest my breasts on
my arm when I'm standing.

But I guess the most surprising is how I am treated by men. Without
sounding like a man basher (even though I broke up with the b/f
yesterday) we all know that the majority of men treat large women much
differently than thin women. Some are so shallow they wont smile or talk
to a big woman. Some wont even look a big woman in the eye, much less
open a door or smile. I am finding that more and more men are friendly
and look at me in a totally different light. I am a good looking gal,
one of those ones that was always said "she's got such a pretty face, if
she would just lose some weight.. she'd be perfect." So now that I am
trimmer and look MUCH healthier in my physical body and in my attitude.
I am getting *alot* of attention from men, even strangers.
Is this a good thing? *shrug* - I dunno, I am enjoying most of it and in
6 months I may feel differently. It does alot for my ego on one hand and
at the same time I'm sorta disgusted that they are so shallow.

Susan(single again
260/209/160

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"Cat" wrote in message
ink.net...
Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback
from
others).

I reached a point where, suddenly, everyone in my social group started
noticing I'd lost weight. The funny thing was, it happened on one
particular
day. That day, at least 30 people (I'm not exaggerating) came up to me
at
Church and were raving about how much weight I'd lost. Maybe it was
something I wore...who knows?

Another one has been happening lately where people are now starting to
take
an interest in my (nonexistent) love-life. They are trying to find a
husband
for me. HELP! One woman told me now that I had lost so much weight,
she
figured I was a pretty good bet for finding a husband. LOL!

Cat

I haven't worn anything smaller then a 14 since i was 17. I want to get rid
of all the big clothes and buy all new smaller "normal" sized clothes. I
never want to wear the larger ones again. I hope by not having any, there
will be less incentive to overeat and not exercise.

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"Julianne" wrote in message
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I have a closet full of clothes of different sizes. I sort of learned to
disregard all the sixes and eights as though they weren't even there for a
long time. Now the eights fit well and I can wear the sixes but not
comfortably. It's like having lots of new clothes without spending the
cash.

j


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"Perple Gyrl" wrote in message
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I love that... I usually shop at Avenue. I remember when I was wearing
a
30/32 about 5 years ago and how the clothes seemed to be getting
tighter.
That is a very scary feeling. Now, the 18/20's I bought are getting too
baggy and I'll be into the 14/16's by next month. I am tall, big-boned
and
have a long torso/average length legs, that is why the smaller clothes
fit
me better at my weight.... I can't wait until I am too small to fit
into
any of their clothes. I should be there by early next year. I also
have
a
ton of jeans that I can pull on and off w/out unbuttoning them. Well, I
did
have alot of them BEFORE I donated last month....

284/230/199(mini)/175
5'9.25"

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"Jarkat2002" wrote in message
...
Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback
from
others).

I knew I lost weight when:
I could pull of my jeans w/o unbuttoning or un zipping them
I went into Lane Bryants (SP?) once to buy clothes, (for those that
don't
know,
fat woman's clothing store) and they had nothing that fit me, I was
too
big
(over a size 32) and went back after weight loss and they still had
nothing to
fit me (the smallest size they carry is a 14) I was too small. (Damn,
one
of
the best days of my life!)
When my DD asked me to play w/ her at the park, and I did w/o getting
winded or
even *thinking* about being tired.
When my husband put his arms around me and I fit perfectly.
I could go on and on w/ this one

~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

I love that... I usually shop at Avenue. I remember when I was wearing a
30/32 about 5 years ago and how the clothes seemed to be getting tighter.
That is a very scary feeling. Now, the 18/20's I bought are getting too
baggy and I'll be into the 14/16's by next month. I am tall, big-boned and
have a long torso/average length legs, that is why the smaller clothes fit
me better at my weight.... I can't wait until I am too small to fit into
any of their clothes. I should be there by early next year. I also have a
ton of jeans that I can pull on and off w/out unbuttoning them. Well, I did
have alot of them BEFORE I donated last month....

284/230/199(mini)/175
5'9.25"

--
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perpleglow(AT)comcast.net


"Jarkat2002" wrote in message
...
Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback
from
others).

I knew I lost weight when:
I could pull of my jeans w/o unbuttoning or un zipping them
I went into Lane Bryants (SP?) once to buy clothes, (for those that don't
know,
fat woman's clothing store) and they had nothing that fit me, I was too
big
(over a size 32) and went back after weight loss and they still had
nothing to
fit me (the smallest size they carry is a 14) I was too small. (Damn, one
of
the best days of my life!)
When my DD asked me to play w/ her at the park, and I did w/o getting
winded or
even *thinking* about being tired.
When my husband put his arms around me and I fit perfectly.
I could go on and on w/ this one

~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

My epiphany comes in small doses.
Example.. the stalls in women's rooms were once uncomfortably smaller
than what I would prefer. Now they are not.
Seatbelts in my pickup fit differently.
Right this very second my butt is not wider than the seat of my chair.
I can cross my legs again properly.
I can wrap my forearm under my breasts and actually rest my breasts on
my arm when I'm standing.

But I guess the most surprising is how I am treated by men. Without
sounding like a man basher (even though I broke up with the b/f
yesterday) we all know that the majority of men treat large women much
differently than thin women. Some are so shallow they wont smile or talk
to a big woman. Some wont even look a big woman in the eye, much less
open a door or smile. I am finding that more and more men are friendly
and look at me in a totally different light. I am a good looking gal,
one of those ones that was always said "she's got such a pretty face, if
she would just lose some weight.. she'd be perfect." So now that I am
trimmer and look MUCH healthier in my physical body and in my attitude.
I am getting *alot* of attention from men, even strangers.
Is this a good thing? *shrug* - I dunno, I am enjoying most of it and in
6 months I may feel differently. It does alot for my ego on one hand and
at the same time I'm sorta disgusted that they are so shallow.

Susan(single again
260/209/160

---
2month 1days 18:31hours of being smoke-free, 2,520 cigs not smoked,
$466.20 saved, 1wweek 1day 18:00hours of my life saved



"Cat" wrote in message
ink.net...
Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback
from
others).

I reached a point where, suddenly, everyone in my social group started
noticing I'd lost weight. The funny thing was, it happened on one
particular
day. That day, at least 30 people (I'm not exaggerating) came up to me
at
Church and were raving about how much weight I'd lost. Maybe it was
something I wore...who knows?

Another one has been happening lately where people are now starting to
take
an interest in my (nonexistent) love-life. They are trying to find a
husband
for me. HELP! One woman told me now that I had lost so much weight,
she
figured I was a pretty good bet for finding a husband. LOL!

Cat

Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback from
others).

I knew I lost weight when:
I could pull of my jeans w/o unbuttoning or un zipping them
I went into Lane Bryants (SP?) once to buy clothes, (for those that don't know,
fat woman's clothing store) and they had nothing that fit me, I was too big
(over a size 32) and went back after weight loss and they still had nothing to
fit me (the smallest size they carry is a 14) I was too small. (Damn, one of
the best days of my life!)
When my DD asked me to play w/ her at the park, and I did w/o getting winded or
even *thinking* about being tired.
When my husband put his arms around me and I fit perfectly.
I could go on and on w/ this one

~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

"Susan Jones-Anderson" wrote in message
...
My epiphany comes in small doses.
Example.. the stalls in women's rooms were once uncomfortably smaller
than what I would prefer. Now they are not.
Seatbelts in my pickup fit differently.
Right this very second my butt is not wider than the seat of my chair.
I can cross my legs again properly.
I can wrap my forearm under my breasts and actually rest my breasts on
my arm when I'm standing.

But I guess the most surprising is how I am treated by men. Without
sounding like a man basher (even though I broke up with the b/f
yesterday) we all know that the majority of men treat large women much
differently than thin women. Some are so shallow they wont smile or talk
to a big woman. Some wont even look a big woman in the eye, much less
open a door or smile. I am finding that more and more men are friendly
and look at me in a totally different light. I am a good looking gal,
one of those ones that was always said "she's got such a pretty face, if
she would just lose some weight.. she'd be perfect." So now that I am
trimmer and look MUCH healthier in my physical body and in my attitude.
I am getting *alot* of attention from men, even strangers.
Is this a good thing? *shrug* - I dunno, I am enjoying most of it and in
6 months I may feel differently. It does alot for my ego on one hand and
at the same time I'm sorta disgusted that they are so shallow.

Susan(single again
260/209/160

I'm so sorry to hear you've gone through such guy troubles. I'm at the point
in my life where a serious relationship has little interest to me. You're
right about guys though. I find it funny that I'm sitll the same person I
always was, yet they don't even realize it. Whatever; it doesn't mean I'm
going to pay more attention to them. : )

Martha

I have a closet full of clothes of different sizes. I sort of learned to
disregard all the sixes and eights as though they weren't even there for a
long time. Now the eights fit well and I can wear the sixes but not
comfortably. It's like having lots of new clothes without spending the
cash.

j


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"Perple Gyrl" wrote in message
...
I love that... I usually shop at Avenue. I remember when I was wearing a
30/32 about 5 years ago and how the clothes seemed to be getting tighter.
That is a very scary feeling. Now, the 18/20's I bought are getting too
baggy and I'll be into the 14/16's by next month. I am tall, big-boned
and
have a long torso/average length legs, that is why the smaller clothes fit
me better at my weight.... I can't wait until I am too small to fit into
any of their clothes. I should be there by early next year. I also have
a
ton of jeans that I can pull on and off w/out unbuttoning them. Well, I
did
have alot of them BEFORE I donated last month....

284/230/199(mini)/175
5'9.25"

--
Email me at:
perpleglow(AT)comcast.net


"Jarkat2002" wrote in message
...
Just wondering what some of your benchmarks have been (as in feedback
from
others).

I knew I lost weight when:
I could pull of my jeans w/o unbuttoning or un zipping them
I went into Lane Bryants (SP?) once to buy clothes, (for those that
don't
know,
fat woman's clothing store) and they had nothing that fit me, I was too
big
(over a size 32) and went back after weight loss and they still had
nothing to
fit me (the smallest size they carry is a 14) I was too small. (Damn,
one
of
the best days of my life!)
When my DD asked me to play w/ her at the park, and I did w/o getting
winded or
even *thinking* about being tired.
When my husband put his arms around me and I fit perfectly.
I could go on and on w/ this one

~Kat


"Rice Krispies. East meets west"
Cosmo Kramer

we all know that the majority of men treat large women much
differently than thin women. Some are so shallow they wont smile or talk
to a big woman. Some wont even look a big woman in the eye, much less
open a door or smile

This caught my eye because it so succinctly demonstrates the truth behind why
many sexually abused women become overweight. I am not saying that you were
sexually abused, Susan. But I am saying that it shows how often women's weight
can have a psychological component.

Maybe I see this because I identify with it. I am a survivor of sibling incest.
A few years ago, I lost the extra 30 pounds I wanted to lose. I was at a church
(of all places!) Christmas pagaent rehearsal, wearing jeans and a tshirt. This
parishioner came over to me and complimented me on how great I looked, which
was fine...until he leaned in and with a certain leer in his eye and a
particularly throaty voice, said: "I know what you are trying to do to me."
GULP. I suddenly felt numb and humiliated..again. I remember thinking "Oh
darn..(only I didn't say darn..lol) please don't let the weight come back
on...all 30 plus an extra 40.

....but it did. I wanted so much to be thin and attractive but the price of
having men crawl over me was too high of a price to pay. It was almost as if a
voice in my head told me if I wanted to be invisible and not hassled by pervs,
I needed to be padded.

I have lost 30 once again, with 40 to go. I feel stronger now and better able
to fight the urge to let my fears get in the way of my dreams.

Janey

I

"SeaMe42" wrote in message
...

I have lost 30 once again, with 40 to go. I feel stronger now and better
able
to fight the urge to let my fears get in the way of my dreams.

Janey
snip

Janey,

Keep the fight up everyday, every hour, every second - YOU are worth way
more than those old past dead fears and in retrospect you should have
told that guy to politely go f*ck himself.

And no.. I wasn't sexually abused. Thank God.

Susan
260/209/160

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