How can I force fat wife to lose weight

"Chris Braun" wrote in message
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I can't imagine my husband or I
saying something like this to one another, whether on the subject of
weight or any other perceived insufficiency. (There are times when I
might be tempted to go to this extreme on issues like his housekeeping
habits :-). But not really, of course.)

and don't forget sparkling water preferences...

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You funny

and you right.

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"Ignoramus28572" wrote in message
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On Sun, 3 Jul 2005 23:03:36 +0000, wes27278
wrote:
Also I told her that if she hasn't reached 130 lbs by january 2006 that
i would be filing for divorce.

Hard to say if you were trying to make a joke, but if you are serious,
expect legal surprises before January 2006.

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223/174.3/180

janice wrote:
On Mon, 04 Jul 2005 10:18:20 +0200, Berna Bleeker
wrote:

One of the things I love DH for, is that he has NEVER tried to push
me to lose weight, not even a little. I was overweight when we got
to know each other, and became obese later; but he loved me just the
same, and never said a word about my weight. And I don't think he
loves me any better now that I'm normal weight; though he does like
it, of course, and is very supportive of my efforts. :-)

Same here - I couldn't imagine staying in a relationship where the
amount of love depended on something like how much one of the parties
weighed, or any such similar consideration.

janice

so one should be physically attracted to an obese body, if one REALLY LOVES
one's partner right?

Manco schreef:
janice wrote:

On Mon, 04 Jul 2005 10:18:20 +0200, Berna Bleeker
wrote:


One of the things I love DH for, is that he has NEVER tried to push
me to lose weight, not even a little. I was overweight when we got
to know each other, and became obese later; but he loved me just the
same, and never said a word about my weight. And I don't think he
loves me any better now that I'm normal weight; though he does like
it, of course, and is very supportive of my efforts. :-)

Same here - I couldn't imagine staying in a relationship where the
amount of love depended on something like how much one of the parties
weighed, or any such similar consideration.

janice


so one should be physically attracted to an obese body, if one REALLY LOVES
one's partner right?

No; but there's more to love than physical attraction.

Berna (101.5/67.9/64 kg)

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\ \@/ / http://www.volksliedjes.nl

When my girlfriend, who was overweight by at least 80 lbs BTW, moved in with
me, I started gaining weight. We did so much together that we "grew"
together. I still love her, and though she left me, I still continue to be
friends with her. We have both lost weight, though she still has a long way
to go still. I wish we could have done this together. I don't see weight
being a valid reason to leave someone; love goes deeper than that. Weight
is not what separated us; we could talk about it freely between ourselves.
Unfortunately, we seemed to not care while together. Now that we are on our
own, we are more concerned how we look to others, so we are working at it.
Divorce over something like their weight, and being ashamed to be with
someone due to weight, is petty, and indicates they were never destined to
stay together anyway.

Doug


"janice" wrote in message
news
On Mon, 04 Jul 2005 03:53:28 GMT, Chris Braun
wrote:


I don't know why the OP doesn't just divorce his wife now. If the
only reason he's staying married to her is for the potential figure
she might regain, it hardly seems worth maintaining the relationship.
And if I were the wife and were told something like this, like you I'd
be ready to give up on the marriage. I can't imagine my husband or I
saying something like this to one another, whether on the subject of
weight or any other perceived insufficiency

My reaction too, except that I think the wife should be the one
divorcing the OP. She'd be better of without him, IMO.

janice

My hubby never seems to notice my weight After our 45 years together
I guess that we will make it This has caused me to think of what a
great blessing to have him. I was over 100 lbs over weight but he never
noticed.

Some will just not know what to do or where to go if they ended a
relationship. THIS would be me !

BUT I would NOT stay with a man who made fun of my weight!

glo

Gloria wrote:
My hubby never seems to notice my weight After our 45 years
together I guess that we will make it This has caused me to think
of what a great blessing to have him. I was over 100 lbs over weight
but he never noticed.

Some will just not know what to do or where to go if they ended a
relationship. THIS would be me !

BUT I would NOT stay with a man who made fun of my weight!

glo

he must not have much taste

On Mon, 4 Jul 2005 14:26:47 -0500, "Nunya B."
wrote:


"Chris Braun" wrote in message
.. .

I can't imagine my husband or I
saying something like this to one another, whether on the subject of
weight or any other perceived insufficiency. (There are times when I
might be tempted to go to this extreme on issues like his housekeeping
habits :-). But not really, of course.)

and don't forget sparkling water preferences...

Yeah, there's that :-).

Chris
262/130s/130s
started dieting July 2002, maintaining since June 2004